Are you a dominant, submissive or both?

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  1. Misunderstood Lad

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    The other thread got me thinking.

    Are you a dominant? If so, what does that mean?

    Are you a submissive? If so, what does that mean?

    Are you both depending on mood?
     
  2. Honey_Grrrl83

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    I am a little submissive when it comes to sex,I just prefer my fiance to take charge of things:rolleyes:
     
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    Dominent and submissive refer to behaviors that are dictate to a large degree by your personality; however there is also a "nurture" component also. I think people can be both because of the nature vs. nurture influences.
     
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    you mean the guy who makes things happen?
     
  5. rob_just_rob

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    either (how can you be "both"?), depending on mood.
     
  6. Honey_Grrrl83

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    I'm submissive in the bedroom but dominant in everyday life:tongue: It's a unique compromise we made,I trust his sexual judgement a lot better than mine,and he trusts my real world judgement better than his:rolleyes:
     
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    Since I'm tired of saying "neither nor", or "a bit of both", I'll say I have 10-50% dominant features when it comes to sex.

    I'm not into the BDSM stuff, but I have a strong urge to take control, to be in charge and to engage in a sexual battle for the climax. But I'll leave the riding crop and the Indiana Jones whip in the closet.

    Unless you don't behave!
     
  8. rob_just_rob

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    That's "either" not "both". :wink:
     
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    I'm usually dominant but I've been turned into a real pussy boy by a couple of big black guys.
     
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    Depending on the mood...
     
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    I think that in bed I must be bipolar, but I know I'm both. For me, I feel like being submissive leads me to innevitibly becoming dominant, and that being dominant leads me to being submissive, and back again. It's a great pinwheel if you can find someone willing to ride with you. it's not solely on my own accord; I encourage partner's behavior in responsive ways! :)
     
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    Actually, I really wouldnt know. I am believe it or not introverted... but I have been told by friends that I would make a natural dominatrix... it must be that scorpio control thing going on....
     
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    Either. It really turns me on when the woman wants to be in control because it makes me feel like they want me. If that doesn't work, I get to be in control and do the same for them.
     
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    Im always getting in trouble for trying to control and plan everything so i guess im dominant. Its only because hes so young and i think teaching him is telling him what to do, but i love when he's had enough and demands and takes control...but id never tell him that :wink:
     
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    I'm definitely a switch. I can be either, it just depends on the dynamic between me and my partner. Lately with my current GF I am a bit dominant only because I know she likes it, and in turn I'm getting into it. But previously, I enjoyed being a bit submissive.

    I just like to dabble, going the full nine yards on this issue was never something that attracted me.
     
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    I don’t think I’m submissive in life but I notice with sex I think I’m submissive. I like missionary position a lot and my boyfriend and I use it most (but not only!) During sex I love just relaxing and letting myself go and it works great cuz my boyfriend likes being on top too. Actually I guess I do like being submissive because sometimes when we really get going he’ll kind of pin my arms against the bed and I think it’s so kinky!
     
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    I am dominate about 95% of the time. I can be submissive depending on the situation.

    But thats just me, and I like chains and whips and other things...
     
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    I enjoy filling the needs of submissives' accommodations.
     
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    I am dominant in my daily life with my business and personal relationships but want to be submissive sexually. I enjoy being dominated and being humiliated. I guess it is like in ying and yang that you want different things than you are.
     
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    Ooh is it a Scorpio thing? :tongue: I am both. Sometimes I just like to be fucked and others I want to be in control and telling him/her what to do and how to do it. It's a mood thing, but I'm definitely both.
     
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