Oh we have that Skee wee Oooh ooh thing too in my family. I couldnt care less. I got rush letters multiple times from both and ran. My brother however did pledge as did my father and the generation before that. But they are not rabid about their frats.
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Oh we have that Skee wee Oooh ooh thing too in my family. I couldnt care less. I got rush letters multiple times from both and ran. My brother however did pledge as did my father and the generation before that. But they are not rabid about their frats.
My mom has a friend whose husband is an Iota and he insisted on painting their house a golden yellow with brown shutters :lmao:
Ewwwwww. Now, Iota must be one of the lesser stars in the Black Fraternal fermament. Do enlighten me.
Iota Phi Theta
They aren't everywhere, at VSU they were the brainiac fraternity. Most were pre-med, or double majoring in stuff I never heard of.
I can answer this, and I don't think NJQT will mind...I know a good number of black women and a good number of them are drama queens. In order to get their point across they talk loud and shout, and often drag unrelated topics into the fray.
Example: at my job on a lazy Sunday, the woman in question has on a radio at a soul channel. It was loud. After about two hours of non stop wailing over the intercoms a man turned it to a mainstream station.
She was furious. Shouting stuff like "well, you can think white makes right, but let me tell you that what you did is wrong and I work here too and you know we have to share..." Okay, she was angry. But her first method was to be rude and loud. Why? It was her, the way she learned and the way she learned no one told her wasn't productive.
FWIW: My extended family is very much colorstruck. I grew up with my light skinned paternal cousins giving me crap & beating me up for being to dark and my maternal cousins gave me crap for not acting black enough. Oddly enough the few black girl friends I currently have are all light skinned.>>>NJQT
I had a housemate who was black and she amused me once by getting sunburned and complaining she looked purple (she did).
Her mother was color struck, and complained the man she married wasn't white enough. I can't understand that view. You marry for love, (and sometimes a checkbook), but have you heard of this situation in your surroundings?
I had a housemate who was black and she amused me once by getting sunburned and complaining she looked purple (she did).
Her mother was color struck, and complained the man she married wasn't white enough. I can't understand that view. You marry for love, (and sometimes a checkbook), but have you heard of this situation in your surroundings?
Yup, it's familiar to me. That sounds exactly like my maternal grandmother. She used to lean over as she was tucking us in at bedtime and tell us to keep it light.
I had no idea what she meant when I was younger (like 4 yrs old) until I asked an older cousin and she explained it to me.Funny story: In high school my dad forbid me to go to the senior prom with any white boys. This was a problem because three white guys had asked me and none of the black boys had asked me. I presume because they knew I didn't do drugs and I didn't put out.
Dad's reasoning: "What if you get married? What if you have kids? What will you do with their hair? " I swear to God those were his exact words. :tongue: :12: Fast forward a 18 months and I was pre-engaged to a sweet young man who happend to be very dark-skinned. When I bought him home to meet the family my moms sister said to me, "Did you have to bring home one as dark as the television?" The tv in question had a black plastic casing. I was shocked I really was. It was soon after that I stopped bringing home the guys I liked.Soon after that
Wow, PA!
It is amazing to me the psychic damage that has been done on people of color by themselves as well as others. There was a time when skin color did equal the amount one would make. There are many groups who have had this head job done on them. Look at American assimilation. it is my observation that it seemed to be an unspoken rule in coming to America, for one to marry the whitest white person you can find and hope that your children will looked less ethnic than you and be able to fit in better. This held sway for many generations of immigrants. Moving marginally white groups finally over into the desires state of whiteness and the privilege that it promised (Be it real or not) .
In the Black community at a certain point and (unfortunately to some degree today) one saw it within the spectrum of the blackness as we define it. Light married light or a successful dark man would marry a lighter woman in hopes that his children would not experience what he'd had to experience or if not successful, dark married dark and continued the cycle. ITwas rare that Blacks ever ventured outside of their race .The choice was made for them by laws prohibiting marriage across the racial line of Black vs White. The exception were war brides up to a certain point. Many of these patterns lingered on for a very long time until laws changed and people began to interact on a more frequent basis. Yet even today black still seems to be the final frontier.
That is why for many groups to bring home a black person an instant cry of alarm occurs. It doesnt matter how successful (unless you are Tiger Woods or a Baller) some seem to feel that skin color and features will wipe out any chances of succeeding in a majority society. The funny thing is that many of the features of blacks are secretly wished for if only on a lesser scale. Enter the new and improved black, the brown community. IT has flavor, it has excitement but it isnt quite as intense as black and makes one feel progressive without totally going the whole nine yards. Now do we do this consciously? In many cases no. It has become so insidiously ingrained that people often dont even realize that it is being done.
If you were part of a group that for a large part stayed in perpetual poverty, experienced discrimination overt and covert, and whose women and to some degree men felt the slap of disdain by those who did not find themselves in the same situation wouldnt you be angry? You think I am talking about Black people? Not necessarily. Yes it does happen to Blacks largely but look at whites who live below the poverty line, and Latin immigrant families as well as first Americans. .We all experience some of the same issues. We need to get past the divide and conquer mentality and try to do something to uplift all that are caught in the vicious cycle of poverty and ignorance.
(These are the result of sociological studies and my own observations neither is by any means infallible.)
