Are you more like your parents than you care to admit?

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  1. earllogjam

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    How far away from the tree did you really drop?

    When I was a kid I always said - "I will never be like my father - ever!" But strangely as I get older I see a lot of myself in him. The way I see things, react to things, go about doing things, thought patterns. Am I turning into my father? Not completely, but I see what parts of myself I got from him and my mother. Some I have consciously tried to eradicate. I guess I just haven't been able to escape all that family wierdness. This only is worse when other relatives or friends comment how similar we are at family functions. Ughh.

    Has anybody else had similar experiences? Or discovered that you really didn't drop that far away from the tree contrary to what you believed or wanted?
     
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    I'm more like my father than I would like. But I'm more like my mother, which I think is absolutely fantastic. I want to be my mom when I grow up. :smile:
     
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    Absolutely!

    I think I am a good mix of both. How can one help it? I happen to think I had pretty good parents, though. SO, if I am half the woman they raised me to be, I am on my way!
     
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    It's very strange how much we become like our most important male and female role-models. My mother died when I was 7, so my father did most of the 'raising' until I was 13, then I went to live with my aunt and uncle. I've tried to incorporate all the good parts of my father's personality, like his tidiness and punctuality, but there are times that my BF is like, "Stop acting like John Jr.!" I hate that.

    It dismays me to know how few parents understand the profound impact they are having on their children with the way they act.
     
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    Mom's with big dicks. I think I saw that contingent at the Gay Pride Parade.
     
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    I like to think I am the best parts of both my parents, but I know that's not true. I have my dads style of argueing. He has an annoying habit of bringing up things that happend 10 years ago just to prove a point. When I am stubborn and won't back down my dad says I am a Montgomery, my moms family; but my mom will say I am just like my father lol :tongue: :biggrin1: :tongue: They are both right. Mom's family can hold a grudge until the end of time and if her sister or nieces say you are dead to them. That's all she wrote, you will never hear from them again.
     
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    When I got out of college I started to realize how much I was like my dad. There were a lot of things about him I wanted to avoid becoming, but it seems it's impossible to resist...

    Now that I'm a few years older, I think our characteristics have finally diverged a bit.
     
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    If you are half a woman, is your name Eileen or Peggy?
     
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    I'm very much like my mother, but she says that I have many manerisms of my father, who I never knew, since he died suddenly when I was about 9 months old.

    Genetics are strong things. We can't escape traits that are embedded in our genetic makeup, but the experiences we have from growing up with our parents flavors some of our being.

    The really wierd thing is that I am a lot like one of my maternal grandfather's brothers--in thinking, in action, in likes/wants. That's the scary thing that things will skip generations and rear their heads when least expected!
     
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    Workin' up a good pot of mad!

    :eek:
     
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    Oh yes, I was definitely blessed with that laconic, blunt, Norwegian personality. Along with depression, and a few other choice qualities.
     
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    I'm quite a bit like my parents, but that's a good thing. I only wish I had more of my Mom's inner strength. She was an incredible woman and an amazing human being.

    So, yes, I'm much like my parents, but I don't mind admitting it!
     
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    I'm like both of my parents, in terms of their best and worst qualities. No middle ground, apparently.

    And this after trying so damned hard to escape being strange like them.

    :eek:

    NCbear (who wishes sometimes that he could go back in time and start over, knowing what he does now)
     
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