Are these really things all women want?

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  1. sbat

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    1. No! It makes me self-aware
    4. No! Lend it to me if I'm cold, but don't give it to me. I wouldn't wear it unless i was desperate. A man's sweatshirt fits me like a circus tent and makes me look huge.
    14. No! How old are we?
    15. When my friends say what?
    27. I once punched my husband in the face for tickling me. I'm not kidding. Tickling makes me panicky. The only time I accepted tickling was when I noticed this one particular guy could not have sex that didn't involve forced tickling. It was fascinating.
    38. Really? Was this written by a 1-year-old?
    49. No! This tickles!
    57. If he does this, we had better be inside watching the rain, not paused outside getting soaked in it.

    Most of the rest are gestures I wouldn't mind, but much of it isn't something I actively want.


    I would avoid any advice which over-generalizes, and claims to apply to ALL of any group of people.
     
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    number 19 is my only must do.. i lurve spoon hugs :redface:

    oh, and number 4.. sort of.. is more fun to steal the sweatshirt.
     
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    I have to admit that though I started to read through the list thoroughly, I got bored with it so I began skimming. It sounds in parts as if it's written by someone who hasn't even reached their 20s yet.

    The only must have I picked out from the list was to be sure to laugh/smile with me. A lot.

    Oh and tickling! It's kind of a weird thing of mine. :yup:
     
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    I can confidently say that I have more often than not wanted almost every item on this list - if not all. This doesn't mean that every man has to do all of these things on a daily basis, nor does it make me needy. I love attention and affection, so I typically date attentive men.
     
  6. B_Mademoiselle Rouge

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    Did a fucking 12 year old write this list? It sounds like something from a teen magazine. I will answer with my own thoughts

    1. Touch her waist
    Not if your hands are cold

    2. Actually talk to her
    How do you not actually talk to someone?

    3. Share secrets with her
    Like what? What kinds of things do men call secrets?

    4. Give her of your sweatshirts
    Not the one with the pit stains

    5. Kiss her slowly –Are you remembering this?
    What if he kisses too slowly?

    6. Hug her
    Hugs are good

    7. Hold her
    The person who wrote this has some fear of someone not touching them all the time obviously.

    8. Laugh with her
    To the emotional basketcase who wrote these questions: I'm not laughing with you, i'm laughing at you.

    9. Invite her somewhere
    Like where? How about in the bathroom when you are pinching loaves.

    10. Hangout with her and your friends together
    Please don't torture your friends by subjecting them to this woman. She just wants to publicly immasculate you. If you are lucky, you may not get in a fight with her in front of your friends, so they can call you a pussy later.

    11. Smile with her
    Is she picking serial killers? Maybe she should be.

    12. Take pictures with her
    Mmmm, ok. Maybe he's not really there and that's why he's not showing up in the pictures.

    13. Pull her onto your lap
    Not if she has a boney ass.

    14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back
    Yes, keep denying it so the bitch will never stop arguing. Good idea. You just might actually start to piss her off in the "no i love you more" argument and please make sure this isnt in front of your friends.

    15. When her friends say i love her more than you, deny it
    Why are you argung with *her* friends about who loves her more? She obviously hangs out with her own petty argumentitive friends. What if you don't love her more than her friends? Lie about it anyway? Even better, after you've lied about how much you actually don't love her, buy her an engagement ring. So she can be a BRIDEZILLA.

    16. Are you thinking of someone?
    No.

    17. Always hug her and say hi whenever you see her
    What kind of guy runs in to his girlfriend and doesn't say hi?

    18. Kiss her unexpectedly
    You can't catch someone unexpectedly when they are always expecting it, like the gal who wrote this.

    19. Hug her from behind around the waist
    Especially if she's choking on food.

    20. Tell her she’s beautiful
    So she can say "No im not! You are lying to me!"

    21. Tell her the way you feel about her
    I would LOVE to tell this woman how i feel about her.

    22. Open doors for her, walk her to her car- it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman
    Nothing wrong with this one. Even a stopped clock is right twice a day.

    23. Tell her she’s your everything – ONLY if you mean it
    And even if you don't

    24. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her- if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT- so dont keep on asking her just hug her
    Don't ask her if you know something is wrong, she wants you to keep asking her. If she feels compelled to share her passive aggressive behavior, she can share what the fuck is wrong or go somewhere else with that cabinet slamming, huffy puffy garbage.

