I have no such experience. I heard you wrote the book on it.
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I have no such experience. I heard you wrote the book on it.
My autobiography was written long ago. It was how to stuff a wild bikini. There was nothing mentioned in there about you. Maybe you should post a video clip on xtube of you doing yourself. I'm sure it will get lots of hits from the people at the nursing home.
Don't take everything you read seriously. They may have chosen to not circumsize their sons because they saw no reason to do it. A lot of circumsion in the United States dates back to the time around WW1. It just became the thing to do. Silly isn't it?
I just finished reading some of the thread concerning black hair care and happened to find the following information.
Black Hair Care Tips, Style and FAQs
How often should I wash my hair?
This will depend on your hair type and how prone your hair is to drying or becoming oily. As we said earlier, not all African Americans have the same type of hair. Generally speaking, our hair tends to be dry and shampooing too often will worsen that. Rinsing your hair with plain water every day and washing once every week to ten days works for most of us. Bi-racial people may want to wash their hair more often as it may tend to be more oily. BTW, when you dry your hair, do not rub it. Rubbing your hair can cause breakage. Blot it with a towel.
I cannot say that this applies to everyone but it's pretty much how I treat mine. My hair is natural but I have worn both braids and weaves and depending on the occasion or mood, still do. I usually wash my hair once a week with a sodium lauryl sulfate and sodium laureth free shampoo. I do not comb my hair when it is dry because that will cause breakage. I only use olive oil when my scalp is dry and deep condition it once a month. If necessary I will wash it more than once a week if I happen to go around smokers or have a really hard work out. My hair does not stink, is not greasy, dirty or nappy. Just like my body, I love it and make sure it stays clean and healthy.
NJQT, Naughty, and ChocoKitty all made excellent points about how society's view of beauty affects black women. Even though some may argue against it the image of beauty is still Eurocentric. Straight hair, fair skin is in and kinky/curly hair, dark skin is not. Even though media has somewhat changed, if you really look, those images are still the standard. For example, how many hair care commercials feature women with curly or kinky hair? None. Well, there was one by Garnier Frutic about two years ago. Any others feature women with straight hair even if they're black. If there are any women featured with curls they usually have a frizz problem that the advertised product has to straighten out. In short, straight good, curly/kinky bad.
I'd like to say that my going natural was a personal choice and I still love and respect my sisters that decide to go straight. I wear my hair curly, but this was not an easy choice, especially in the South. I made this decision after having both my hair and scalp constantly being damaged by heat and chemicals. I finally said enough is enough and decided to go natural. Since then, I've had more guys to hit on me than ever. I think it was more of attitude than hair but it's all good.
Both black and white women have asked numerous times how I'm able to "handle" my hair. My usual answer is "easy and I wish I did it years ago." The most interesting question was if I feared that my hair will adversely affect my career by alienating whites. As of this date I've had no negative reaction but only time will tell.
Most women are very conscientious of their hair. However, images in the media place extra pressure on black women by repeatedly reminded that their beauty is not the standard. In many ways, we (black women) live double lives. We walk a tightrope between what is black and what is the projected norm. Good hair, bad hair, perms, weaves, braids and naturals are just some of the terms we learn from an early age. All of this just to try to meet a standard we will never meet and shouldn't have to. Those who are not black may find all of this trivial and unnecessary but for us, it's a part of what it means to be black girl or woman in America.
Black Hair Care Tips, Style and FAQs
How often should I wash my hair?
This will depend on your hair type and how prone your hair is to drying or becoming oily. As we said earlier, not all African Americans have the same type of hair. Generally speaking, our hair tends to be dry and shampooing too often will worsen that. Rinsing your hair with plain water every day and washing once every week to ten days works for most of us. Bi-racial people may want to wash their hair more often as it may tend to be more oily. BTW, when you dry your hair, do not rub it. Rubbing your hair can cause breakage. Blot it with a towel.
I cannot say that this applies to everyone but it's pretty much how I treat mine. My hair is natural but I have worn both braids and weaves and depending on the occasion or mood, still do. I usually wash my hair once a week with a sodium lauryl sulfate and sodium laureth free shampoo. I do not comb my hair when it is dry because that will cause breakage. I only use olive oil when my scalp is dry and deep condition it once a month. If necessary I will wash it more than once a week if I happen to go around smokers or have a really hard work out. My hair does not stink, is not greasy, dirty or nappy. Just like my body, I love it and make sure it stays clean and healthy.
NJQT, Naughty, and ChocoKitty all made excellent points about how society's view of beauty affects black women. Even though some may argue against it the image of beauty is still Eurocentric. Straight hair, fair skin is in and kinky/curly hair, dark skin is not. Even though media has somewhat changed, if you really look, those images are still the standard. For example, how many hair care commercials feature women with curly or kinky hair? None. Well, there was one by Garnier Frutic about two years ago. Any others feature women with straight hair even if they're black. If there are any women featured with curls they usually have a frizz problem that the advertised product has to straighten out. In short, straight good, curly/kinky bad.
