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prepstudinsc: [quote author=tigerwolf link=board=clothing;num=1066792676;start=0#18 date=10/28/03 at 16:44:16]*rofl* No. Its not like playing stupid when you're smart. I do that in real life because stupid people have less expected of them.

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I expect a lot out of everybody...it was always expected of me, so I think everybody else needs to work hard, too. Even in college, I was expected to perform on the level of graduate students because my professors knew I could. I was taking grad level courses as a Junior because they let me into them since I had passed out of some of the undergrad classes in my major.

We have become a society of letting everyone take the easy way out. What good ever came of being lazy? Nothing. If I had someone working for me that I knew could do work and was taking the easy way, I'd work them to death (well, that may be a bad pun for me to use in my business! LOL) to get the to perform up to their capabilities.

 

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junior15074: I used to be very self conscious about my bulge. I learned early on I couldn't wear boxers with my tight jeans. You could see the outline of my dick hanging down the inside of my right leg. I had to switch to briefs and had to be very careful wear my dick was as it was still visable when wearing jeans. Now that I'm older I really don't care if it is visable or not. I d notice people staring everyonce in a while and have even saw some smiles from girls.

 

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jenny: I enjoy looking at mens packs to see what size they are. Why not enjoy it. When it is warm, I very often go without a bra and wear thin tops which doesn't hide much and enjoy being looked at.

 

[Pecker]

Hey, Jenny! Welcome to LPSG and thanks for your post.

Let's hear more from you!

Pecker

(May the forces of evil become confused on the way to your house.)

 

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hung9mike: I wouldn't describe myself as being ashamed of my bulge, but I think that there are many social situations in which showing too much "package" would be inappropriate. Even when I'm trying not to display too much, I've learned that people will notice anyway if they look.

 

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lomejorhombre: I have mentioned this a few times before.
I am a school teacher, and many young and impressionable High school girls looking at me. I am very self conscious to begin with and have always worn very baggy clothing. However, my wife likes to see my body and has gotten me comfortable wearring tighter clothing. But that was while I was in school. Now I am a science teacher with many ackward topics to discuss anyway. While I teach I look at all of my students in the eyes and often times I find their eyes were not meeting mine. And some of them would not even try to hide the fact that they were looking and staring. My buldge is very obvious, even in loose clothing. I wear a special strap I made (yes I can sew) and wear my shirts untucked, and a long tie to try and keep it formal and also to cover it when I sit down. Unfortunately the untucked shirt sometimes only accentuates it by parting around it.
Anyway I am not ashamed of my body!, but I do have to be conservative and cautious!

 

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wvalady1968: [quote author=jenny link=board=clothing;num=1066792676;start=20#22 date=11/07/03 at 05:57:35] I enjoy looking at mens packs to see what size they are. Why not enjoy it. [/quote]

Jenny,

I DO so agree!! Sometimes it's like having my own little soft porn film going inside my head!

Since Sammy and Nony have left, let me step forward and pin a LPSG Ladies Auxilliary button an your ample, er, um, blouse. Welcome to the forum!

Allie

 

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pghcyclist: I first noticed my bulge when I was twelve. My pants just began to get tight in crotch, so I began to rearrange my organ to make it more comfortable. I never thought anything about it, even when girls accused me of "stuffing a sock in my pants." I was just kinda obvlivious to having a big dick until I started to have sex.

Now, I do notice when people stare at "the bulge". I get a kick out of watching people's eyes shift downward and stop. I just pretend like it's not happening, but I can guess what they are thinking.

Now, the only time I am at all embarassed is when I get an erection and my bulge gets really really big (for me). This can be really annoying when it happens in socially inappropriate settings.

Scott

 

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getnbiggr: I don't have much of a bulge when soft -- I'm only about 4" soft and 7.5X6 hard -- but I do get hard at work sometimes which can be interesting. Most of the time I don't worry about it, and just go about my business, presuming that people don't really look. But that's mostly cause I'm not one of those guys who spends much time looking at another man's crotch...

It's funny -- I'm a gay man who can certainly enjoy another well hung man but I've never really been a habitual crotch-watcher. Now there are times and places when I've noticed and enjoyed a man's bulge -- I actually had a drink with LPSG-er pghcyclist one night and I will admit his bulge did catch my eye -- but typically I don't notice. And if a guy like me, who is gay, likes cock and specifically enjoys BIG cock, isn't looking, maybe all this worry about showing a bulge may not be quite so pressing.

I think that shame, however powerful it may be when you're feeling it, is usually a wasted emotion. Shame is about worrying how other people think/feel about something. And being ashamed for having a big bulge is just wrong. It's how you were born. It'd be like being ashamed for having brown eyes, or blond hair... (or for being gay, for that matter.)