    25. Make her feel loved
    If she isn't feeling loved by now...

    26. Kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know
    She probably thinks every woman you are around in your life is secretly wanting to fuck you. This should make them all jealous and that will make her feel better.

    27. WE MIGHT DENY IT BUT WE ACTUALLY LIKE IT AND KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE US
    If you like it, why are you denying it? If someone said they didn't like to be tickled, what kind of reverse psychology is that if you really want to be tickled? Ugh.

    28. DON’T lie to her! DON’T cheat on her
    DUH!!

    29. take her ANYWHERE she wants
    Even if you don't have the money, take her anywhere she wants. Now when you don't have bill money later, try to cover that up as much as possible because she doesn't want to hear about your money problems.

    30. Text messege or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at work {or school}, and how much you MISS her
    Yes, because everything you did yesterday, such as kissing her in front of all your friends and females everywhere you went, touching her, pulling her onto your lap, hugging her, kissing her slowly.....none of that meant anything to show her you cared.

    31. Be there for her whenever she needs you, & even when she doesn’t need you, just be there so she’ll know that she can ALWAYS count on you. –ARE YOU STILL READING THIS? YOU BETTER BECAUSE, IT’S IMPORTANT
    Ok, be there when she needs you? That's 100% of the time isnt it? How the hell are you supposed to take a shit? Oh yeah, invite her somewhere.

    32. Hold her close when she’s cold so she can hold YOU too
    Yeah, tell her when you are cold so the gal who is only thinking about herself 100% of the time can sit there with her arms pulled inside your sweatshirt you gave her.

    33. When you are ALONE hold her close and kiss her
    Ok so when you are alone, hold her and kiss her, when you aren't alone, hold her and kiss her.

    34. Kiss her on the CHEEK; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her)
    Sorry, this makes no sense. Just because someone kisses you on the cheek it doesnt mean they are going to suck your face off next. Doesn't mean that they want to or about to do anything.

    35. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her LIGHTLY
    No, because she's going to say "Ouch you're on my hair!" and get pissed off.

    36. Don't EVER tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you’re mad. If shes upset, comfort her.
    I thought we were supposed to laugh together? Now no jokes. Fuck!

    37. When she leaves, pull her back. –REMEMBER ALL THESE THINGS WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER NEXT
    Yes, don't let the obsessed, insecure, insane, bitch leave. You are supposed to be with her when you want to be and even when you don't want to be. And remember everything, and the next 23 rules we are about to throw at you.

    38. When people DISS her, stand up for her
    Yes, this is when you tell your guy friends "No it's not like that all the time" when they tell you how much they are concerned about the psycho you are dating.

    39. Look deep into her EYES and tell her you love her
    Yes, even if you don't. Just say it. That's all that matters.

    40. Lay down under the STARS and put her head on your chest so you can cuddle (i think this one is most romantic tip J
    And pray that a bird drops a huge one on her sweatshirt you gave her. So you can laugh together.

    41. When walking next to each other lightly touch her HAND and softly grab it
    Do this even if you are holding her purse and all the bags full of clothes she insisted you watch her try on.

    42. When you hug her HOLD her in your arms as LONG as possible–MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED
    Right before you drop her off at her therapist's office.

    43. Call or text her EVERY night to wish her sweet dreams
    Just copy and paste whatever it is you say to her when you text her in the morning to remind her.

    44. Take her for LONG walks at night
    Make sure she doesn't forget your leash.

    45. ALWAYS remind her how much you love her
    Once again, whatever you are texting her will work.....

    46. COMFORT her when she cries and wipe away her tears
    Daily.

    47. Rub her back–feels good
    LOL i read this as "Rub her cock, feels good"

    48. Give her your coat if she’s cold
    I'll let this one slide.

    49. Write letters on her back with your finger
    WTF?!

    50. Let her sit on your lap
    Wasn't she already there when you pulled her onto your lap earlier?

    51. DON’T poke her hard…but if you want to mess around just do it lightly
    Yeah don't leave bruises, her friends might think you are beating her.

    52. HOLD her HAND in PUBLIC
    It's hard to do when you are being walked on your leash on all fours.

    53. Even if she looks BAD one day tell her she’s BEAUTIFUL
    I don't even know how to respond to that one.

    54. Keep conversations flowing…talk about anything usually they just go along with it
    Be sure to ask her about her cramps & menstrual clots. Those types really like that sort of caring.

