Are you and your ex friends?

B_thickjohnny

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cos someone who hurts me doesn't deserve me in their life.
objection!

that surely must depend on the nature of the hurt? a man cannot help it if he falls out of love with you, or fails to fall in love with you. that's just an unfortunate incompatibility and is nobody's fault.

as opposed to the ahole who kills your dog, shags your dad and pees in your favourite shoes.

even if you can't play bestest buds, there's no reason not to be civil and friendly towards the former.

not all hurts are equal.

This is it in a nutshell. This is what I think happened. He just fell out of love with me. Instead of owning it and fessing up, he started going out and eventually got caught. He had casually asked one night in bed how I felt about an open relationship. I said I had no problem with it if (1) I know who you're with and (2) you always sleep in THIS bed every night. Apparently that wasn't good enough. He got caught when he went off for an entire weekend, claiming he was at his mothers house visiting his sick grandmother.

I'm over it and I think I'm in a better place. He regrets what he did, doesn't want to get back together (as in live together), doesn't want to have sex (he claims he's more asexual now (I say frigid)) but he wants to be in each others lives - that 5 years is a long time to just give up. Sometimes I wonder.
 

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For the most part I don't talk to my exes. If we do cross paths it's usually casual chat, nothing too personal. I wouldn't let them know if I was seeing someone as it's none of their business. They want to ask me how I've been or how am I liking the weather? OK. They start asking me about my love life, chat over, get bent.
 

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I'm over it and I think I'm in a better place.


..... Sometimes I wonder.
Having read some of your previous threads, you don't really seem to be over it. I think you are trying but it hasn't happened.

This post told me you aren't fully over it. You got upset that he didn't respond, even say you were hurt. That's not being over it.


http://www.lpsg.org/3962001-post1.html

And today, me being the nice guy I am, sent him a e-card for Valentine's day. Nothing mushy at all; just a card that says thanks for being my friend.

I GOT NOTHING IN RETURN!!! Not even a thank you. Not any acknowledgment.

I'm soooo pissed off.... and hurt too, I guess....
 

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Having read some of your previous threads, you don't really seem to be over it. I think you are trying but it hasn't happened.

This post told me you aren't fully over it. You got upset that he didn't respond, even say you were hurt. That's not being over it.


http://www.lpsg.org/3962001-post1.html


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