Are you a Hermit?

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  1. Rikter8

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    Do you classify youself as a hermit?
    Do others classify you as a hermit?

    What are your habits?
    What do you think caused you to become a hermit?
     
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    I'm not a hermit, I'm a "homebody".
     
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    depends on my mood...would never classify myself as a hermit but def a homebody sometimes...sometimes it's just nice to sit at home in a pair of comfy sweatpants and veg out
     
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    I meander in and out. Weeks at a time I will seclude myself happily and in these times I eat crackers, peanut butter and whatever I have in the pantry while puttering about, blinds and drapes drawn, with very few lights on, sitting at the card table playing solitaire or reading old newspapers and magazines. Then there are times I can't stay inside for all the tea in China.

    What caused it? Well my dad was named Herman.:biggrin1:.
     
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    I guess I've become a homebody as I've gotten older. For the last 15 years living in Prague I was out almost all the time for one thing or another. Now, I'd just prefer going home, getting undressed and relaxing. I have dinner with friends and go to movies but the nights out are fewer and further between.
     
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    I guess. But I am cranky, too. I guess that makes me a Hermit Crab! :lol:
     
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    Count me in. Not so much by choice. I live in a small town. I'm renovating my house. I commute two hours a day. I'm just too tired and have too much to do to go out much.
     
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    Technically, what is a hermit? (And no, not the crab :tongue:)
     
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    Following a definition of a hermit as a person who has withdrawn from society and lives a solitary existence; a recluse...I would say no, I am not a hermit because I have a job and interact with society pretty intensely through work.

    However, the older I get the more isolating I am becoming in my non-work life. I don't necessarily seek out solitude...but social options do become more limited as you grow older and peers get married and have families. I also have a diminishing tolerance for "bullshit", be that defined as people that take and never give back, or people who use others, or people who are not what they seem, or people who are generally negative and waste my time and energy. I think most of the time I would rather stay at home alone than spend time with people I really don't like being around.

    On the other hand, I do have bouts of loneliness...which is cool because it is an indication to me that I'm not totally an anti-social hermit. In a perfect world I would have a great friend who lives two doors down who walks in my house at whim and we grab a pizza or watch a movie. That how the sit-coms work...but that situation does not exist for me. :wink:
     
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    Thanks for the definition ex :smile:

    Knowing that, I'm not. I spend a lot of my free time at home because there's so much to do, but I'm heavily involved in activities that interact with tons of people
     
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    I'm an aspiring hermit.
     
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    Yes...kind of a hermit.No sexual/relationship experience,friendships,or social life to speak of
    (ex. last movie I saw was Godzilla (1998) took
    my little brother & his friend to see it).

    Basically,I only leave home to go to work,visit parents or head off to the gym.
     
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    If it weren't for my martial arts gym, I'd be a hermit. It's not that I hate people, I hate stupid people.

    And I assume people are stupid unless proven otherwise.
     
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    Not exactly a hermit, but definitely a bit of a loner. It can cause problems with outgoing types who in my experience often think that anyone who doesn't respond to their overtures the way they expect is being aloof or snotty. Paraphrasing exwhyzee, I also have a pretty low bullshit tolerance threshold.
     
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    If i hadn't read exwhyzees definition i would have said yes ,but i guess i'm not after all.I love being by myself ,i think it has to do with being the middle child and growing up in a noisy household.but there's also a side of me that craves companionship,hanging out with friends,and going out.
     
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    I feel like a hermit, but in actuality I can't be because I don't live alone!
     
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    I like being at home. It takes me an hour to drive to the city so I tend to stay at home all week and go into the city on the weekends for shopping or a movie with a girl friend if I want company.

    I agree with Exwhyzee that the older I get the less I like to tolerate people I disagree with, so I just stay away.
     
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    At times, not by choice.
     
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    Yes, I am ready for the monastery (or a serene Japanese garden, if I don't want to take s the vows).

    I'd rather be alone than in bad company,:biggrin1:
     
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    Sign me up. Maybe we can be cellmates and work in the garden. :smile:

    Ditto.
     
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