Are you interested in asian men sexually?

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  1. korinaus

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    Hello. :smile:

    I am a guy from Asia, now living and learning in Australia, a great laid back country. lol.

    By the way, I post this new thread to know how members here think of asian men in terms of their sexual attractiveness to girls.

    It would be a dangerous topic and I could be blamed as a racist. but I got an epiphany that there is no off-limit in this site as I read many posts here. So I venture this question because it seems habitants here are more from other races than Asians. And, more importantly, this site is mostly about big genitalia from which more than some asian men suffer inferiority complex because they consider or are considered less-hung than guys from other races.

    Ok. Here I go. For the past 6 months, I have just happened to live in sort of an international accommodation for young guys and chicks coming from all around the world. They are mostly just out of highschool or in early twenties, the times you are much more likely to think first about physical attractions than social factors like wealth when choosing a date mate.

    Then, Europeans or European descendants there can easily approach or at least get involved intimately in talking with asian girls if they want to (some guys really had a fetish in asian girls) while the other way around (I mean asian guy-white girl, for example) rarely happen.

    And when I go out on the street, I see many white guy / asian chick couples while asian guy / white chick are again very rare. There are some I have witnessed but they are just too disproportionally small numbers to be explained by those "Hey, dude, it is just a person, not race!"

    I know it could be just my limited experience, but I am still wondering is this because asian guys are too shy or ugly, or too 'small' to non-asian girls' eyes, or even non-asian guys are too protective to their girls? Or something more profound?

    Can I humbly seek your honest 2 cent about asian men's sexual attractiveness? Since I am specialized to accepting any brutal but honest reality, I hope real honest answers. Personally I would like to have a date with a German girl someday~ I don't know why~

    So, here's my question again!
    Are you girls interested in asian guys sexually??
    I also welcome any perspective from our guy mates~

    By the way, sorry about my poor English.
    I am learning it second by second!
     
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  2. D_Dallavell Ogler

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    Same here in the US. It just doesn't happen. It's kind of a running joke that if you can't take a girl away from an Asian guy you have problems.
     
  3. ManlyBanisters

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    I think Asian guys are beautiful* - I've never had a chance to date any Asians because I lived in mono-cultural Ireland and there just were not many non-white people about at all. I knew one guy whose parents were Indian, he was fit and I would have had him in a heartbeat but he was a friend of my boyfriend and therefore a bit of a no-no. Another Chinese guy I knew later (a friend of my then husband) was also rather lovely. Both had (white) Irish girlfriends and had no shortage of other white girls interested in them.

    Later I lived in the UK (but was married by then) in areas where there were rather big Asian communities, mostly Indian / Pakistani but I also met a lot of Chinese people and a good few Japanese and Koreans too. I found the men to have the same level of attractiveness as their black and white counterparts. The notion that Asians may or may not have smaller penises has never been something I've considered.

    So yes, I am sexually interested in Asian men, or rather I would be if I weren't in a monogamous relationship.

    * I think white and black guys are beautiful, too.
     
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    I dated a Chinese American boy who I found wildly attractive in my early twenties, but he couldn't handle my forthrightness and his parents didn't approve of me (I wasn't college educated at the time). I remember walking around a college campus with another Asian guy I slept with (one night stand) and having him get a thumbs up from another Asian guy - for bagging a white girl, presumably. Very strange experience.

    Small dicks and all (the stereotype is somewhat founded - but I'll say this: they tend to make up for what they lack in length by being rock hard), I find plenty of Asian guys attractive. I like thin, dark-haired guys with pretty features, and plenty of Asians fit the bill. I think the problem lies with conditioning - Western women grow up learning to think of Asian guys as nerds, not sex symbols. Wouldn't mind more Tony Leung types in my life, though!
     
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    voyeuristic- it's not because you were white- it's because you were hot to him. At least that's how it goes with my friends.

    And no, asian men were never attractive to me




    =P
     
  6. rbkwp

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    Gay Male NZ here Korinaus
    Have also had a relationship with a white woman
    yr english is better than mine..as many may well attest to
    Part Asian and part Maori am i
    Personally have never been attracted to the Asian Male..ever..to the point that when i travelled on the infamous Kiwi/Aussie OE i did not take in ANY Asian countries, preferring the Scandanavias etc..i am/was into the White Boys

    All that aside, i take it you are a younger Asian Male therefore not tainted by the fact your Parents would consider you only take an asian lady? -even to the extent of an arranged marriage- which i doubt very much of happens these days

    (some guys really had a fetish in asian girls) while the other way around (I mean asian guy-white girl, for example) rarely happen
    AGREE with you on that.. sure is/was the way in NZ as well.

