Are there any items a woman's sexual past that would stop you from sleeping with her?

[siempie]

Why would your feelings take a hit? I don't get it. I have slept with virigns and girls that don't have a virgin body part and I much prefer the later.

On first look it seems like it is more embarrassment on your part that you couldn't score, but she could.

Oh and you could be very right about that. I wasn't really busy with scoring in my younger years.

But I also see/saw (confused guy here) sex as something sacred. I was always pushing the open sex environment away from me. Don't wanna get into an entire psychodump here. Maybe I'll make a post about it later, if someone is interested.

Anyway, when I found out she had sex multiple times before me, not just with boyfriends (I could handle that, think its normal) but also had some 1 night stands. And she gave a 23 year old guy a handjob in his car when she was 13.

That was kinda hard for me to swallow. Especially since I was very careful with sex.

I was dumb. Realising my mistake doesn't make it easy though. I try to not get bothered. She understands me too.

 

[rob_just_rob]

A question for the straight guys.

Assume you meet a very attractive woman who is 30, you start dating and before you have sex she tells you about her past, are there any items from her sexual past that would stop you from sleeping with her?

For example:

To many sexual partners if sow how many? Depends on age. 30 isn't a lot for a 35 year old woman, it is for a 20 year old. IMO.
Sexual acts she has done in the past, orgies, gang-bangs, etc? Yes
Age when she lost her virginity? Yes - if older than 25.
Porn actress in past? Yes
Curable STD’s that she had in the past? Not sure.
She was a escort or prostitute in the past? Yes
She worked as stripper in the past? Probably
　

 

[mattbryant84]

not really as long as she didnt have any diseases, hadn't done it with any animals, or expect me to do anything i wasn't comfortable with..

we're talking sex here, not a relationship..

 

[hud01]

Oh and you could be very right about that. I wasn't really busy with scoring in my younger years.

But I also see/saw (confused guy here) sex as something sacred. I was always pushing the open sex environment away from me. Don't wanna get into an entire psychodump here. Maybe I'll make a post about it later, if someone is interested.

Anyway, when I found out she had sex multiple times before me, not just with boyfriends (I could handle that, think its normal) but also had some 1 night stands. And she gave a 23 year old guy a handjob in his car when she was 13.

That was kinda hard for me to swallow. Especially since I was very careful with sex.

I was dumb. Realising my mistake doesn't make it easy though. I try to not get bothered. She understands me too.

Ok that is cool. I never and still don't see sex as sacred. It really isn't.

 

[pacman1062]

As long as she is disease free, and wants to be with me, I think I could deal with anything on that list. Hell I'm 47, odds are not good that I'd get a 30 y.o. anyway. LOL.

 

[B_625girth]

if she willingly pulled a "train". i think i would pass.

 

[auto90403]

I can't imagine a woman I haven't yet fucked giving me (or any other potential sex partner) so many details about her sexual past that I would use it to decide whether to take her home. These question aren't ordinarily answered on your basic first or second date.

Maybe I just date the wrong girls or don't get out enough, but I've never had a girl tell me over dinner, as we're getting to know one another, that she's given her poodle a blowjob.

I have a sexual past I know better than to casually reveal. I assume women do likewise. To the extent her past matters, it's less what acts she may have engaged in than what those acts say about her mental health, morals, psychological/emotional stability and so on.

The two strippers I ever met struck me as trouble. I might have fucked them once or twice had things progressed but that would have been the extent of it. I didn't want to get drawn into their messy, shitty-lifestyle choices drama.

I once got fixed up on a blind date with a girl who'd just had her pictures taken to be a Playboy centerfold. (The magazine needed to wait for her to be old enough before the pics got published.) She was pretty (but not as hot as you'd think) and dumber than a box of rocks. That she seriously thought she was headed for a bigtime Hollywood career was more of a turn-off than anything she might have done with her clothes off.

The idea of me kissing the mouth that sucked Hugh Hefner's nasty geriatric cock made me retch.

 

[nicenycdick]

I don't question the past of 30 year old women. I just hope I'm in their future...

 

[siempie]

Just makes me sick visualising all the nasty acts she has or might have done. Why was that necesary is the only thing I can think of.... Even though I know the answer.

I just grew up with too much women yelling about how bad men are. So I treated them all as holy.

why the fuck did I do that

 

[nakedone]

I wouldn't pass on a woman just because of what she had done before, or how many times, or with whom. In fact, some of those things would turn me on.

I enjoy a relationship based on honesty. If a woman wanted to know how many women I had fucked before her, I would tell the truth. And I would expect her to do the same if I asked her.

About the only thing which would really harm a relationship with a woman is if she tried to use her past to hurt me. If she compared me to other guys without being asked, then that would be a negative.

I learned, after too many years, that a woman who has fucked a lot before I met her, and will admit to it, can be a much more enjoyable sexual partner than one who is still pretending to be "innocent", usually when she is not.

 

[helgaleena]

Siempie, 'holy' and 'do not touch' are not the same. There is such a concept as sexual worship. And I practice it as often as I can. Even when I am alone with myself.

I hope you and your woman partner can do the same. Actually, I'll bet that you do!

 

[MTHgasm]

I shouldn't know your sexual past like that. And no there's nothing that would keep me from pleasuring you if I loved you.

 

[TheRob]

If she has contracted HIV in her past, I will probubly not sleep with her