    55. If their hair is in their face move it out of her face and then kiss her passionately and gently
    Passionately or gently? Take your damn pick. You can't have both.

    56. Surprisingly sneek up on her and hug her from behind–loves it
    So she can say you scared her and then start crying where you have to hold her again.

    57. Kiss her in the rain.(this one is my favourite … somebody listening??
    No, I'm not.

    58. Pick her up like in The Notebook and kiss her
    Unless she's really heavy.

    59. Slow dance with no music
    And be sure to let her put her feet on your feet like a child does with her Daddy, because you are her Daddy now bitch.

    60. Don’t ignore her or be nervous around her–everythings going to be okay
    Yeah, be totally not nervous around an insane, paranoid, obsessed psycho bitch. Yeah.

    I will add #61 to the list.

    GET THE FUCK OUT of that relationship before you lose every semblance of your manhood, before she has you scrubbing the toilet with a brush attached to your leather facemask as foreplay. This is after she's cut your balls off, fried them in bacon grease and fed them to your young.

    Now I'm going to go back to watching Fight Club, because it took me an hour to reply.
     
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    1. Touch her waist.
    why?
    2. Actually talk to her.
    well duh!

    3. Share secrets with her.
    nope

    4. Give her of your sweatshirts
    NO

    5. Kiss her slowly –Are you remembering this?
    no

    6. Hug her.
    sometimes

    7. Hold her.
    sometimes

    8. Laugh with her.
    yes

    9. Invite her somewhere.
    not especially

    10. Hangout with her and your friends together
    nope

    11. Smile with her.
    yes

    12. Take pictures with her
    hell no!

    13. Pull her onto your lap.
    no. i'm not a child tyvm.

    14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.
    oh ffs NO!

    15. When her friends say i love her more than you, deny it.
    no

    16. Are you thinking of someone?
    no

    17. Always hug her and say hi whenever you see her.
    no

    18. Kiss her unexpectedly.
    no

    19. Hug her from behind around the waist.
    no

    20. Tell her she’s beautiful.
    no

    21. Tell her the way you feel about her.
    not especially

    22. Open doors for her, walk her to her car- it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman.
    no

    23. Tell her she’s your everything – ONLY if you mean it.
    no

    24. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her- if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT- so dont keep on asking her just hug her
    no

    25. Make her feel loved.
    duh

    26. Kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know.
    no

    27. WE MIGHT DENY IT BUT WE ACTUALLY LIKE IT AND KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE US
    hell NO

    28. DON’T lie to her! DON’T cheat on her
    obviously

    29. take her ANYWHERE she wants
    no

    30. Text messege or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at work {or school}, and how much you MISS her
    NO

    31. Be there for her whenever she needs you, & even when she doesn’t need you, just be there so she’ll know that she can ALWAYS count on you. –ARE YOU STILL READING THIS? YOU BETTER BECAUSE, IT’S IMPORTANT
    no

    32. Hold her close when she’s cold so she can hold YOU too.
    ok

    33. When you are ALONE hold her close and kiss her.
    duh

    34. Kiss her on the CHEEK; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her).
    no

    35. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her LIGHTLY.
    no

    36. Don’t EVER tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you’re mad. If shes upset, comfort her.
    no

    37. When she leaves, pull her back. –REMEMBER ALL THESE THINGS WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER NEXT
    no

    38. When people DISS her, stand up for her.
    yes

    39. Look deep into her EYES and tell her you love her.
    *pukes*

    40. Lay down under the STARS and put her head on your chest so you can cuddle (i think this one is most romantic tip J )
    no

    41. When walking next to each other lightly touch her HAND and softly grab it.
    no

    42. When you hug her HOLD her in your arms as LONG as possible–MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED
    no, let me go so i can breathe now.