    With my own family only one of 6 boys married a full asian lady..(these were marriages in the late 70s/early 80s)
    but even now with my 1/2 sisters (Full Chinese) comming out from China mid 80s..there kids children (all full chinese) are now in there late teens, and ironically they seem to be taking New Zealand or Polynesian girls/guys as partners
    (Think the Parents are more realistic these days/including the fact the kids of this Generation are far more assertive)
    I THINK Aussie MAY be a little different re such .. i think there racist policy of the 70s has kept them a little more in the Dark ages compared to NZ
    I take it you are in either Melbourne or Sydney??? asssuming that .. you would probably find the other cities as being less tolerant of what you have mentioned in your post
    Finally at a Geuss .. i would suggest to you a White Aussie Girl would be less likely to take on an Asian Male as a life long Partner..think you would have a lot more luck? with a Female of any other nationality
    (and i have my theory on that..which its probably best not to mention here?)
    Wish you the BEST in your quest Korinaus
    and Thanks for the opportunity to express myself
    enz
    (hope you understand it all?? or your welcome to PM me)
     
  7. ths1973

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    well i'm a gay asian.... and some are attracted to me, others are not... just like i may be attracted to A but not to B... I don't really sense much of a difference in the attractiveness spectrum. Taste is not arguable... but I will say that I have never had a complaint about my penis :) ...most are surprised, in a good way !
     
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    I have had several ex-girlfriends and my current partner (who has many Asian friends from School / Uni ) who have said that they are simply not attracted to Asian guys.

    One has even said (she was 19 at the time) that they just don't have nice bodies.

    Maybe as you get older and mix with older women it may not be so much of a problem.

    However, I have noticed that second generation / mixed raced people (i.e. Asian / Caucasian) are often very attractive and do very well with the opposite sex - guys and girls.

    Hope this helps.
     
  9. Not_Punny

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    I've never "been" with an Asian man, but I guess there just was never an opportunity at a right time.

    I do find them attractive. But I would be steer clear of ones who were "nerdy" or overly gangsta.
     
  10. Drifterwood

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    I agree with AussiePirate's honest assessment.

    I am in China at the moment. I don't think many people realise how different our cultures are. Whilst you are new to Australia, you will be behaving as you would at home. This just doesn't seem to push the buttons for many Western women. And when they travel in SEA, they tend to bring with them the preferences in male behaviour that they have experienced at home.

    I also know from my wesetern female friends here that they prefer physically larger men and I don't mean cock size.

    All that said, I would add that familiarity breaks down these barriers.

    Finally, a Chinese woman told me the other day that I was quite a gentleman, and not a monkey at all as she had expected. Hey, I'll take any compliment I can get.
     
  11. D_Portelay Porquesword

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    Never been with an Asian man.
    Maybe if the chemistry is right.
     
  12. korinaus

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    To funny budda,

    Then, it seems you have to commit suicide three times if an asian guy takes a girl from you. No offence, I am just joking, mate~

    To ManlyBanisters

    I like Ireland since I majored in literature and love Oscar Wilde.
    I suddenly remember an intelligently-good-looking Irish English teacher back in my country had a crush from every girl in the class and I was a bit jealous of him but punished me for that because he was a good man. And I think you can still be charmed by Asian beauty rather 'spiritually' while maintaining your happy marriage ever forever.


    To voyeuristic

    I usually give my thumbs up to that kind of couple in rather covert way. I agree it is a bit weird but he maybe thought your short-time asian boyfriend as a brave pioneer I presume. I think it is true that an asian penis tends to be more rocker when it is mad. By the way, Tony Leung is cool~


    To rbkwp,

    Thank for your insight on the topic and I understand 100%.
    For answering your question, I unfortunately have never dated with a white girl but very much would like to given a chance.


    To drifterwood

    A good point that women are more attracted to larger body men not just for a penis size but for a whole package. Even though it is a undeniable truth that asian guys are smaller than black and caucasian guys, things are slowly changing I think. Asians are getting bigger and bigger at least in East Asia. In Korea where a paranoia for height exists, I sometimes feel like I'm a midjet (I'm 5.8-9 on barefoot) compared to younger generation there.
     
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  13. D_Dallavell Ogler

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    Why 3 times?
     
  14. vinnyc

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    I grew up in France and never had any issues dating French (white) girls or French (white) boys. Actually, all the people I've dated so far were white persons.

    It might be a question of culture and integration: I noticed when I moved here in NYC back 5 years ago how people from a same ethnicity would tend to stay with each other.

    Communautarism can only maintain the clichés/fears of what you are not used too and you stick to your tastes, the ones you have always been used to, raised in, and believe they are yours.

    I don't know if I make myself really clear though. As for me, from my birth to 25 years old, I never had any asian friend in my network aside from my cousins (who are eurasian, one asian parent, one european parent) and all my friends were white/arabic/black...

    What supports my theory (about the culture reason) is that I never really felt attracted to asian people physically until I moved to NYC and dated my first asian mates.
    This was naturally because I never really felt asian myself and as being raised among white people, I was probably behaving, at least subconsciously, as if I was white (which I am not, being mixed myself) in addition of being French (which I am).

    Now in NYC, with a new look and getting to know more asian people, my taste somehow evolved: I don't find all men or women physically attractive, but some of them are, to me. And this falls now under the pure personal taste, regardless of any racial prejudice, just as I could find some caucasian men/women attractive and other not at all.

