You know, being gay doesn't necessarily lead to depression in some "x leads to y" way. Some people seem to be the type who deflect criticism like water off a duck's back. It might be a matter of personality or of being secure in your own identity. Or knowing that no matter what others think, you've got your own posse of friends and family who love you, and whose love for you won't change.
Also, depression can be
completely disconnected from your sexuality. If you come from a dysfunctional family (both immediate and extended), as I do/did, the issues inherent in daily confrontations with a homophobic and heterosexist culture--constant assumptions strangers make that I've got a girlfriend, etc.--pale in comparison to the issues inherent in coming from that sort of upbringing. Read the book
Growing Up Gay in a Dysfunctional Family.
:tongue: Humorous aside: one of my straight brothers' ex-girlfriends bought that book for me when I was in college and my parents were still adjusting to the fact that their youngest son was/is queer. She gave it to me
at Christmas. You can probably imagine what I said--"It's what I've always wanted. Look, Mom, Dad: It even applies to me!" [I was a sarcastic bitchy late adolescent for far too long.]
:redface:
I deal with depression on a daily basis--it's like a lantern luring a moth to the flame. I don't know why it's so powerful, or so much a part of my life. I just know I have to turn my mind to something else or I'll begin wallowing in the feeling.
NCbear (who usually reads a book, watches a movie, or goes for some exercise when this happens)
P.S. Yes, as other posters have noted, depression and other related mental illnesses have long been known to be more prevalent among gay and bi people. What is not known is the cause: I tend to believe that the tremendously heavy societal pressure to be (or at least appear) heterosexual is the main culprit.