It is amazing to me the psychic damage that has been done on people of color by themselves as well as others. There was a time when skin color did equal the amount one would make. There are many groups who have had this head job done on them. Look at American assimilation. it is my observation that it seemed to be an unspoken rule in coming to America, for one to marry the whitest white person you can find and hope that your children will looked less ethnic than you and be able to fit in better. This held sway for many generations of immigrants. Moving marginally white groups finally over into the desires state of whiteness and the privilege that it promised (Be it real or not) .
In the Black community at a certain point and (unfortunately to some degree today) one saw it within the spectrum of the blackness as we define it. Light married light or a successful dark man would marry a lighter woman in hopes that his children would not experience what he'd had to experience or if not successful, dark married dark and continued the cycle. ITwas rare that Blacks ever ventured outside of their race .The choice was made for them by laws prohibiting marriage across the racial line of Black vs White. The exception were war brides up to a certain point. Many of these patterns lingered on for a very long time until laws changed and people began to interact on a more frequent basis. Yet even today black still seems to be the final frontier.
That is why for many groups to bring home a black person an instant cry of alarm occurs. It doesnt matter how successful (unless you are Tiger Woods or a Baller) some seem to feel that skin color and features will wipe out any chances of succeeding in a majority society. The funny thing is that many of the features of blacks are secretly wished for if only on a lesser scale. Enter the new and improved black, the brown community. IT has flavor, it has excitement but it isnt quite as intense as black and makes one feel progressive without totally going the whole nine yards. Now do we do this consciously? In many cases no. It has become so insidiously ingrained that people often dont even realize that it is being done.
If you were part of a group that for a large part stayed in perpetual poverty, experienced discrimination overt and covert, and whose women and to some degree men felt the slap of disdain by those who did not find themselves in the same situation wouldnt you be angry? You think I am talking about Black people? Not necessarily. Yes it does happen to Blacks largely but look at whites who live below the poverty line, and Latin immigrant families as well as first Americans. .We all experience some of the same issues. We need to get past the divide and conquer mentality and try to do something to uplift all that are caught in the vicious cycle of poverty and ignorance.
(These are the result of sociological studies and my own observations neither is by any means infallible.)
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I guess i should balance this out some.
Black women are funnier and more fun to be with than any other group on the earth.
There are more professional black women with college degrees than there are professional white women.
I like dark skin and dark hair.
I hear ya. I was just talking to my brother about some of these very issues. Why are we bossy? It is a legit question. When I really get the answer I suppose you wont need it anymore.
This is an outside guess since I'm a male, but obviously it's a variety of reasons:
1. Going unheard, some black women are taken as caricatures and HAVE to be vocal to be taken seriously
2. Stereotypes. Every black woman on TV GLORIFIES being loud and boisterous, I Love New York is a prime example, some girls copy this cuz they think it's cool to be foul-mouthed and ignorant and loud.
3. Deflection. They're mad that THEY chose to have babies with a nobody and take their anger out on the world, the same way black men deflect responsibility by playing the race card, black women scream out of frustration with the rough life they created for themselves.
Marley,
I think sometimes people make the best choice of the limited possibilities placed before them. If you have been raised in a toxic environment that does not encourage you to try but chops you down when you fail you soon learn not to try. If you are not taught to think of others or have others treat you with kindness you soon learn to get your own first. When you have been made to feel as if you are the back end of a mule's behind for features which you have no control over having you get angry and lash out. Black women are not monolithic. I am sure there are many who are ill and need therapy or medication. Look at movies like THe Color Purple. That is real. There are many women who even today live with that kind of psychic damage beind perpertrated upon them. Yes there are many who make bad choices and then are angry at the world for their position but perhaps if we try a little harder to break through the anger and subsequent bad behavior we can all help each other exhale.
I agree, that's a more indepth description of #1, I don't blame some black women for their attitudes because of the treatment they receive, often times they're the last considered and the first criticized.
True, I tried to express that with my answers, some were forgivable, others were monsters by their own design.
Don't get me started on the way institutional racism and oppression STILL has victims, and those victims are the LAST to receive the help they sorely need.
True, that's what the first one was for, I rarely hold black women to the same standards as everyone else cuz, like I said, they're the last ones to be considered and the first ones to be criticized.
And how. Gay as I am, black women's curvaceous bodies ALWAYS catch my eye and make me rethink the 99/1 % status. The few girlfriends I had were all black (though my first crush was a white girl in 3rd grade). In my defense, we had moved to the suburbs by that point and, other than family, there wasn't a black woman in a 50 miles radius.
Its all good. I dont discriminate. I have dated BLack white and asian. Oh by the way look in my gallery at the pic of Lisa Bonet's latest baby daddy! I am sorry. If you gotta do it do it like that. I have always been told to get a young one! Go Halle! Go Lisa! Sistas represent!
GOD I want him. Here's a question, WHERE THE FUCK are all the handsome gay men hiding? It seems the only gay men I find look like they belong more in the animal kingdom than the human species. Why aren't there gay men that look like Eric Benet or Anderson Cooper? The Darryl Stephenses and Jensen Atwoods are few and far between.
GOD I want him. Here's a question, WHERE THE FUCK are all the handsome gay men hiding? It seems the only gay men I find look like they belong more in the animal kingdom than the human species. Why aren't there gay men that look like Eric Benet or Anderson Cooper? The Darryl Stephenses and Jensen Atwoods are few and far between.
Oh I know a few but unfortunately they have all been claimed! LOL! SOWWY!
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