Are You Ever The Big Spoon?

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One of the things I admit I love is spooning with the wife throughout the night. 99.99% of the time, I am the one holding her (the Big Spoon) because I like the feeling that I'm being protective and she likes the feeling of being held. There is also the practical issue that she is more comfortable laying on the side facing away from me and will spend most of the night sleeping that way.

However, I also admit of the rare times I am the Little Spoon I kind of enjoy it and the feeling she is somehow saying non-verbally that she will take care of me. In a way I wish she would do this a little more often, but am too embarrassed to come straight out and ask.

Maybe one of the reasons is that it is assumed (from what I read at least) that the man should always feel like he's taking care of the woman and to be the Little Spoon is to take a submissive, feminine role. Maybe it's this unspoken stigma or maybe it's just for the reasons above, but still...

So the question is how to you usually spoon and do you always take the position of the Little Spoon or do sometimes assume the Big Spoon and either way, why? Is it due to any gender role expectation or just simply a matter of comfort and sleeping position? And why do think perhaps most women take the role of the Little Spoon? Is that due to gender assumptions or something else? And would you think any different of a man that prefers the comfort of being passively held by his partner?
 

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I was the big spoon most of my romantic life. Being the tallest and a bit of the protective type the big spoon fit me. Being the little spoon to some time to adjust to. A few nights of "ugghh, ya breathing all hot on my neck!! Do other women like this!?!" Eventually got my lil spoon game up to pare.

We are a pan-spoon couple. Trading out for as the mood/shitty days happen. Usually the boy is on his back. Me time-lapsing interpretative dance around and across my man.

Summers are a non-spooning season. Laying as far apart has humanly possible. Maybe finger tips touching. Fall picks up again. Winter is primo snuggle weather.
 

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@MickeyLee
Another reason to avoid Floriduh.

I’m typically small spoon because I’ve usually let my partner lead that particular dance.
I can big spoon, but it helps if I’m shifted up. I am never the tall one!

once sleeping, butt to butt is a default.
 

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Elaboration on how the night goes as we snooze, cuz boredom..

Whoever does it first, we always start the night with one holding the other spoon-style, or hugging face to face. When we fall asleep we stay that way for a bit, then whoever gets too hot first rolls over. Feet mingle for awhile, arms land on one another for a bit. Before he gets out of bed he grabs a few sexy feels (sometimes lays it down, LOVE morning sex) then gets up and I sleep for another half-full hour.

He's the only person I've ever been able to share a bed with and be able to touch/cuddle/breathe together. Every other partner I've had who I've actually shared a bed with, no. None of it. Get off me.

Part of his I know that's my muhfucker. MINE. And he can call me his all day. Errday.
 

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If we're spooning I'm usually the small spoon, I don't mind being the big spoon to snuggle up to my hubby but I can't sleep like that. Having very large breasts I get uncomfortable having my boobies squashed up against his back after a while plus my husband tends to move around a fair bit in his sleep, quite often we'll end up falling asleep facing away from each other or sometimes on my back.
 

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Back whenever I did have partners with whom I slept, I liked switching it up for brief periods of time before moving away from each other so I could actually get some sleep and not lay there wide awake sweating like a pig.

But, like @TinyPrincess says, I most prefer NO spooning.

I sleep...aggressively. When I do sleep. Like, flailing about, tossing, turning, I get hot, I punch pillows, toss blankets. My bed is like a war zone each morning. I really don't care for spooning.
 

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I sleep...aggressively. When I do sleep. Like, flailing about, tossing, turning, I get hot, I punch pillows, toss blankets. My bed is like a war zone each morning.
Is "sleep" another word for "fuck"??? ;)