Now I fully acknowledge that there are all sorts of social implcations that come from being hung XXL and that those can be complicated. But we shouldnt' have to add shame into the mix...

*shrug*

My 2 cents...

-- J.

 

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buddy43610: mr. average here. this time of year i wear 501s when i go out (nude all day at home). i freeball and present a package that is noticeable but not REAL pronounced. i have heard of guys using the sock trick for more bulge, but i have never in my 47 years done that. i always figured it was like lying and would be embarassed if i hooked up and got naked and they said something like "where did the bulge go? after reading this thread i decided to do an experiment though. i put on some briefs under my levis and stuffed a pair of ankle high socks in there and went grogery shopping. man, i sure liked how it looked and felt really confident. i thought all eyes would be fixed on my new package, but alas i didn't get one single stare (as far as i know). i have always agreed with the bulge/breast analogy though. it's just the way each of us is made. i new a guy with a very large package that use to dress department store windows and he got fired for not being able to "hide" his bulge in his jeans and management thought he was showing it on purpose, when truth was, he couldn't do anything about it. personally, i thought it was probably great for business. i wonder how sales went after he was fired. buddy

 

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HUMONGOUS: hung 11 inches and seven thick i do have a considerable bulge. i keep it in perspective. first of all i am a man and as such i do have a penis. while my penis is larger than most i do not feel compelled to hide it or be ashamed of it. i am conscious as are others that i do have one. being a male i am expected to have one. why is there a need for me to hide and conceal it. am i trying to prove to folks that i am the one male who does not have a penis?????? ;D ;D

 

[benderten2001]

[quote author=nacard01 link=board=clothing;num=1066792676;start=0#14 date=10/27/03 at 00:37:19]

"...today I stopped by to say hello to a friend who just got back from midterm break...he didnt know about me
i happen to be wearing sweatpants...i dont think at first he noticed but then i noticed him looking....its normally when you talk to someone they look at your face
he was talking and looking down at the same time.

...the point is it made me real self conscious."

.... but at the time i didnt even think about it

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I can certainly relate. The above has happened to me and many of us. (Took ME time to get used to these reactions. Talk about ackward moments!) I find such occasions (strangely?) amusing, now. When they occur, it's hard to keep from smirking to be honest!

Actually, only until a few years ago did I accept that I was always going to "show some kind of bulge".

I finally realized the absurdity of "over-worrying" about this fact and began looking at this characteristic about myself as a "positive". Despite my attitude around here these days, I haven't always been so "uninhibited". I would shock many of the faithful readers here as to how reclusive and repressed I was for a good bit of my adult life. Such wasted time in looking back. And, who was it that was losing out? Making myself miserable?
--ME. 'Glad things have changed.

Far from being an exhibitionist or even into voyerism (I'm a southern boy--nearly fifty years old), I did come to terms with the fact that as a man, I was better endowed than most. I was going to have to find a way to live with this "blessing!" and be happy about it.

We've had interesting responses here---true, many nearly "redundant" or reflective of other similar threads. However, be that as it may, I'm encouraged that our newer members here have indicated that they too, are beginning to "feel better about themselves" when once so self-conscious and down on themselves over being large. --Wow! Isn't this forum great!
We're getting the job done!

Why, it seems well-endowed fellas CAN enjoy life afterall.

Clothing choices boil down (really) to a knowledge of fabric texture and color (i.e. what's going to reveal bulge and not) and selecting the clothing for life's particular occasions. Yes, do your best to show discretion as you must (quite often in everyday life) but also allow yourself the freedom to enjoy your "good fortune" when you can (politely) wear something that's more comfortable and yes, more revealing --when you can get by with it. That's a healthy, proper attitude I think. As men, many of us have never given that much thought to clothing selection and all the knowledge about such matters. But, being "larger", seems it's REQUIRED learning. We often realize this only after some difficult moments in life when we are either embarrassed (or near being mortified!) when we "show" in the wrong place at the wrong time. No one told us this stuff when we were growing up. Too bad.

While we can't change our size, we CAN change our outlook and dispositions LIVING with it.

 

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SpeedoGuy: [quote author=pghcyclist link=board=clothing;num=1066792676;start=20#27 date=11/10/03 at 11:13:47]I never thought anything about it, even when girls accused me of "stuffing a sock in my pants."  I was just kinda obvlivious to having a big dick until I started to have sex.
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Similar situation here. I didn't think of myself as being big until girls started hinting it, either through jokes or glances or comments. Eventually some of them got the chance to confirm for themselves what they suspected and by that time I was ready to help them discover.

SG

 

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ruscular: Whats with the wearing of big baggy pants real low with the underwear sticking out? Is that anything to do with the bulge? Is it suppose to be sexy?

