Are you good at knowing when a guy is bullshitting you?

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  1. luka82

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    Can you tell? Is there truly something called female intuition? Does its use apply to relationship with men?
     
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    I've always been shit at this. I'm too naive and trusting and believing of people. Why? I think it's cos I'm such an honest and trustworthy person, that I don't see why people need to be otherwise.

    That said tho, based on many negative experiences, I can usually tell when a guy is a player these days.
     
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    I'm very good at it on here...

    If they've told you the same thing, and you've believed every word of it, it's generally bullshit!
     
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    Yes and yes.
     
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    Sorry, what did you say Acon?
    ;)))))
     
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    I'm very good in reading people in business but not so good in a relationship. :frown1:

    On the Internets I rarely trust anyone at first glance. And I expect not to be trusted as well.

    But I'm very used to contractors and subs bullshitting me almost 100% of the time. And I always call them on it and catch them. That usually only takes one or two times before that call me the "ball-breaking cunt, but in a nice way. :biggrin1:

    But I always leave my emotions at the door when I'm working, but in relationships it's completely different, and things get clouded quickly. It's burned me in the past, but very content with how things are now. Wisdom always knocks at the door, but we have to be old enough to hear it; and even older to let it in.
     
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    Oh and btw, I wasn't referring to the internet in my last response. It's pretty damn easy to tell when ppl on net are bullshitting you, especially this site, especially some douchebag whose username rhymes with 'teek'.
     
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    Aye :) 99% of the time. Whether or not I'm actually smart enough to listen to my intuition and walk away... We'll just not discuss that.
     
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    I have intuition but not about people in relationships. Even when it's obvious a person's lying, I keep trying to figure out why, and play along for quite a bit longer than I really should.
     
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    When it comes to me? Nope.

    When it comes to other people? Nearly perfect record. I can read men like books! lol
     
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    I'm a lot like rtg when it has to do with work. I'm a rather good judge of character in real life, and a lot of times online also. I do have my moments of naivety too. At the same time I'm very guarded so, I guess I make up for being naive with being to much on the defense, when it comes to men.
     
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    i used to be pants at it but now i'm the shizzle.

    i have zero tolerance for bullshit these days.

    it's not intuition. it's learning to shed the guilt society piles on women, telling us to be nice and all forgiving and supportive of the men we adore, when we should just listen to the alarm bells and wash our hands of the arseholes instead.
     
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    I am very gullible but then i again i wasn't born around men that bs's but were honest to a fault and say things the way they see them nothing less and nothing more.
     
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    "It takes a bullshitter to know a bullshitter" is not always the norm here. In person, no one can fool me. On the internet? Warning signs go up, but benefit of doubt is given due to not being able to view body language. But still not to bad at detectoring poo talk.
     
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    I was really bad at it but getting better. Just realized it two days ago after a date. He was trying to sell me on himself so much that it grossed me out instead of getting me into bed
     
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    No. I don't believe I'm better or worse at anyone else at reading other people, but I believe that my method of handling the unknown is more honest. :approve: :rolleyes: :wink:
     
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    I believe that female intuition does exist, but... I honestly believe that "female intuition" it is not reliable when it comes to relationships.

    This is because (again, my own opinion) we tend to believe what we WANT to believe... and occasionally, fairy-tale-thinking (what we wish and hope for in a relationship) will cloud our perception of actual facts and behaviors.

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    And the following statement is purely opinion. I claim absolutely no proof or science to back it up. :tongue:

    I believe that EITHER gender can have "female intuition". Some people just seem to be more perceptive of emotions and nuances.

    (Steps off soapbox)
     
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    dead-lethal at reading folks, in the flesh and through various electronics.

    is all pattern recognition and cynicism.

    i'm trying not to listen to that part of my inner dialog. is a touch ugly, and massively defensive. there is also a touch of depersonalization, seeing a person as a collection of tics or warning signs.

    inspection-style meetings keep me too guarded. which maybe ain't the most honest... not in an out right lie kinda way... just... i keep the soft bits well away. and i am uber aware of how i interact with the may-be-ooky folks.

    hello, is nice to meet you
    and open possibility sounds loverly
     
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    or you could be getting bitter.
     
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