Are You Socially Retarded?

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Hi im the first to admit im a dag and would be boring to hang with, I like my time alone spent doing things i like but also enjoy the times im with few close friends. Socially im shy which can come across being arrogant or otherwise so i do make effort to talk to a new person each time im out.. its slowly getting easier but still not always up to it.

Shy but wild

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Because I'm not a social butterfly am I therefore retarded? :rolleyes:

I just think that's a little...negative. I also happen to think it's "retarded" to be a loud obnoxious twat. I am very happy to be on my own a lot of the time. I don't go looking for social interactions; I don't 'need' them for energy, happiness etc. I can be sociable and do go out a few times a week but I don't thrive on meeting people.

I am not as sociable as most people.
 

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You haven't been laid in a very long time from what you recently posted,remember?
Maybe you should spend less time insulting others and get laid you wouldn't be such crabby bitch.
You are probably ashamed of your body.
lol


"What has that got to do with the price of fish"? (The statement is probably wrong, but my friend usually says that when I go off subject.)

Now, before you get into a catfight, yes, I maybe younger, yes, I am socially retarded, but there are some of us, who due to general lack of luck, have been less fortuate in those experiences.

I know I am turning the attention to me, but for something like this, it maybe a gentle reminder of what you take for granted.

- Firstly, I've never had sex in my life. (Or atleast not what I know of)

- Secondly, I've never really touched anyone else (with intention) in a location for sexual arousement. I have touched a few, who have had their clothes on, on brests and I mean very few (less than 3 fingers worth). One of them wasn't due to me, that was someone placing my hand on her brests and giving them a rub. Except, guess who got into trouble?

- Thirdly, apart from porn, family and other still images, I have never seen anyone else nude. Plenty have had their way over MSN and seen me nude, and yes, they have asked me to go a lot further than I wanted to, but this goes back to the thread I started. Yes, they've got me to do things for them, I never could see them on webcam really, or not upclose and personal. There were those that promised and lied through their bloody teath.

- Fourthy, I am <quoute> a social retard </quote> anyway. Not through fault of my own.

Now, you see how deprived I am? Oh yeah, I am nearly 22 (22 next week in fact!). Now, I've started a thread to help me and others in the same situation. Social retardiness is often not a fault of ourselves, but our genetic makeup. It could be the way our mind is made up or the way we interact with others. We may have a phobia against a particular group of society or we just maybe faulty for some other reasons. If some of the socially retarded members want to look at the thread started, try here:
http://www.lpsg.org/76737-socially-defunct-how-to-questions.html

Lastly, I think to be honest, socially retarded is a strong statement to make, I would rather use socially deficent, as its a sight handicap to us, not you. It also means we are difficult to understand.



I hope these comments help you both to look at life differently.
 

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I'm a man, and I never related to men's communication disability. I've never been scared to admit what I'm feeling, despite being male. I can talk about my emotions so much you'd think I was a woman until you saw me and what was down below.:biggrin1:

Women have feet, too.
 

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I'm a bit shy at first, but then I am Okay. You tend to get less shy as you get older.

I'd rather be shy than the opposite...loud and obnoxious.
 
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Corporate America has thrown at me a fair share of "inspirational" speakers, all peddling their own brand of "how to make friends and become influential" propaganda.

It's all about skin-deep "empathy":

"How InvisibleMan, I see you're invisible, how droll!"

"mem0101, is your 1&#37; straight a Yankees fan? hahaha!"

"SpoiledPrincess, I so lovvvvvve London. Some of my best [fake] friends live in Ireland."

Those robots are always on...and no they did not invest in an "off" switch.

If that is the OP's definition of Socially Advanced...

Kill me! Kill me!
 

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Whatever gave you that idea S&s, obviously as well as being socially retarded you're intellectually retarded :) Why would I be ashamed of my body, my tits are real, my hair is it's natural colour?

If you don't like the way the women on here speak to you maybe you should stop being such a brainless cunt, stop commenting on things outside your experience and just stick to showing your twat.