    43. Call or text her EVERY night to wish her sweet dreams.
    i'm turning my phone off

    44. Take her for LONG walks at night.
    no

    45. ALWAYS remind her how much you love her
    :rolleyes:
    46. COMFORT her when she cries and wipe away her tears
    no. NO. leave me to cry in peace

    47. Rub her back–feels good
    ok

    48. Give her your coat if she’s cold-
    no

    49. Write letters on her back with your finger
    why??

    50. Let her sit on your lap
    why???

    51. DON’T poke her hard…but if you want to mess around just do it lightly.
    :rolleyes:

    52. HOLD her HAND in PUBLIC
    ok

    53. Even if she looks BAD one day tell her she’s BEAUTIFUL
    no

    54. Keep conversations flowing…talk about anything usually they just go along with it.
    no

    55. If their hair is in their face move it out of her face and then kiss her passionately and gently.
    no

    56. Surprisingly sneek up on her and hug her from behind–loves it.
    no i fucking well don't and i might hurt you.

    57. Kiss her in the rain.(this one is my favourite … somebody listening?? )
    why?

    58. Pick her up like in The Notebook and kiss her
    no

    59. Slow dance with no music

    that's just fucking stupid

    60. Don’t ignore her or be nervous around her–everythings going to

    be okay
    ahahahaha!





    what a pile of horseshit! it really fucks me off when fluff brained ninnies claim to be writing about what i really want.
     
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    I did LOL for this one.


     
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    ]1. Touch her waist.
    No ta!
    2. Actually talk to her.
    Obviously

    3. Share secrets with her.
    Guys choice

    4. Give her of your sweatshirts
    No ta,i have my own though i don't suit them

    5. Kiss her slowly –Are you remembering this?
    Yes,i do like slow kisses actually

    6. Hug her.
    Sometimes

    7. Hold her.
    Sometimes

    8. Laugh with her.
    Obviously

    9. Invite her somewhere.
    Sometimes,we all need space to do our own thing.

    10. Hangout with her and your friends together
    Hmm,sometimes depending on the situation

    11. Smile with her.
    yes

    12. Take pictures with her
    Yes

    13. Pull her onto your lap.
    sometimes

    14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.
    WTF!!

    15. When her friends say i love her more than you, deny it.
    Errr no!

    16. Are you thinking of someone?
    Of course

    17. Always hug her and say hi whenever you see her.
    Not always

    18. Kiss her unexpectedly.
    Yes,i like that sometimes but DON'T SMUDGE MY LIPSTICK!:eek:

    19. Hug her from behind around the waist.
    Sometimes

    20. Tell her she’s beautiful.
    Depends on the situation

    21. Tell her the way you feel about her.
    Not especially

    22. Open doors for her, walk her to her car- it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman.
    I do like a gent though i'm capable of doing things for myself

    23. Tell her she’s your everything – ONLY if you mean it.
    No

    24. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her- if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT- so dont keep on asking her just hug her
    Yes

    25. Make her feel loved.
    Obviously

    26. Kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know.
    No

    27. WE MIGHT DENY IT BUT WE ACTUALLY LIKE IT AND KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE US
    Not unless a kick in the goolies is wanted.

    28. DON’T lie to her! DON’T cheat on her
    obviously

    29. take her ANYWHERE she wants
    Not always

    30. Text messege or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at work {or school}, and how much you MISS her
    Yes sometimes

    31. Be there for her whenever she needs you, & even when she doesn’t need you, just be there so she’ll know that she can ALWAYS count on you. –ARE YOU STILL READING THIS? YOU BETTER BECAUSE, IT’S IMPORTANT
    Not always

    32. Hold her close when she’s cold so she can hold YOU too.
    ok

    33. When you are ALONE hold her close and kiss her.
    duh

    34. Kiss her on the CHEEK; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her).
    no

    35. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her LIGHTLY.
    no

    36. Don’t EVER tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you’re mad. If shes upset, comfort her.
    yes

    37. When she leaves, pull her back. –REMEMBER ALL THESE THINGS WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER NEXT
    no

    38. When people DISS her, stand up for her.
    yes

    Yes to 39 as well


    40. Lay down under the STARS and put her head on your chest so you can cuddle (i think this one is most romantic tip J )
    :rolleyes:

    41. When walking next to each other lightly touch her HAND and softly grab it.
    If you're dating then yes

    42. When you hug her HOLD her in your arms as LONG as possible–MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED
    Sometimes

    43. Call or text her EVERY night to wish her sweet dreams.
    Thats nice

    44. Take her for LONG walks at night.
    no

    45. ALWAYS remind her how much you love her
    :confused:

    46. COMFORT her when she cries and wipe away her tears
    Yes sometimes

    47. Rub her back–feels good
    ok

    48. Give her your coat if she’s cold-
    no

    49. Write letters on her back with your finger
    why??

    50. Let her sit on your lap
    Sometimes

    51. DON’T poke her hard…but if you want to mess around just do it lightly.
    :rolleyes:

    52. HOLD her HAND in PUBLIC
    ok

    53. Even if she looks BAD one day tell her she’s BEAUTIFUL
    Obviously

    54. Keep conversations flowing…talk about anything usually they just go along with it.
    no

    55. If their hair is in their face move it out of her face and then kiss her passionately and gently.
    Not in public pulease!