    It's really the way you were raised, if you get the exact behaviour/attitude towards the girl as a regular (white) guy, the ethnicity aspect becomes really secondary, believe me.

    Most often, asian guys are either really too shy, either not confident and not cocky enough and suffer from the clichés of being not manly enough and being too femme. So, once again, it's a question of education and behaviour. Asian men are often raised in a matriarcal system and are subconsciously castrated, which explains why they are more introverted (former generations, not true anymore, but asian men are still very shy).

    Now, some girls won't really find you (as an asian) attractive just as they won't find hairy guys or blond guys or brwon eyes attractive to them, but I don't believe this is a matter of race, just a matter of taste (eternal debate...).

    Hope I could help.

    Cheers,
    -vinnyc
     
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    It is just a cliche of my expression dictionary.
     
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    :eek: I have never heard that before. What an awful expression. :12:

     
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    The captain of the boys swim team in my high school was an amazingly beautiful Korean guy. I always thought he was hot, but he was dating a good friend. Hot is hot no matter what. There were lots of hot Asian guys (first and second generation Americans, as well as immigrants) in my high school from China, Viet Nam, Bangladesh, Japan, India you name it. The problem with them was they stuck to their own kind, and were mistreated if they didn't.

    I think a big problem Asian men face in the west is that our media de-sexualizes them, and emasculates them. Has no effect on me though. I personally like really, really tqll men though, and the two hot, 6'3"+ Chinese I encountered were taken.
     
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    I'm chinese and I am interested in white girls way more than asian girls. I think it has something to do with the living in a New Zealand for 3/4 of my lifetime.
    My best friend who is a white guy is dating a chinese girl, totally expected, but he didn't ask her out, she asked him out(but he liked her at the same time, he was going to ask her out eventually).
     
  19. korinaus

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    For a following up story,
    there was an interesting exception, one Japanese guy.

    He was sort of good-looking but a short man even for Asian average.
    Anyway, he always hang around with western guys regardless of race.
    It was obvious that he tried to be away from so called 'asian' exclusive groups who tended to stick to their own.

    For the first three months, even though it seemed he had some western friends, I rarely saw him with western girls. One day, when I was studying in public area, he stormed in with some friends including some aussie and European girls. Then he started to cry. I was forced to eavesdrop. He cried because he missed his soon-departing friend so much in advance. That was one of the weirdest and funniest moments of my life even though I did do my utmost best not to laugh (and I made it). I was so shocked because in my home country, guys are not supposed to cry in public. For boys, maybe the shortest way to become a picked on or made a mock of. It was as if he was ejaculating himself in crying. The girls were giggling. I actually thought he was a true idiot when girls rushed to him clearing his tears-bombarded face with tissues.

    And after that, more bizarre thing started to happen. Perhaps, it was my hallucination but he more and more hang around with girls, it seemed. Some girls even approached to play with him (I don't mean 'play with' in sexual way). Then he talked to western girls more than western guys.

    I can't tell anything about his personality since I don't know him much.
    But one thing I can sure is that he was never shy to talk to girls and never afraid to be with Westerners (for example, participating in a party vigorously) even though it is a bit sad he apparently tried to be away from asian groups.

    After he departed, one of his friends said to me.

    The friend asked him "have you slept with one of the girls?"
    He answered "Well, I can't count."

    Maybe he was bluffing. But still it was an interesting case for this issue to me.

    And one more,

    I have witnessed that a very small numer of western guys are defensive or even hostile to white girls hanging with asian guys. And a few western girls have become stiffined when talking to asian boys in public maybe because of peer pressure (like a stare from others), I guess.

    Actually, I talked about this issue with some guys in off line. One Japanese guy said "I just like Asian girls more." One Korean said "I heard we are never attractive.". Another tough muscled Korean guy said "What the fuck, then I will try and prove it is not!!!". One aussie guy, a 6.3 tall, bluntly said "well, I don't know. maybe girls don't like small figures. You rather go for a jim first." Then one bohemian French guy said "usually French girls don't prefer asian guys. But there are some Vietamese guys with girls in France. And girls like brave men like me." And a German guy sent this text message to me everytime he found a AM/WF couple. "I found another. Join the revolution!"

    Now I am happy to hear opinions on the issue from girls and guys on line, especially from girls. Thanks. I think tomorrow would be 'sunny'.
     
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  20. rbkwp

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    Interesting story korinaus
    Just a final suggestion from me
    I think you would hove a reasonable chance of hooking up with an Aussie girl
    if she was introduced to you by one of your white Aussie male friends
    befriend/get into a circle of Aussie guys..especially some decent ones (and i realize that alone could be difficult for an asian.)..anyway eventually you could mention you would not mind dating..so and so..and leave it up to your friend for the possible intro.
    Thats probably the approach i would try
    Best of luck
    enz
    (Apologies to Aussies..i actually like Aussies a little more than Kiwis- lived worked played ther about 8/9 years total')
     
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