TOUGH AND FUNNY.:lmao::lmao:
 

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Yes. My family never socialized beyond the relatives back East and one uncle and aunt in California. I was part of a small group of nerds that ate lunch together in high school, one girl and 4 guys. When I was a junior I was told to talk to the cross-country and track coaches and I joined the team, that helped some in high school and junior college. When I went to state college I joined a hiking club and even started folk dancing with some of the friends I made. Later I was president of the hiking club. The point I would like to make is that I opened myself up and people drew me in and became friends.

I am married, we don't socialize in "partying" circles, not smoking or drinking seems to exclude a lot of people. We live in the woods near a small town and we meet people in our jobs but for the most part we are loners. Socially retarded? Maybe, or maybe we just like our privacy.
 

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I used to be painfully shy in almost all social situations. Like prince_will and DC_DEEP, I've learned to overcome that and act as though I'm comfortable. Before, people had interpreted my awkwardness (great term, prince_will!) as arrogance.

But there's something else, too: A lot of social situations have significant background noise, and I have a hearing problem--or, more accurately, an "interpretation of sounds" problem--that keeps me from being able to clearly distinguish foreground sounds (people speaking to me) from background sounds (loud music in a club, for example).

It's called Central Auditory Processing Disorder; I found out what my problem was when I went to a hearing specialist trying to find out whether I had actual hearing loss. (See Auditory Processing Disorder or Google it for more information.)

She found that my hearing is excellent, and then she handed me a brochure on this condition listing about 30 signs/symptoms and said, "But of course, this probably isn't what it could be." I looked down and in a moment said, "I have all but two of these symptoms."

They range from not learning well from listening to being easily able to block out what's going on in a room if reading.

So when I go to an event where there are a lot of people (club, sporting event, etc.), I resign myself to having to read lips or else not speak much. It can really throw a wrench into my social life.

So something as simple as an auditory disorder might have a significant effect on people's social "skills" or abilities.

NCbear (who does much better, both socially and "auditorially," in small groups at house parties, picnics, family reunions, etc.)
 

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I tend to casually join groups or conversations with the intention of blending, mixing, and sharing. I see casual conversation as more a give-and-take pastime than a competition. My aim is usually to be content as a contributing member rather than the dominant personality. That, of course, puts me in an awkward spot so often when I find myself in a group of men. men. I confess, I'm puzzled and a bit dismayed by those who have a need to continually draw attention to themselves at the expense of the group.

Are women better communicators than men? It's tempting to believe so but I'm not really convinced. Certainly women get more practice conversing but I've seen so many female communications being quite trite and superficial. Personally I'd prefer silence to superficiality.
 

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Socially retarded is politically incorrect.

You should ask, do you have Social Downs Syndrome.
 

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I suffer from nearly crippling shyness in social situations. I just had to teach myself the skills to deal with it. Ah, the number of times I have simply had to force myself to walk up to someone, introduce myself, shake hands, and start a conversation... agonizing, but worth it.

I can relate with what DC_DEEP has had to say. He could be talking about me.

I clam up when confronted with new people and almost always find it difficult to start a conversation - which is why you will very seldomly find me starting threads.

Initially it was with both sexes, however I now find it easier to converse with women than with men. I simply don't know what to talk about, so it's best for me to shut up than to make a fool out of myself. Obviously, it's much easier to converse over the net.

The one thing that really helped me overcome a lot of my social inadequacy came from stupidly being employed to manage a hair salon. At first I crapped bricks sideways, however it was good because I was forced to break out of my shell an attempt to be a sociable being. It was difficult and at times it still is, but it's worth it.

In short, I'm the kind of person who will be very shy and introverted when you initially meet me, but once I've warmed up to you and had the opportunity to get to know you better, you'll wish that I would shut the hell up. :eek:
 

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Certainly women get more practice conversing but I've seen so many female communications being quite trite and superficial.

A lot of what we say isn't verbal and in those trivial female conversations there's often a lot more going on that is apparent to your average male eye. Apart from the obvious bonding through communication they're often something that reinforces your place in that group, the pecking order.