    56. Surprisingly sneek up on her and hug her from behind–loves it.
    I do sometimes

    57. Kiss her in the rain.(this one is my favourite … somebody listening?? )
    why?

    58. Pick her up like in The Notebook and kiss her
    no

    59. Slow dance with no music

    LOL!

    60. Don’t ignore her or be nervous around her–everythings going to

    be okay

    Soddin hell!





    what a pile of horseshit! it really fucks me off when fluff brained ninnies claim to be writing about what i really want.
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  10. dolfette

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    23. Tell her she’s your everything

    how unhealthy would that be? seriously! i don't want to be anyone's everything unless i gave birth to them and they're less than a few weeks old.
     
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    Lol, when i clicked that link i started reading a few of these things and thought, omg i better get out of here, then i went on to read the replies.

    A special thanks to Mademoiselle Rouge, you really had me laughing.
     
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    My buddy in Thailand sent me the link. He's Thai but grew up with me in the US, and tells me that westerners tend to be more mature at the same age than Thai people. Apparently, this list is a pretty golden guide to getting you laid there if you're a Thai man - after 4 or 5 months of dating...
     
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    "Diss"? 4realz?

    When she says, "I love you more", get he hell out of there because someone who thinks love is a competition isn't someone with whom you can have a stable, healthy relationship with.

     
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    Here's my list:

    1. Money
     
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    This list reminds me of my father's relationship with my stepmother, except crazier, since they're both just as needy and naive, AND ABSOLUTELY COO-COO!!!
     
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    1. Touch her waist.
    I like this a lot actually, when we are walking through doors or into a store or diner, he puts his hand into the small of my back to guide me or hand on one side of my waist.

    2. Actually talk to her
    Talking is important, but sometimes silence is better

    3. Share secrets with her.
    Secrets? Like secret desires, things he wants out of life, his favorite dogs name when he was a child and how he felt when he lost it.

    4. Give her of your sweatshirts
    This just happens sometimes, especially when I'm cold and I have nothing else to put on and I'm at his place, etc.

    5. Kiss her slowly
    Slowly can be good, but it's not the only way to kiss.

    6. Hug her.
    Sure

    7. Hold her.
    Sure

    8. Laugh with her.
    This is a must

    9. Invite her somewhere.
    Sure at 2am, let's go to the beach or "get up let's go have breakfast"

    10. Hangout with her and your friends together
    I think at some point everyone does this, but having friends of my own and his own and spending time apart is needed.

    11. Smile with her.
    Smiling is like laughter, it's just something that happens when I am happy, I would think it would be the same for whomever I am with.

    12. Take pictures with her
    I have pictures of my steady partners and myself. I don't really find this strange.

    13. Pull her onto your lap.
    My ex used to do this a lot.

    14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.
    First of all I do not think I would ever say this, it is alittle silly.

    15. When her friends say i love her more than you, deny it
    This one is strange.

    16. Are you thinking of someone?
    What the heck kind of question is that?

    17. Always hug her and say hi whenever you see her.
    When I'm in love I want to be close to that person, so I can understand maybe a hello kiss whenever I see him.

    18. Kiss her unexpectedly.
    This has happened to me in the past.

    19. Hug her from behind around the waist.
    This has happened as well. Especially if I am cooking or doing something, I do not find the idea of him sliding his hands around my waist and pulling me back into his body strange at all.

    20. Tell her she’s beautiful.
    Everyone I have ever dated has told me I'm beautiful

    21. Tell her the way you feel about her.
    This happens when he says "I love you," for the very first time

    22. Open doors for her, walk her to her car- it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman.
    This is nice, I like this very much.

    23. Tell her she’s your everything – ONLY if you mean it.
    I don't really think this is something that needs to be said.

    24. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her- if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT
    I don't really find this strange, if I seem like somethings wrong people ask me, if I say no, drop it.

