are there any dom bottoms?

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  1. biguyli23

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    just wondering.
     
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    Yeah, and that is a huge turnoff for me. lol.
     
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    Dom bottom... sounds like an oxymoron to me.
     
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    yea thats what i was thinkin. hence the question haha
     
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    I'm so sub it's ridiculous. Dom bottoms are as rare as 100% Tops.
     
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    They do exist. . and yes there are submissive tops out there who like to be ordered, and made to do stuff.
     
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    Powerbottoms. :v One of my buddies is the epitome of a dom/powerbottom. x_x Kind of annoying - though I don't deal with Alpha personalities too well anyway. His boyfirend is purely a top while also purely submissive.
     
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    Dom Boms ?
     
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    Masculine agressive power bottom here...and plenty of guys love that about me. I don't jsut lie thee and meekly take it: I fuck back. ;-)
     
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    Depending on the mood, my bf becomes the dom or sub when he bottoms. But it's sometimes a pitting match between the two of us, whichever role we're in at the moment (as we're verse). It's a ton of fun and extremely hot.
     
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    Yes and they are called women
     
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    How does a submissive top work? I can conceive of one who literally devotes his whole time to fucking his bottom whilst neglecting his own desires.
     
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    Dominance is about a dynamic of dominant and submissive. There is old guard tradition and new guard. . and leather lifestyle 24-7 life.. dog cage and all.. LOL. . but seriously. . lighten up, and open your eyes people. The leather community has all kinds of different guys with different dynamics going on. People are into all kinds of different kinks and roles in them.

    In the bedroom, some people take different roles. Many people would assume that the male in the top role of sexual intercourse, would be the dominant one. . IE the (fucker), but that is not always the case. . Life under the "skittles rainbow", is flavorful. People have all kinds of sexual tastes. I have seen and heard it all...Ok. . I mean hell. . I have a Male-Trans-Female , post Op trans., best friend who is into Butch Lesbian women. . so Hey. . whatever floats your boat.. the dominance (role) is as varied or spectrum-like.. just like the roles of intercourse.. Top-Vers-bottom.. . Dom-Switch-Sub.

    As an example of a Sub-Top.. a "stud-man", .. The guy is viewed as a submissive to a dominant bottom. and in the sexual dynamic as a piece of meat.. a fucker to be milked and used. ... and is that any different really than the top, thinking a guy's ass is a (hole)?..the only difference is the assumption of the power-dynamic. I think too often people view things from a narrow focus.. Open your view a little more and you may see more. I gained some knowledge a long time ago about not assuming things about others. Just because someone is into something, that doesn't mean that they may meet all the stereotypes you have in your head about that kind of person. A complete other person is outside of stereotypes. in other words,.. just because someone has a preference for a role or activity, it doesn't mean they are that way, or want it that way all the time.
     
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    I've done that once.
     
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    Yes, there are Dom bottoms. I tie my boys up, I make them crawl in the house, I feed them out of a dog bowl. In almost every way I am a Dominant aggressive alpha Master. However, my asshole is my primary sensory organ, it is how I perceive the world around me. If you have to ask why then you have no idea of how great it feels. Why would I deny myself this great sexual outlet, input, whatever, just because I like to lead my boy on a leash? People are more diverse than labels.
     
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    And what does that matter? Are you some diamond in the rough that men should be begging you for sex? Or is this actually veiled contempt? I suspect the latter.
     
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    A bottom is someone who enjoys sexual things being done to him/her. A dom is someone who enjoys having a sexual partner who submits to him/her, and thus calls the shots. Two different types of things. A dom bottom is a guy who likes sexual things being done to him, but likes authoritatively calling the shots as to how, when, and where. They definitely exist and not an oxymoron at all. That would be like saying that "fem straight" is an oxymoron.
     
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    Simple: a top who accepts the role of doing to the bottom according to what the bottom instructs.
     
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    I'm not sure if this fits the definition of a dom bottom. Perhaps a better term is alpha bottom, or even selfish bottom.

    I have been in a relationship with a guy for more than a year now. He is 100% bottom, but he has a total alpha personality. He calls the shots. Everything happens according to his terms: who/what/when/where. Tops are there to serve him, please him, and to fill his hungry hole(s). Somehow he does it without arrogance, which allows him to get away with this kind of behavior. He has an undeniable sex appeal which certainly helps. He maintains a stable of eager tops who are willing to play by his rules. Somehow that makes him even more desirable.
     
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    Unfortunately I think porn these days is pushing an image of "dom" and "sub" that disregards the authentic D/s philosophy that the community has spent decades (perhaps more than a century) discerning and cultivating. :(
     
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