 

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ruscular: for a short time I had a short italian body building partner, and he join the gym and back then wearing leotard was in, so I loan him my pair to wear. I saw other guys wearing them and one of the reason I wore them because there was a lady that made them that also work out there. So everyone was wearing her fashion in that gym. Well the gym owner thought that my bulge and his bulge was too much and he kick us out of the gym that day.
Another incident involving swimming down this very popular river. Bunch of guys wanted to fight me because I was wearing a speedo swim trunk. And my friend that I was with brought out a tire wrench when they brought out a bat. All because of wearing speedo in a redneck town. I still dont understand what happen.

 

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009_and_a_half: I always show a bulge -- whether jeans, flat-front dockers, or pleated dress pants. I have big legs, so there's no room for it down the leg. I know my co-workers -- male and female -- notice, but I don't wear my clothes so tightly that it's obscene. I wear clothes that fit -- whether casual or my suits which with my build have to be tailored if they're going to fit. If anything, the bulge fits the rest of my build -- I bulge everywhere, and there's a big difference between my chest and my waist. I'm a man with a man's body, and that's not exactly news.

 

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giozam76: Hey guys! Wow - I haven't posted in months! Good to see some of the same names are still here!

When I first discovered this forum last year, I was curious about this topic as well. I finally just came to the decision, as some of you may remember, to just wear the clothes I like to wear, and fuck what anyone thinks. Don't get me wrong - I never purposely make my bulge obvious...sometimes it just can't be helped, no matter what I wear or do.

There is a lot of shame in our society attached to our bodies, and anything else that we perceive to be related to sex. A large penis has always been connected to notions of hypersexuality and even sexual violence, specifically toward African American and Latino males and white society's stereotypes of them.

The penis, specifically the large penis, is stigmatized in our society. Maybe not to the level that the female body is exploited in just about every form of media today, but the idea of a huge cock is, frankly, frightening to many in our society because of the stigma attached to it. We as large dicked guys have absolutely bought into this notion and therefore feel ashamed because we sometimes cannot help but show an obvious bulge at times (sometimes all the time). Our shame that we have attached to our large penises will not go away until we as individuals begin to break down the stereotypes that we ourselves have bought into, in some form or another, that keep us ashamed of our own natural bodies.

It isn't easy, I know. For someone who got teased all the time in high school when I was in the locker room, I KNOW it's difficult and shameful. But part of me being a healthy adult male is accepting my body for what it is, and loving it. Until we are able to do this is, we will never break free from the shame. I have only recently been more comfortable with it, and have never felt better in my life. Giving up that insecurity and not caring what other people think is true freedom. Good luck!

Giozam76 (GLAD TO BE BACK!)

 

[grnman]

There was a time when I did hide my equipment, but I have come to accept my size, and now just wear what I like. And, I don't like baggy pants, so I bulge. Of course, I do get stared at, etc. sometimes, but so be it.

However, I am very discrete at work. In general I don't want coworkers to know how big I am to avoid possible complications, which I have happen in the past.

I recommend being who you are, and exercise judgement.

 

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bigrodney86: rawkstar:

i can offer advice, but we are very very different when it comes to this subject.

I know some guys are just "introverted" or whatever and dont like the attention, but, to me, there is no reason to get bummed over the idea you're still showing a bulge after you've tried to lessen its appaerance.

it's apart of your body, learn to accept it, and learn not to care. in my opinion, worrying needlessly about people seeing that you're hung is a sign you're not proud of it or don't like it. try some loose fitted boxers, and some pants like dockers, or relaxed cords.

i bet that you are so insecure about it being noticed, uncomfortable vibes just pour out of u.. and *that* attracts *way* more attention than if you were just walking with a good bulge swinging, but were totally oblivious of it and didn't care.

even after trying lots of different clothes down there, if you still arent happy with how much shows up... you aren't doing anything wrong, and you can't stop people from looking. feel the sway and enjoy that its there.

BigRodney

 

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oasis: I know exactly what you guys are talking about.I am 23 male in photo album. I too try and hide my stuff, for instance, today I was at the local college and was helping with the paramedic program demonstrating a traction splint, how it works how to set it up etc, by he way I am a paramedic, anyhow, basically the thing is set up to align a long bone (femur) and reduce pain. Their is a paded end that goes right at your crotch and when all set up, you pull down at the ankles to "strech" the bone. anyhow doing this does bunch up your stuff and put pressure on it. well I didnt notice but if your bigger, it really does cause a noticeable bulge, and theres nowhere for it to go, its been years since i have played the victime and have only used the thing a few times on the road so had forgotten, well there I was for the entire class to see, including the two female paramdeic students learning on me, well I was surly embarassed as I knew they saw. anyways thats it