Are you an adult caregiver to a relative? How do you manage without losing your sanity? I have now been in Georgia two months. One of the main reasons I moved here was to assist my mom with the care of my dad who was recently diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease. He is also diabetic and has high blood pressure, though both are under control. His mind is still pretty sharp but his body is failing and he is quite stubborn about accepting assistance. He has what the neurologist calls a shuffling gait and his hand eye coordination is not what it should be. Yet, he will not let me or mom drive him to his doctor appts. I know he feels that not driving means he is no longer a man. I don't want to emasculate him; but I also don't want to have to apologize to someone else's family if he causes an accident. He will allow us to accompany him on errands and to the doctor or physical therapy, but I think he'd sooner die then let mom or me drive his precious Mercury Grand Marquis. Mom and I know that the day will soon come when we must do the driving I just don't want him causing an accident before that day. How did you take the keys away from your parent(s)? Mom is in decent shape comparatively. Though she moves a lot more slowly than she did two years ago. In the last 2 years she has had knee replacement surgery and surgery to repair a torn rotator cuff. So she moves a lot more slowly. My ideas and suggestions are usually ignored. However, the suggestions of outsiders are always welcomed and often acted upon. :aargh4: Then there is the matter of privacy . . . my room is on the other side of the house but I have little to no privacy. As my mom feels that anything in her home is her business. Grrrrr! Yes, my bedroom door has a lock but I never lock it, in fact I leave it wide open during the day so I can here if dad stumbles or falls, which has thankfully happend only once thus far. FWIW, mom is 77, dad is 79 and I am 41. Though a major part of the problem is that they both treat me as if I were 16. Anytime I try to take over a chore or do something in the way of minor household repairs I am accused of "acting grown." The only thing I do which seems to please both of them is cook, clean, and do laundry. :aargh4: I didn't mean to go on such a tear; but I know this will get worse before it gets better. I need to find some decent coping strategies. Any suggestions?