    25. Make her feel loved.
    This is a given.

    26. Kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know.
    This is obsessive and strange. I would rather kiss in private or when I don't really notice or care that others are around.

    27. WE MIGHT DENY IT BUT WE ACTUALLY LIKE IT AND KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE US
    Yes to this for me!

    28. DON’T lie to her! DON’T cheat on her
    Yes and Yes!

    29. take her ANYWHERE she wants
    Hmmm, are we talking "I want to go to the store," or "one day I would really love to see Alaska?" I can take myself to the store anyday. One day going to Alaska together would be special.

    30. Text messege or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at work {or school}, and how much you MISS her
    Been there, had it done, it can be sweet when you do not live together, to have a goodmorning, I've had them say I miss you, I love you, have a great day, etc. Not an everyday need.

    31. Be there for her whenever she needs you, & even when she doesn’t need you, just be there so she’ll know that she can ALWAYS count on you. –
    This has been a given during good parts of my relantionships. Someone dies and he's there for me. I fall out of the back of his truck and he's there for me:tongue:

    32. Hold her close when she’s cold so she can hold YOU too.
    This happens in the winter a lot, my partners have always spooned with me.

    33. When you are ALONE hold her close and kiss her.
    Yeah, and? This is what some lovers do.

    34. Kiss her on the CHEEK; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her).
    Meh, just kiss me no need for hints.

    35. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her LIGHTLY.
    ummm, this is highschool stuff, I'm an adult if we paid $30 to get into the movie we can kiss later

    36. Don’t EVER tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you’re mad. If shes upset, comfort her.
    This one is strange, I cannot say I have ever had something like this happen. The only thing it brings to mind is a sarcastic sense of humor, which I do not care for.

    37. When she leaves, pull her back.
    This has happened to me before, I go to pull away and he pulls me back for another kiss, etc.

    38. When people DISS her, stand up for her
    I don't think I have ever had someone "DISS" me IRL. And I wouldn't be around people who did? So this is meaningless to me.

    39. Look deep into her EYES and tell her you love her.
    And this is normal

    40. Lay down under the STARS and put her head on your chest so you can cuddle
    I have done this

    41. When walking next to each other lightly touch her HAND and softly grab it
    This has happened to me

    42. When you hug her HOLD her in your arms as LONG as possible–MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED
    Unless it's hot, then get off me!:tongue: Seriously this one is alittle obsessive to me. Sometimes there is that extra long hug where he doesn't seem to want to let me go, but I have seen others hug like this.

    43. Call or text her EVERY night to wish her sweet dreams.
    When my SO's were ever away from me, they did this. I didn't ask for it.

    44. Take her for LONG walks at night.
    I have done this several times. Especially on the beach.

    45. ALWAYS remind her how much you love her
    Why do I need to be reminded?

    46. COMFORT her when she cries and wipe away her tears
    I have never had a man not comfort me if I were upset. I don't have to ask for it.

    47. Rub her back–feels good
    Yeah and I rub his back too.

    48. Give her your coat if she’s cold
    I try to bring my own, but this has happened

    49. Write letters on her back with your finger
    This has happened to me

    50. Let her sit on your lap
    And? Most of the time they have pulled me into their lap.

    51. DON’T poke her hard…but if you want to mess around just do it lightly
    Sometimes I want to be poked hard:redface: Whats with all the lightly stuff?

    52. HOLD her HAND in PUBLIC
    Sometimes this is nice, I see a lot of couples doing this.

    53. Even if she looks BAD one day tell her she’s BEAUTIFUL
    Men always tell me I'm beautiful at the strangest times. I can recall one time after tumbling backwards flipping a fourwheeler and being covered in mud. Pulling my helmet off and having him say "your so beautiful," what I really felt was so dirty:tongue:

    54. Keep conversations flowing…talk about anything usually they just go along with it.
    Silence is beautiful

    55. If their hair is in their face move it out of her face and then kiss her passionately and gently.
    I have had guys move my hair out of my face, but I normally do it myself. The kissing this is a strange add on here.

    56. Surprisingly sneek up on her and hug her from behind–loves it
    This happens, but please do not pop me on my butt if I'm standing at the stove:mad:

    57. Kiss her in the rain.(this one is my favourite … somebody listening?? )
    Not only have I been kissed in the rain, I have slow danced in the rain, totally his choice at the time. It was kind of beautiful. One of the more special moments of my life, if not the most special so far,

    58. Pick her up like in The Notebook and kiss her
    I prefer the backed into the wall scene where they are throwing clothes everywhere and trying to get naked faster.

