Are men with large penises more confident?

[7x6]

I reckon it's a factor for some of us. I'm very much a grower and not a shower and also seemed to go to school with some fucking freaks, all of this made me grow up thinking I was freakishly small. Later, porn, compliments from women and discussing my fascination with cock size with them taught me otherwise and this, combined with far more important compliments about technique mean that i'm totally confident that i'm surprisingly good in bed (at least for an old fat guy).

Meanwhile, the big guys I was at school with seemed to have varied experiences. One guy who is bigger soft than I am hard was certainly very proud of himself, to the point of having been arrested a couple of times for exposing his cock while drunk. It never seemed to help though, he had this weird almost sexless life and one of his few girlfriends made special effort to say how crap he was in bed, though to be fair last time I saw him he was with a much younger, very curvacious woman with a twinkle in her eye who couldn't seem to keep her hands off him while he looked very tired but happy... My own cousin who is huge (the last time I saw his cock he seemed to be a good 8" totally soft in the gym showers when we were 15 years old) is rather more worried that he hasn't been able to use it to father a child in the 18 years he's been married.

Meanwhile, one of the few guys from school who seemed as small as me reckons he sleapt with over 100 women before he settled down (and I believe him) while another friend whose had several exes describe him as
'like my little finger' has an incredible confidence, will always walk up to the best looking woman in any room and, 1 time in 10, gets a fuck out of it, not a great rate some would say but he does aproach five or six women a night, it all adds up...

 

[deleted105034]

The number one thing that seems to affect my confidence around women is how much I'm attracted to them! If I'm really smitten, then I'll pretty much either cower, or try too hard and seem really weird. If it's a girl who I don't feel particularly strongly about either way, I can be the most charming, confident Lothario on the planet....

Also the world is full of stories of gifted and talented individuals or even geniuses that think they're crap and totally screw up their lives with drugs and/or destructive behavior.

In conclusion, no.

 

[viking1]

Me, too. :biggrin1: I've never been a lover of humanity. Aren't a lot of people scary as hell?

Yes, much scarier than animals, or machinery.

 

[Male Bonding etc]

more confident about what? is the question....you simply do not wake up with confidence becasue you have a large penis...you have to build confidence...and there are extenuating circumstances based on what is going on in ya life that may or may not allow you to build this confidence....so this is not a yes or no situation.....and confidence can be fleeting once it is built ..the ego is fragile..one can lose confidence in oneself.....

I have to agree with Arliss here. We may find statistics that indicate a larger penis is preferred, but it is only one factor in a pile of factors that contribute to how we interact with the rest of humanity and how the rest of humanity interacts with us. A better sense of humor may have a higher preferred rate than a larger penis. Poor taste in clothing may detract more than a big dick can compensate for.

Obviously, up to a point, more dick is a plus, but it is not the only plus available to us. Our confidence is built on how those pluses add up to a total to which others react.

 

[D_Andy_Whorewall]

Confidence happens in the brain, and could have many contributing factors.

I'm average in penis size, but when I get in my '70s muscle car and head to the local cruise night, I'm as confident as hell.

When business is good and there's money in the bank, I'm confident.

When I buy a new suit that fits like a glove and looks to take off 10 pounds, Confidence.

Confidence is what you make it. No one sees my penis but me, I'm confident of that.

 

[B_superlarge]

Certainly penis size isn't the only factor that can affect confidence level. However, the confidence that penis size generates is of a different type than driving a nice car creates. Driving a nice car, dressing well, having money, good looks, attractive personality, etc, can help confidence, but those not likely to have the same positive effect on confidence in the bedroom that having a big penis will. Having good technique, lasting, positive reactions from her during intercourse - those are of the same type confidence builders that having big penis creates.

 

[quercusone]

Maybe...I can't decide.

 

[weylun]

I think men with larger penises have more confidence in the way they carry themselves because they know that they probably won't disappoint someone.

I want your opinions on this. It also seems that the men I know with large penises have more sexual parteners and higher sex drives and are more prone to having affairs. Just my experience...Is it because they themselves get "turned on" knowing about their size that they want to have sex more often??

I would really appreciate your insights on this. Thanks

Mmm, maybe having more "confidence" in finding a partner but not in everything else?

I have a somewhat small cock comparing to this site's standard but I can tell you that I've never met anyone having as much sex drive as my twin brother and I. My hubby thinks we should see a doctor about our extremely high sex drive. It's a problem.

 

[B_ScaredLittleBoy]

I'm not very confident, unless drunk. But maybe that's because my penis isn't large enough. Another inch and I'd be a social butterfly!

