It's like a question staying in my mind forever.I notice there seemingly more and more alleged gay performers and content creators have sex with transgender woman and mostly they are bottom.I don't know if they just collaborating or simply lying about sexuality.Either way regarding to me is literally confusing
First thing first, we need to agree on one crucial premise.Gay men are the men who are exclusively attracted to man both romantically and sexually ,right?In this case, it’s absolutely unimaginable and unbelievable for me that a gay man feel comfortable and pleasurable to being topped by a woman?Don’t get me wrong.I like watching trans porn which even triggers some kind of BI inside me.I have followed plenty of trans woman twitter and only fans.However the major reason I am doing this is that I want to see the hot straight/BI men(alleged but limit to trans women, so plz stop calling yourself BI)get fucked than I am attracted to TS . After a period of exploring this journey and that's when I found some gay men were also involved.I still remember how shocked I was when I came across one twitter that is about a hung trans woman who was in an outdoor gay festival and quite a few gay guy eagerly and impulsively came over to suck and get fucked.Hopefully,I was wrong about them and they were straight/bi, which would have made some sense to me
I couldn’t help asking why.If it’s all about business and collaboration,it couldn’t explain what I saw in twitter.If some defend it’s about sexual desire flexibility,that would be nonsense.Being topped by transgender woman is almost like being strap-on by a woman.If that is sexually accepted by a gay men,I would say how about we call the entire human race pansexual.If it’s because that they are desperate and horny bottoms and want every dicks in their mouths and their holes, that could explain somehow, but still I am highly skeptical if that kind of urge can really break the limits of sexual orientation. If possible,it could be my greatest shock of the year.Before this post,I talked with several friends about this and all of them are on my side and some even thought this kind of idea grossed them out.
Anyway,I still want to hear what you guys think,especially those gay amigos who had this kind of experience
I find very interesting how you present your thoughts and experience.
I detect a general confusion as to how this whole thing can happen, and this lack of understanding seems to cause a sense of fear/rejection.
The way I see it, you either consciously or unconsciously have vested yourself as gay gatekeeper, assuming some sort of preexisting standards, codes and rules as your own.
This is not necessarily something bad, it just happen as we grow up, we learn and internalise certain behaviours that we assume as our own even though they are part of our primary socialization (family).
As puberty hits, our sexual learning comes from the secondary socialization (peers, media, collectives...). So trying to get our head around certain things might not even be an option as we have not been given the appropriate tools.
Think of "learning shapes", the childhood toys we all played with. You had a set of forms and shapes, and matching holes where you had to put them through. The triangle with the triangle, the square with the square, the circle with the circle, and so on, but, before anyone learned to match shapes, we all started to fit things in, regardless, and so the triangle would fit inside the square, and the circle inside the square, and you could put them through sideways, this is how sexuality (and pretty much every social construct created around a natural occurrence) works in society. We play with everything, we have our favourites, and then we are taught what fits with what, and from then on we are struggling to understand why I get turned on by another homo sapiens sapiens when I'm supposed to be "exclusively" excited by a particular homo sapiens sapiens.
Anything Trans related just makes our brains implode because it not only doesn't fit within our learnt social constructs, it blows them to pieces. As a result of this, we now have to endure gender studies aka another futile effort to force the triangle through the triangle when we are all just a bunch of sand that could fit through any shape.
Apologies for the TED Talk, the complexity of your post did not allow for a yes or no answer.