    59. Slow dance with no music
    I have done this, while he hummed a song in my ear.

    60. Don’t ignore her or be nervous around her–everythings going to be okay
    Isn't everyone nervous when the first meet each other?


    I tried to make each of these subjective for myself and my experiences. Overall the list seems like everyday moments that I have experienced with partners. I have never looked or asked for any of these things, they have just happened. Maybe I have dated people who express their affection in some of these ways. I have never yearned for anything because it has always been given to me.
     
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    1. Touch her waist.
    I like it when he touches me there.
    2. Actually talk to her.
    Yeah, not just pretend you're listening to me, actually acknowledge and participate in a conversation that I'm having with you.

    3. Share secrets with her.
    I love knowing everything about him and learning about him so secrets are great.

    4. Give her of your sweatshirts
    When he's gone, I like to sleep with an undershirt he's worn. That's about as far as I have gone with the clothing thing.

    5. Kiss her slowly –Are you remembering this?
    Yes passionate kisses.

    6. Hug her.
    I love being in his arms.

    7. Hold her.
    I love being in his arms

    8. Laugh with her.
    It feels so good to laugh with him, we laugh so hard and some of the dumbest things ever, I love our time together.

    9. Invite her somewhere.
    Sometimes, I love spending time with him but at the same time we both need space to do our own things. We can't always smother each other.

    10. Hangout with her and your friends together
    I've never done this. It'd be nice occasionally.

    11. Smile with her.
    yes

    12. Take pictures with her
    Yes

    13. Pull her onto your lap.
    I love sitting on his lap.

    14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.
    We always do this...

    15. When her friends say i love her more than you, deny it.
    My friends never love me more than he does. (they aren't the ones in my bed)

    16. Are you thinking of someone?
    I'm not sure what this question has to do with the things all women want...

    17. Always hug her and say hi whenever you see her.
    Always hug me, kiss me and hold me when you first see me.

    18. Kiss her unexpectedly.
    Surprise kisses are the best!

    19. Hug her from behind around the waist.
    I like this too.

    20. Tell her she’s beautiful.
    I always like to hear this, even if I deny it.

    21. Tell her the way you feel about her.
    Please, even if you think what you are going to say will hurt me, I'd rather know than guess.

    22. Open doors for her, walk her to her car- it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman.
    I can do things for myself but I love it when I'm out with him and he does these things for me, it makes me feel special, like I'm worth being out with.

    23. Tell her she’s your everything – ONLY if you mean it.
    If you really mean it then say it, if you don't then tell me I'm not worth it and move on.

    24. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her- if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT- so dont keep on asking her just hug her
    THANK GOD! I hate it when a guy keeps bugging me it pisses me off even more if I say I don't want to talk about it then I fucking don't, don't press the issue, you may or may not be the cause of my issue but if I choose not to talk about it and you are not my issue you MAY soon become included in what ever issue I'm having. Just leave it alone.

    25. Make her feel loved.
    Duh. *bonks head*

    26. Kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know.
    Kiss me when you feel it warrants a need not because you just want to show off.

    27. WE MIGHT DENY IT BUT WE ACTUALLY LIKE IT AND KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE US
    I don't like tickles unless I'm in the mood to play like that or if we're already playing around in bed.

    28. DON’T lie to her! DON’T cheat on her
    Just don't LIE about anything, if you want to see other people, tell me, if you want to spend time with someone else, tell me. PLEASE tell me the TRUTH, it is then up to me to make a decision if I want to continue to see you or not based on that TRUTH at least I know. Trust is not something that's easily earned back with me. So hold it in the highest regard when it comes to me.

    29. take her ANYWHERE she wants
    If I ask and I want to go with YOU, take me.

    30. Text messege or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at work {or school}, and how much you MISS her
    I would love this...

    31. Be there for her whenever she needs you, & even when she doesn’t need you, just be there so she’ll know that she can ALWAYS count on you. –ARE YOU STILL READING THIS? YOU BETTER BECAUSE, IT’S IMPORTANT
    I need that more than ever. I need to know he is there for me, even if he doesn't feel like hearing what I have to say, I need to know he cares enough to sit and listen and REALLY listen and respond to me.

