Are you marriage material?

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Well, I thought I was, but then I found out I wasn't. And I was happy with that.

Then I found out I really was. And I'm very happy about that.
 

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i've never wanted to be married and have kids. what i had to deal w/growing up and the hypocrites of the so called adults made me think twice about it. the asking of the questions: what is love, what is commitment, what is forever, are people taking this cheaply, etc.
 

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I certainly am not based on the current state of affairs regarding men vs. women in the USA. The laws regarding divorce are just too slanted in women's favor (I'm NOT looking to start a debate, just my observations from a male POV.) imo... That and I CANNOT and will NOT be controlled via withholding sex. I've experienced it, heard many, many a friend vent to me about it. Statistics don't lie, sexual intercourse goes DOWN in marriage, not all but most. The fire, lust, and slight insecurity (which increases sexual frequency) is put out in the marriages I've observed/been vented about.

I'd be all for marriage if I finally become the man I want to become, and or I find the absolute right woman, but again... In these times finding a woman that I find very attractive (body wise more than face) with a matching personality... HA it's just a dream, a fairy tale to me. Ive lived on the East coast for some time and seen 10,000's of women through out my life. Very rarely have I found a handful of them that I could say I would settle for, esp mentally. I just cannot deal with the drama and BS that comes with very attractive women.
__Obvious not ALL women, DUH (why must men have to disclaim this every time?!), but most are just too much hassle for me to want to risk the mental damage that comes from divorce; +50% with ~71% filers being WOMEN... Yeah I'm not to thrilled with those numbers/horror stories. I don't want the big "D"ivorcee over my head, nor do I want a broken family, nor do I want to fight over kids, or be jealous of some replacement rah rah.
__When I think about it, there's just too many technicalities that come to mind for me to say I'll take that leap of faith. I'd rather just be with a life partner, and legally file for rights vs some ridiculously expensive and cornball, antiquated ceremony that EVERYONE knows is more about the bride than the groom. Marriage for my folks has been wonderful and very long... I fear those times and that mindset is all but extinct these days...

Lastly, I just don't trust women as much as I used to, when my "Bubble of Delusion" wasn't burst and my vision now purified of just how lecherous some women can be. All of the social networking sites, txting, phones etc... Give women waaaaay to many options/opportunities for constant temptation to UPGRADE ya, or to have some secret affair (yes men do too, but they don't have sex offerings every day of their life by poor, rich, hot, ugly... EVERY kind of man is hitting on your woman 24/7, not so with guys.). Idiot Ex boyfriends as "friends" on f4cebook, or hitting her up constantly hoping to get back in the goods or just hating on you for kicks... Hell I've even seen on LPSG/misc forums people getting a divorce after 10, 15, 20yrs... WTF? What kind of man can mentally recover after that & not be bitter; it's all I hear about from "D"men!? It's much easier for a woman that's kept herself in good shape (a REQUIREMENT of mine, bc I am and will always strive to be) to jump back in the game. GFs of hers pre-scouting out new suitors while she plans to bail on you. I don't wanna be some pepper-haired noob back "out there," all bitter, mistrustful... Major damaged goods, huh old player lol. :frown1:

Damaged mentality eh? Guess I'm just a mLTR type; I think I'm just less deluded as before about the serious reality regarding the state of man vs. woman these days. I really wish it wasn't so "vs." but it is. I need a stepford wife, an andriod or to become a citizen of an Arab nation lol. :wink:
 

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When I was much younger I truly felt incomplete outside of a relationship, and as a result made some pretty terrible choices (and a few that maybe weren't). My last go-round lasted nine years and ten months, but really should have ended after four, perhaps five years.

The reasons why I worked so hard to keep such a failure on life-support were many and rather complicated, but the one I kept going back to was the fact that, at his request, we went through a commitment ceremony in 1996. I stood before almost 100 people, including most of my closest friends, my family and many co-workers and verbally declared that I considered us married, and not just living together. I promised before everyone that I'd always be with him and take care of him, and took that promise so seriously that the the eventual separation, though necessary, felt like an amputation.

Though I've toyed with the idea of finding another LTR, I don't ever want to experience that level of dismay again. So, no: at least right now I'm not "marriage material" at all.
 

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I guess my wife thought so, but me? Hell no. Im a fucking mess. Im working toward being that awesome lil shiny nugget o marriage material, so in the meantime she keeps me and lets me fuck shit up from time to time. ;-)
 

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Ignoring the fact he's only looking for women's opinions. I'd like to think I'm marriage material, at least. Never really lived with anyone else, though... so I can't say for sure. In terms of where I am in life - maybe. Never owned a home or bought a brand new car so I'm rather financially inexperienced. I also am my mother's Primary caretaker - so that's a bit of a problem.

Hmm... I guess overall it's a brutal no - lack of experience.
 
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I am marriage material, I can cook, clean, be funny, open up my legs, wash plates, hunt, suck, have a profession, arty, sci fi freak, outdoor freak, party animal, peace and quiet animal, do charity work, good looking and make someone feel good :)
 

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maybe he's trying to get a peek at what folks classify as marriage material?

seems like domestic skills are a high priority :smile:
 

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I used to think I was absolutely marriage material; perfectly suited for domestic life. After 20 years, I find that I've apparently been deluding myself.
 

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I am marriage material, I can cook, clean, be funny, open up my legs, wash plates, hunt, suck, have a profession, arty, sci fi freak, outdoor freak, party animal, peace and quiet animal, do charity work, good looking and make someone feel good :)

Haha holy shit, I just read the quote, and didn't even look at the left side... I KNEW you had to be a man --- damn it! LMFAO. :eek:
 

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maybe he's trying to get a peek at what folks classify as marriage material?

seems like domestic skills are a high priority :smile:

If that's the case, I will be unmarried for a very long time.
Then again, I've always said I didn't want to get married lol. So, no surprise there.