Are you loyal?

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I'm not the unloyal or unfaithful one in any of my relationships. not that they all ended ugly, sometimes we agreed to walk away. sometimes remain friends and on speaking terms at least. only had a few that did not.

had one that cut off the relationship, then accused me of beating her. all because she wanted to go out with a friend of mine and didn't have the gumption to say we were done. then she went out with him, and he actually did rough her up a bit. which I warned her about before hand, but she thought I was lying. she was weird. didn't want to date me anymore, didn't want me dating anyone else. she was super psycho and looking back it was a blessing I got away from her.
 

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Yes. I have been 100% loyal to my husband for 16 years. To the point that I rarely make eye contact with another man. Even when my hubby is not with me.

I thought I was unloyal by visiting this site and the guilt of it was heavy. It took me a lot of sleepless nights to tell him I visit here and how I reacted to this new world of porn when I first saw it.

It turned out that it's okay. When I first stumbled here, it was like HOLY WOW! OMGGGG!!! Now, I rarely even comment on a pic.

I think that's because he knows I love him and think he is the single, most beautiful thing in my life. I would never want to fluck that up and he knows it.

Being honest in life is very important to us. We are in it together forever.
 

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I may not find out anything new about my mate which has been my mate now for around six years; I will promise him this though. If you continue as you have been, and love me as much as I love you, my emotional bond to you will deepen as hopefully will yours. I feel like it has. While I may already know every inch of your body, may I experience it differently at times in terms of emotion. Yes, many times we see the same body and the same faces, but it doesn't make me love you any less; matter of fact, over time I love you more as I admire your inner strength, who you are, what you are becoming and I see and feel that you look at me the same way. I will love you forever. I am not saying it doesn't take some work on both our parts to keep our relationship strong and fun. But it won't stay strong and fun without work. I think so far we are right on the money. I love you.
 

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Whether married, or in relationships.....I never once was unfaithful.

That does not mean that I have not looked at others...and maybe lusted a bit, but I never acted upon it. I am confident that all were as faithful as I....and that is a very good feeling.
 

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Remington, I know that's right. With that being said, I will say that I've always been loyal in romantic relationships. I can't say that some of my sexual partners can say the same.
 

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I'm loyal to my family and close friends. Other than that, lovers come and go. For me, that is the natural way of things. While I'm sure long-term monogamy works for some people, it hasn't been a thread through my life. And I don't cheat...it is a mutual agreement to move on.
 

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I know I am a 'giver' in relationships and family. I learned the hard way in relationships so when I am feel violated or clearly taken for granted - after
discussion the relationship ends as I am so 'out of there'. I feel what I call
'buyers remorse' by trying to make better mate choices. Family is family.
 

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Currently I have a FB. We are not monogamous and are open about our non-monogamy. I don't give my sexual freedom away for FBs.

In monogamous relationships, I believe I should be monogamous, as that is the deal I have made.
 

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I'm loyal. I'll go to war and back with those I care for. But if by chance they cross me, I'll ignore forever. Until they explain or admit they're wrong.

For example, I'll call a cousin for his/hers birthday. They forget to call for mine. I'll remember that. And hold it against them if they're in a pinch/need advice.

We can have fun chill go out all year etc, but miss my bday and call me afterwards... like no big deal, you know that's ignorant.

This sounds incredibly rigid and lacking in compassion.

You define and dictate others actions and make no allowance for what may be bedeviling their lives in the hours, days or weeks of their lives of which you are ignorant.


That is not loyalty at all... its tyranny... the despotism of your way or no way.


Once a person is a friend of mine... there is practically nothing they can do to alienate my ability to understand and accept them.
I could give a rats ass if they are good at remembering my birthday. Some people are, some people aren't.

The question is... if I called them, in dire need... would they come, no matter what?

They know that about me... that I would drop anything, no matter the cost, if and when it matters.

And that I would not ask them to... if it did not.


Absolutism is the enemy of real rapport... and a form of selfishness that does not do well in a long term relationship.

And keeping score, tallying every injury, no matter how slight or unintended, is the path to growing resentment and the primary mechanism by which relationships that start so well, decay into bitterness and betrayal.

I have never met someone with your attitude, that has been married for 25 years, much less 50.


it is easy to be a petulant accountant, keeping a ledger of your own ego.

Forgiveness and compassion for what other's endure is hard... but it is the path to maturity and genuine love.
 

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This is the most retarded thread I've seen on here in a while. Now, some of the responses are well expressed and some are even quite moving.

But everyone is answering using their own definitions for 'loyal', while it appears the OP meant 'sexually exclusive'. The OP seems to equate 'bad people' with 'cheaters'. The common definition of cheating is having sex with another partner, and this definition ignores every single kind of open/poly relationship.

The thread as a whole is ridiculous.
 

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This is the most retarded thread I've seen on here in a while. Now, some of the responses are well expressed and some are even quite moving.

But everyone is answering using their own definitions for 'loyal', while it appears the OP meant 'sexually exclusive'. The OP seems to equate 'bad people' with 'cheaters'. The common definition of cheating is having sex with another partner, and this definition ignores every single kind of open/poly relationship.

The thread as a whole is ridiculous.

Yeah... there's a word for open and poly/relationships.... temporary.

Clearly, the majority of humanity has concerns over sexual fidelity.
Even Muslims with multiple wives are VERY concerned about their wive's faithfulness, and their wives do not cotton to them dallying with women not in the marriage.

What is retarded is for someone who has no interest in that kind of commitment to imagine as ridiculous a thread dealing with the fact that MOST human beings ARE seeking commitment.

In other words.... folks on your cited fringe of human behavior really don't count much in terms of what most people consider valid discussion on relationships.

What rich history, in literature and song, do we share about open relationships? ...I mean, other than the cautionary tales demonstrating how untenable they can be?

I don't see how a discussion of fidelity, and the wider aspect of loyalty to which it is related, engaged in by people who value such, can be "ridiculous", any more than a separate discussion by fuckarounds, on how much they love to fuckaround.
 

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Wow thank you.
I get variative posts.
I can learn a lots ;-)



exactly crushted
if thats what the thread you have created procuces
all well and GOOD
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