PS I do have lots of confidence in the bedroom, although not when talking to girls/first approaching. I have an anxious persona...heh.

 

[someotherguy]

I can't speak for everyone here but I always thought I had a small penis. I was always very shy and introverted since I was a teenager and thinking I had a small one made it even worse. I kept on thinking women were going to laugh at it. The past year I've been coming out of my shell and gaining the confidence I never had. But that fear of having a small dick was still there. I was still a virgin at 25 and had never shown it to anyone. Three months ago I decided to find out once and for all if I really was small. I posted pics here and found out that I was big. That was all it took to give me that last bit of confidence I needed. I started to go out and meet girls and just a few days ago I finally lost my virginity. I thought I was going to be nervous and shaking but I wasn't. I was calm and confident. I knew that I wasn't going to dissappoint her in the size department. She didn't comment on my size but did not waste time once I was hard to sit on it and ride me hard.

So, in my case, finding out I have a large penis gave me that final bit of confidence I lacked. Thanks LPSG!

 

[viking1]

You might find this interesting reading on the subject:

FAQ on human ethology

Extract from "Cold facts or hot passion, does size matter"

Phallus as a Reflection of the Hierarchy

Very interesting reading. Thanks!

 

[BIGBULL29]

Yes, much scarier than animals, or machinery.

or just about anything else for that matter:biggrin1:

 

[B_andyo]

well, all I hear is "how did you take all your clothes off so fast?'' I am not a bit shy after all. And yet I can't be more confident that what I am... yes I have cheated. Yes couple partners. And confidence come from someone that is not scared of showing off what they got ( not the penis though, but everything, your looks, body, everything! even ur personality)

 

[D_Andy_Whorewall]

Many years ago I had a good friend in another city that exploded in confidence.

BUT, the confusing part is, you'd never know by looking at him.

He was very overweight, but took very good care of himself. His hygene was examplulary.

He drove an average care, had an average job, lived in an average house, etc.

He had a small penis, but he knew what women wanted. You could have put him in Mel Gibsons place in that movie,What Women Want, from a few years ago.

He had an outstanding personality and was a very caring passionate person. Women where very drawn to him, especially sight unseen.

He dated a lady who worked with a relative of mine, and she always stated that he was a superior lover, even though he was lacking in the genital area.

Penis Size = Confidence ? Maybe in the locker room, but not in the real world.

 

[psidom]

i have been called large and i have been called average
and the final...pencil dick.
my soul is intact and i can fight very hard.
that makes me confident.

i can safely suspend my girlfriend with ropes
that makes me REALLY confident.

i am a professional alternative medicine practitioner
that also makes me money with ease which makes me confident.

i believe confidence is in your heart and mind.
look up down left right forward back all from inside
and you will meet the inner mirror.
having a HUGE cock does not hurt...but i would not say
big dick=confidence.

once i met this guy and he was bumming money off me
ALL the time...when he got a job i wound up loosing some of my clientele
due to his arrogance whilst answering my phone.
he was big...like these guys...giant cock all the girls love him.
he tried to kill himself...because he burned every bridge he had
with his overt amount of testoserone and no wisdom to bridle it.

 

[Jetaimemina84]

I think men with larger penises have more confidence in the way they carry themselves because they know that they probably won't disappoint someone.

maybe, but thats definitely not my case..
self confidence only comes from encourage and love.

 

[bigmuscles_averagecock]

I'd say there's a definite relationship between penis size and confidence, especially in the locker room but also at bars flirting with women, which would probably affect life outside of those settings as well. I mean, men who are overly confident, rudely so, are called "cocky."

 

[avg_joe]

I think men with larger penises have more confidence in the way they carry themselves because they know that they probably won't disappoint someone.

I want your opinions on this. It also seems that the men I know with large penises have more sexual parteners and higher sex drives and are more prone to having affairs. Just my experience...Is it because they themselves get "turned on" knowing about their size that they want to have sex more often??

I would really appreciate your insights on this. Thanks

True. Most straight guys, I would say 80%, with large penises have multiple sexual partners !!!

 

[lifesaver9]

for some yes this is true...good point.....(my only goal in life Curious is to pass and surpass ya number of posts)

I totally agree curiousone

 

[D_Andy_Whorewall]

I'd say there's a definite relationship between penis size and confidence, especially in the locker room but also at bars flirting with women, which would probably affect life outside of those settings as well. I mean, men who are overly confident, rudely so, are called "cocky."

But, in the real world, how many of us are at the Bars or in Locker Room settings ? And those that are, how much time out of their everyday life do they spend in those situations to bode their confidence ? 2% or even less ?

Yes there may be a spill over effect...but I think rarely.