Why do we keep insisting in using the term “used” to describe women and gay bottoms? When a man is having sex with a woman, why is it perceived as if the man is using the woman’s body? Or same if a top is having anal sex with a bottom? Why not say the woman is using the man’s tool to give pleasure to herself?? Either way, this word I find it very unpleasant at all because no one is raping the other here, it is just an intimate pleasurable sex activity for both sides and no one is using the other. Do you women and bottom guys feel used every time you engage in sex with others? Or do you straight men feel you are using the woman’s body during sex? Or top men are using the bottom’s body?