Are You Or Have You Known A Female Sex Addict And What Problems...

[Burt2021]

...(if any) did sex addiction create?

 

[TinyPrincess]

Not enough men around to satisfy me...?

 

[MickeyLee]

Actual sex addiction is damaging and toxic.

Pathology ain't sexy. And so not wank fodder material. Very little of the impulse is sexual, sex is just the way deep unhappiness is medicated

Women with high sex drives they are eager to act upon? Yes. And it was dope.

 

[Burt2021]

And so not wank fodder material.

Certainly not for me. It's a genuine question.

 

[Enid]

i want to ask you what you mean by the term sex addict. do you mean hypersexuality? that could relate to BPD and other assorted mental diagnoses. do you mean porn addiction? could entail depression, anxiety, OCD etc.

a family member who is a professional in the field would argue that there is no such thing as sex addiction in the way that the term is typically thrown around these days.

see AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists) statement on the matter:

"The idea that people can be addicted to sex (or to porn) implies that people’s sex drives and erotic interests can be grouped into normal and not normal, which could leave those with alternative sexual identities vulnerable to discrimination. It can also suggest that using sex or pornography as a coping mechanism is always a bad thing—when in fact it may be perfectly healthy way to deal with stress and other problems."

the consensus is around 3% of the population self-identifies as a sex addict (there is no DSMV designation for it yet) and around 80% of that 3% are men. this prompts me to assume the characteristics of sex addiction skew significantly towards men and more stereotypical male behaviors.

so i ask you again, what do you mean by female sex addiction? what behaviors are you referring to, what pathologies, etc.

 

[Burt2021]

Well, I think I would define as when one's "need" for sexual pleasure interferes with their daily responsibilities. That happened to me when I was in my 20's (I'm 55 now) in that I was always masturbating and seeking sexual highs. It interfered with my jobs and with my relationships because, instead of taking care of those, I was filled with lust and sexual highs.

I got married when I was 31 and I still wasn't satiated and that caused problems in my marriage, although we stuck it out for 13 miserable years.

I met my current wife 6 years ago and now I am completely well and happy, although I presume age has played a large part in my now, under control, sex drive. My wife and I have sex only 2-3 times per week and we are very much in love and very fulfilled together.

I created this thread out of a genuine interest in other's experiences but I probably should have posted it in another sub-forum. I'm new here and I hadn't considered the plethora of dudes likely asking the ladies questions for the purpose of coming up with, as another put it, "wank fodder".

Is it possible for a moderator to move this thread to a more appropriate forum? Thanks.

 

[Enid]

Well, I certainly appreciate you acknowledging the plethora of not-so-subtle creepy questions we get around here. I do think your question is fine here, though, since about women & sexual behavior.

I don't really have an answer for you, as I've never known a woman who self-identifies as a sex addict.

I had one friend a long time ago who, when I confessed my level of masturbation habits at the time, asked me if I was depressed. But doesn't everyone go through periods where libido is kicked up a notch? It never interfered with my job or life otherwise. I certainly would not classify myself as an addict.

 

[Burt2021]

I suffered from depression for years and masturbation was a coping mechanism for me.

 

[Drifterwood]

I agree with Enid, the term evolved as a legal defence tool rather than a human condition.

My experience is that conditions occur when people seek to have more or less sex and sexual partners than their basic sex drive is seeking, in a sense they are no longer seeking sex, but sex as a substitute or affirmation etc of something else.

 

[Burt2021]

...they are no longer seeking sex, but sex as a substitute or affirmation etc of something else.

Very well said. I think you hit the nail on the head!

 

[Scarletbegonia]

True addiction of anything, not the popular misuse of the term (No one is a half caf low-fat latte addict, or a tv show addict), eats your soul and your life.
My ex was a gambler. He hid how much, he hid the damage. That’s addiction. He knew he needed to stop, and could not.
It destroyed us, it financially destroyed me, as my retirement was lost.

 

[sander88]

it turns me on

 

[deleted1000191]

An old girlfriend was certainly a sex addict. She owned a roadhouse, and had lots of opportunity to fuck a lot of guys. It was pretty common for her to fuck at least a half dozen guys each day on the weekend. I would go in the back room and lick her clean whenever I was there. I bet my friends would be surprised to know I was eating their cum during that time. She would talk openly about how good a fuck a guy was while he was still in the saloon. Some good, some bad, but always a hilarious description.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

An old girlfriend was certainly a sex addict. She owned a roadhouse, and had lots of opportunity to fuck a lot of guys. It was pretty common for her to fuck at least a half dozen guys each day on the weekend. I would go in the back room and lick her clean whenever I was there. I bet my friends would be surprised to know I was eating their cum during that time. She would talk openly about how good a fuck a guy was while he was still in the saloon. Some good, some bad, but always a hilarious description.

This isn’t the place for your sexual fantasies.

can’t get deleted fast enough.

 

[Oldcowboy]

Im highly sexed myself and thought id hit it rich when i got with a gorgeous "nympho."

Young, dumb and horny--- and self centered--that was me. But i got to knowing her, caring about her----part if it was how she got approval, felt good about herself, got " loved", validated.
She was actually quite intelligent and talented. And as for " hitting it rich"---i kinda did,$$ wise.
And i started growing up. She came to a turning point in her life, i was fortunate in being able to help her thru it---- a d start her on her way. But the success and what shes become----thats her doing.

After a few yrs, wed get togethor, now and then......and it was spectacular!

 

[Evenflow618]

Yes I have meant a sex addict. She was very in denial that it was okay to have sex with 4 different men. I realized that sex was a coping mechanism for her when she would use sex as a way to not fix her problems. Not only that she always needed sex every time we saw each other. Multipke orgasms were never enough . When she crashed my car she tried to use sex as a way to assauge the situation. After i stopped talking to her i met a guy that we both knew who told me she was still trouble. She kept having sex with many different men taking advantage of men who wouldnt get female attention. I hope she is doing well and has changed.

 

[MilfBanger78]

A true sex addict, not really. I've been with women that have really supercharged sex drives, to borderline hypersexual like myself. Its a different side of the coin. Women are so much more mentally stimulated than men are, its part of what makes them so wondrous and fascinating.

 

[antonio]

I've known girls with a sex drive higher than my own, but I'm not sure I'd classify them as "sex addicts."


I read a book by a woman who qualifies as one. Pretty intriguing. The short story is that she grew up feeling like an outcast because of scoliosis and back braces made her feel different from everyone else. This led her to escapism through pornography and non-stop masturbation, later doing one-night stands a lot and then coming to terms with her closet bisexuality and alcoholism too. It 's a good read:
Getting Off: One Woman's Journey Through Sex and Porn Addiction (2018) by Erica Garza

 

[Oldcowboy]

...(if any) did sex addiction create?

It's a symptom, not a disease.
If you --- better put--- if I take advantage of another's emotional and mental problems for my own shallow sexual gratification---- I'm a sorry, using prick.

Now, a well adjusted, together, highly sexed individual--- who is doing something because they want to--- not because they " have" to--- GiddyUp!

 

[53116]

see AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists) statement on the matter:

"The idea that people can be addicted to sex (or to porn) implies that people’s sex drives and erotic interests can be grouped into normal and not normal, which could leave those with alternative sexual identities vulnerable to discrimination. It can also suggest that using sex or pornography as a coping mechanism is always a bad thing—when in fact it may be perfectly healthy way to deal with stress and other problems."

Always enjoy your perspectives Enid.

This should be nominated for the motto for LPSG. If only more posters here and in the world could approach life like this.