Are tops 100% tops all the time and bottoms 100% bottoms all the time?

[Draknastet]

Or is it a range?

Do tops do reacharounds, is it a gentleman thing or does the bottom jerk himself off while being penetrated?
Can a guy get off just being penetrated without such?

 

[deleted2780451]

I can cum handsfree if I'm being fucked just right

 

[SeeHimFucks]

Or is it a range?

Some guys are total tops. Some guys are total bottoms. Some are versatile (meaning they do both). There's also side, which does neither.

Do tops do reacharounds, is it a gentleman thing or does the bottom jerk himself off while being penetrated?

It varies based on preference. Some bottoms prefer to delay orgasm until the top is close or has already cum, so if the top is stroking the bottom, there may come a point where the bottom swats that hand away. Some bottoms may prefer to have total control over their cock in these types of situations. If a top is a selfish lover, he might not give his bottom's dick much attention, in which case that bottom might take control of the situation with his own dick.

Can a guy get off just being penetrated without such?

There is such a thing as a p-spot orgasm (p = prostate), which is essentially a hands-free orgasm. This can be experienced while bottoming, but it comes down to several factors including the size and shape of the top's dick, the sexual position, and how long intercourse lasts. The p-spot orgasm is the primary promise of prostate massagers, a type of sex toy designed for anal stimulation.

 

[User101823]

It’s a range. I’m versatile, but it’s based on the chemistry between me and the other guy. I always am sure to pay plenty of attention to my bottom’s cock and ensure that he also cum. Ideally, both guys cum together. If I am being fucked properly, the top can literally fuck the cum right out of me entirely hands-free. I have also successfully fucked the cum out of several twinks without any need for them or me to touch their cocks…

 

[Stephenmass]

I'm sure there are total tops out there, but I haven't found any! Total bottoms on the other hand there are a lot of. Not sure why. I consider myself a versatile top, so I primary top but occasionally I'll flip when I'm with the right guy kinda thing. I have met a lot of total bottoms though, who like nothing better than taking it and have no desire to top at all.

 

[Brodie888]

Any true bottom will tell you that orgasm isn't the pinnacle or goal of sex.

I am a total bottom. I prefer a top who just focuses on fucking me.

I am someone who likes to be fucked for the pleasure of being fucked. Being in the moment and serving my purpose of being a nice warm hole for a man to cum inside of.

If I wanted to get off from a handjob I would just get a dildo and do it myself. More than anything, it's a distraction for the person having to do the tugging.

I often cum hands free while being fucked, but to me that's just a side effect. I find positions like the one below as being enough stimulation to make it happen regularly.

Having said that, I would rather not cum and have an amazing ass fucking. Penile orgasm is a very top minded way about thinking of sex.

 

[ILoveGames48]

There’s this term for gay men that likes both topping and bottoming … it’s called being versatile .. I am 60 percent bottom 40 percent top

 

[Brodie888]

Gays are definitely not binary tops and bottoms. Most are somewhere on a spectrum. Many are close enough to either end to wear that particular label though.

 

[Draknastet]

Are you ever surprised/disappointed that a big macho like Village people biker guy turns out to be only bottom? Or that a skinny limp wristed floral arranger is only pitching?
As you can tell I dont know a lot of gay people. Not trying to be offensive stereotyping.

 

[tnman]

Any true bottom will tell you that orgasm isn't the pinnacle or goal of sex.

I am a total bottom. I prefer a top who just focuses on fucking me.

I am someone who likes to be fucked for the pleasure of being fucked. Being in the moment and serving my purpose of being a nice warm hole for a man to cum inside of.

If I wanted to get off from a handjob I would just get a dildo and do it myself. More than anything, it's a distraction for the person having to do the tugging.

I often cum hands free while being fucked, but to me that's just a side effect. I find positions like the one below as being enough stimulation to make it happen regularly.

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Having said that, I would rather not cum and have an amazing ass fucking. Penile orgasm is a very top minded way about thinking of sex.

This is a VERY rare thing in my experience, most bottoms I mount instantly go soft, I don't think in all the guys I have fucked have I ever seen a man with my cock in his ass stay that brick hard, on occasion if I am feeling it, I will roll my boi over and get him hard with my hand, but normally if I am doing my job it's a very flaccid dick that just ozzzzz'es cum.

 

[mxguy52]

I would consider myself 90% bottom. I rarely fuck someone, and if I do, that is because I have a very thick dick and good length. Guys seem to want to feel it in their holes. They tell me that my dick is wasted on me.

But I have to be attracted to the guy to actually do it. TBH, I am not doing a good job as a top, it feels good, but after a while it becomes a chore rather than pleasure for me. I can recall only one time that I actually managed to cum inside the guy while fucking him.

I have no problem with being 100% bottom.