    32. Hold her close when she’s cold so she can hold YOU too.
    yes

    33. When you are ALONE hold her close and kiss her.
    yes

    34. Kiss her on the CHEEK; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her).
    Sometimes I'd rather just be kissed though.

    35. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her LIGHTLY.
    I think that's something that teenagers usually do, I get enough time with him to have real adult moments, I don't need to have my attention drawn away from a movie we paid for. He can hold my hand or put his arm around me and then after we go home from the movies we'll finish what we started.

    36. Don’t EVER tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you’re mad. If shes upset, comfort her.
    yes

    37. When she leaves, pull her back. –REMEMBER ALL THESE THINGS WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER NEXT
    Usually, when I leave it's a clear message to leave me the fuck alone or I'm going to rip your face to shreds and tear you a new asshole. So pulling me back could really be dangerous for you.

    38. When people DISS her, stand up for her.
    yes

    39. Look deep into her EYES and tell her you love her.

    Yes


    40. Lay down under the STARS and put her head on your chest so you can cuddle (i think this one is most romantic tip J )
    I have never done this but I'd love to do it. I love laying on his chest and listening to his heartbeat.

    41. When walking next to each other lightly touch her HAND and softly grab it.
    I love holding his hand where ever we go, I love letting people know I'm his.

    42. When you hug her HOLD her in your arms as LONG as possible–MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED
    When he holds me, I feel like the world stops and I feel safe in his arms, I never want him to let me go.

    43. Call or text her EVERY night to wish her sweet dreams.
    Thats sweet, I love that.

    44. Take her for LONG walks at night.
    If we have time walking or going anywhere is good as long as it's with him.

    45. ALWAYS remind her how much you love her
    I never get tired of hearing how much he loves me.

    46. COMFORT her when she cries and wipe away her tears
    Yes, I want to know he can make it alright even if he really can't.

    47. Rub her back–feels good
    yes, yes it does.

    48. Give her your coat if she’s cold-
    only if he stays in it.

    49. Write letters on her back with your finger
    This is fun when you're playing, I do this to him when I rub his back and write messages to him to figure out, we usually end up laughing because he can't figure out what the hell I'm trying to say.

    50. Let her sit on your lap
    Didn't I say earlier I love sitting on his lap?

    51. DON’T poke her hard…but if you want to mess around just do it lightly.
    I love light stuff but I love rough stuff too, I'll let you know which I'm in the mood for by my actions.

    52. HOLD her HAND in PUBLIC
    Yes, tell the world I'm yours.

    53. Even if she looks BAD one day tell her she’s BEAUTIFUL
    I'll roll my eyes and laugh at you but I'll still listen, I promise.

    54. Keep conversations flowing…talk about anything usually they just go along with it.
    no if there's nothing to talk about, I'm content sitting with him just in silence because I love him that much.

    55. If their hair is in their face move it out of her face and then kiss her passionately and gently.
    Sure

    56. Surprisingly sneek up on her and hug her from behind–loves it.
    I love this

    57. Kiss her in the rain.(this one is my favourite … somebody listening?? )
    Only if we are already out and soaked already. If not take me inside and make love to meme while the rain is falling down.

    58. Pick her up like in The Notebook and kiss her
    If you did that, I'd probably end up getting dropped. LOL

    59. Slow dance with no music

    We do this when we are acting silly.


    60. Don’t ignore her or be nervous around her–everythings going to

    be okay

    It was cute when he was nervous around me, it just gave me a reason to love him more and make him feel comfortable around me.
     
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    I couldn't even read through that entire list of muddled, codependent codswallop. I have one rule for all my relationships, whether it's with parents, children, lovers, or coworkers:

    1. Be in the moment, and show your regard for the other person in a way that is appropriate to that moment.

    I know that requires a clear head and that you pay attention, which is more than most stimulation - addicted reactionary assholes (this covers most of the people I've ever met) can manage.

    Oh, and for your significant other's sake: Learn to eat pussy well. Hint: Not from watching porn. You may have to resort to *gasp* reading a book.

    Addendum: Be willing to change as needed on behalf of your beloved. Love is about growth. An act can be kind without being loving. Everybody deserves kindness; but those you love deserve (and even require) growth.
     
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    This is very nice.
     
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    I'm starting to understand what MB sees in you Hick :smile:
     
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