I was chatting about this with someone recently and he seemed to think he may have been too judgemental about some things when it comes to casual dating and relationships. That resonated with me because I do the same thing. :redface: My "issues" are when I meet a man and he's nice. We really hit it off; and then I notice over a few dates that he has dealbreakers. My deal breakers are excessive drinking and any illicit drug use. Or even worse for me if I find out he is a pot smoker. Now I don't want all you potheads to send me PM's about how it's the healthiest drug out there, it does no damage to your brain, or should be legalized. The bottomline for me is I have no desire to become intimate with a man who does drugs. To me that's something you might have done in college. To continue smoking weed in to your 30's, 40's and 50's is just mind boggling to me. I don't get it, why? I don't care if the guy earns $100,000.00 a year the pot smoking is a deal breaker for me. It's only fair to mention that I was what they now call a 'binge drinker' in my early 20's and I did smoke pot a few times in college. I was a 'social smoker' in the truest sense of the term. I never purchased it and would only occassionally smoke it at parties. So it's not like I have never experienced either one. I still enjoy a glass of wine with dinner or a cosmopolitan when out with friends. I just don't drink 5 Screwdrivers and 3 Berentzen's Appel shots like I did when I was 22. :tongue: It may help to know that I did date a guy many years ago who was an alcoholic. I have friends who are recoevring alcoholics, my point being, I know the signs. I don't want to walk that road again. I am also amazed at the number of people who have '420' in their screen name. Why on earth would you advertise that?! Are you judgemental? Do your morals, ethics, or religious up-bringing color who and what you find attractive?