Are you a girls girl?

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  1. Rubenesque

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    I was pondering this earlier... having noticed several times some women on this forum seem very anti-women.

    Do you get on with other women or are most of your best friendships with men?

    I've always thought I was a girls girl, as I have some fabulous and very close female friends. I like to think that whenever possible I will stick up for womens rights (although not a full on bra burning feminist).

    There are times when I feel really shocked at some womens attempts to belittle other women, often simply to make themselves feel better. I notice it here quite often.. and can only assume that it's about getting rid of "competition".

    So are you a girls girl?

    By the way, I don't feel as though I've been belittled by other women... not on purpose anyway. So this isn't a retaliatory thread... just something I've been wondering about.
     
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    Is the definition of a girl's girl one who forms good friendships with other women?
    If so then yes I totally am.
    I have close friendships with both women & men.
    Though I am not super close to a lot of people, the gender of those I am close to is fairly split between the two.

    But if a girl's girl is one who is very girlie, takes a jillion years to get ready, fusses a lot, wears hair products and make-up and stiletto heels then no I am not.
     
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    Denise, I am with you on what you see on this sight. The amount of women being rude to women here is amazing! I also have contemplated it and thought that it is the competitive nature of women to "get their claws out" when other women get around their men.....lol.

    Pretty petty and obnoxious if you ask me.
     
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    I have an easier time making strong connections to men than to women. However, my very closest friends are women. When I meet new women, I usually can't make a connection though.
     
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    I have an easier time with men than women, but in general I have very few close friends, and the balance between men and women is fairly even as of right now I'd say. (Though, the closest relationships out of those close friends are male. My brothers, actually, are my best friends and almost all of our friends are each others friends...I'm quite lucky.)

    I've found that I think more like a man, and I don't typically understand most women's thought processes or reactions to things. However, that doesn't turn me off from most women. You just find the people you want to surround yourself with, and sift through the rest.

    At this point I'd say that no, I'm not a "girl's girl", but not because I have something against women in general. :shrug: It just so happens that I've found the men in my life to think more like me than the women I've met in my life, that's all.
     
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    I definitely meant the former rather than the latter... there's nothing girlie about me haha
     
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    I should perhaps make it clear that I differentiate between women who get on better with men than women, and those who actively dislike other women.

    I've seen several here who clearly dislike women in general, which I find a shame when it's a predominantly male site, I thought there might be more female solidarity.
     
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    That's what I hoped for, when I realized how out numbered we really are. haha. Not that it matters, I get along just fine without that...but I wish that there were more women not so...

    angry with other women?

    I'm not sure if that's what I want to say, but you get the drift.
    It took me a good while before I found the women on here who I consider my friends on this site.
     
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    I thought you said girlie girl at first, and yes, I am one of those. But I can be a ball-buster when I have to.

    I definitely have more women friends than men friends, but that came about by design. In college I had lots more men friends. My best girlfriend pointed out to me that I gravitated toward men at parties and gatherings, but I told her it was quite the opposite.

    Anyway, I resolved to be more proactive making women friends back then, and I'm still the same way now. Of course, it's been easier now than back then.
     
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    i had a birthday party recently, and since all my friends were compelled to come since it's MY birthday party, when they came, they complained, because there were only 3 girls in the whole party and a WHOLE lot of guys...

    i guess i would like to make more fun female friends... but i just don't click that well with females in general???

    yikes!!!!!
     
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    i'm a people's person.
    that is, i think most people are arseholes, regardless of gender, and appreciate the rare exceptions, regardless of gender.
    i fine great amusement in the women who attempt to prove themselves men's women by shitting on women.
    though far more common here, in my experience, are those trying to be men's men by shitting on women.

    sometimes i'm in pain from laughing at their posts.
     
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    oh, an answer to the actual question asked, rather than the question i felt like answering:

    online i have more male friends, just because i prefer a more blunt conversational style.

    offline i only have female friends, just because they don't hold an aspiration to shag me one day.
     
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    As far as you know.










    :wink:
     
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    I would say that I am a girl's girl in the sense that I respect other women, or at least the ones who prove themselves worth respecting. I don't like women who bash other women, gossip or constantly put down men.

    That being said, I do have more male friends than female friends. I think because I can throw on a back pack and spend 5 days in the woods as easily as dress up and use hair products appropriately.
     
  15. dolfette

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    straighter than straight, every last one.
    i used to have male & lesbian/bi friends but it's just more trouble than it's worth in the end.
     
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    Pardon me while I stick with my visions (delusions?) of a world in which dolfie doesn't know everything, even about the sexual proclivities of her friends.

    [scurries off]
     
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    pft! what do you think we talk about?
    i know what size they like, when they last got and their best position.
     
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    You're right. What was I thinking? No one would ever feel sufficiently intimidated by dolfette, so as to avoid making full and complete disclosure.




    Yes. Sarcasm. :smile:

    xx
     
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    I'm surprised that some women have noted hostility in other women. That really hasn't been my experience. The only time I'm ever rude to the women here is if I know they're men :)
    I have a lot of female friends and I consider myself to be a pretty girlie girl, however I LOVE men and I can hang out with guys, drink beer and watch porn with the best of 'em. I think I'm both a girl's girl and a guy's girl.

    Funny Dolfette said" online i have more male friends, just because i prefer a more blunt conversational style". I never thought of it that way but that certainly is true. Guys online tend to be easy to chat with for some reason.
     
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    i'm quiet. confidently quiet.
    you've no idea what people will reveal just to fill a silence.
     
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