I'd like to say that my going natural was a personal choice and I still love and respect my sisters that decide to go straight. I wear my hair curly, but this was not an easy choice, especially in the South. I made this decision after having both my hair and scalp constantly being damaged by heat and chemicals. I finally said enough is enough and decided to go natural. Since then, I've had more guys to hit on me than ever. I think it was more of attitude than hair but it's all good.
Both black and white women have asked numerous times how I'm able to "handle" my hair. My usual answer is "easy and I wish I did it years ago." The most interesting question was if I feared that my hair will adversely affect my career by alienating whites. As of this date I've had no negative reaction but only time will tell.
Most women are very conscientious of their hair. However, images in the media place extra pressure on black women by repeatedly reminded that their beauty is not the standard. In many ways, we (black women) live double lives. We walk a tightrope between what is black and what is the projected norm. Good hair, bad hair, perms, weaves, braids and naturals are just some of the terms we learn from an early age. All of this just to try to meet a standard we will never meet and shouldn't have to. Those who are not black may find all of this trivial and unnecessary but for us, it's a part of what it means to be black girl or woman in America.
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How often should I wash my hair?
This will depend on your hair type and how prone your hair is to drying or becoming oily. As we said earlier, not all African Americans have the same type of hair. Generally speaking, our hair tends to be dry and shampooing too often will worsen that. Rinsing your hair with plain water every day and washing once every week to ten days works for most of us. Bi-racial people may want to wash their hair more often as it may tend to be more oily. BTW, when you dry your hair, do not rub it. Rubbing your hair can cause breakage. Blot it with a towel.
Great post here JoyBunny finally someone telling like it is here.
edit: when I wrote wash I meant with plain water not conditioner and shampoo.
That should be taking place at minimum every 2 days regardless to get all the crap out.
I do the olive oil thing it works great.
Nasty ass people....1 MONTH...GOD DAMN!!!
society's view? it's always your view, if you want to believe it you will, if everyone was jumping off the brooklyn bridge would you too?
This will depend on your hair type and how prone your hair is to drying or becoming oily. As we said earlier, not all African Americans have the same type of hair. Generally speaking, our hair tends to be dry and shampooing too often will worsen that. Rinsing your hair with plain water every day and washing once every week to ten days works for most of us. Bi-racial people may want to wash their hair more often as it may tend to be more oily. BTW, when you dry your hair, do not rub it. Rubbing your hair can cause breakage. Blot it with a towel.
Great post here JoyBunny finally someone telling like it is here.
edit: when I wrote wash I meant with plain water not conditioner and shampoo.
That should be taking place at minimum every 2 days regardless to get all the crap out.
I do the olive oil thing it works great.
Nasty ass people....1 MONTH...GOD DAMN!!!
society's view? it's always your view, if you want to believe it you will, if everyone was jumping off the brooklyn bridge would you too?
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Bball,
it looks as if , at least in the cases of your black lady friends, that familiarity has bred contempt. We are not all monolithic but we do have areas where our shared experiences intersect.I thank my sisters here for attempting to answer your questions honestly about some issues that are very dear to our hearts. Hair and black women is a very deep issue often fraught with much baggage. You may never understand what it is like for many black women but we are trying to be open and honest with you about it.
it looks as if , at least in the cases of your black lady friends, that familiarity has bred contempt. We are not all monolithic but we do have areas where our shared experiences intersect.I thank my sisters here for attempting to answer your questions honestly about some issues that are very dear to our hearts. Hair and black women is a very deep issue often fraught with much baggage. You may never understand what it is like for many black women but we are trying to be open and honest with you about it.
You're right I will never completely understand it being i'll never go through it but being around I've picked up on things. It's not just women I've been with it's friends and family of theirs, past co-workers, random women on the streets I overhear speaking, and the saloon( which I made the mistake of going to) And for anyone to try and give me an answer assuming im completely ignorant is an insult. It's like you asking me something about Italian culture and being like ahh welll AHH I thinnkk..., when it's something that's spoken of greatly.
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I have always found a person's beauty to come from within. Exterior beauty should go hand in hand with ones natural look. I remember how beautiful a girl was at our highschool. She had a beautiful afro. Her hair was kept clean, conditioned, and combed just so. She wore gold hoop earrings, and had the prettiest smile. I remember a cute girl who was in a lot of my classes in elementary school. Later, she moved into town. I saw a photo of her years later on the front page of the newspaper. She was truly beautiful, and wore her hair naturally.
Maybe, Oprah could help set the stage for that instead of trying to promote her own view of religion.
Maybe, Oprah could help set the stage for that instead of trying to promote her own view of religion.
thats what im talking about hootie, except fuck oprah that sellout racist bitch.
Anywhere from $125 -$400 depending on the style and type of hair used.
I will guess that, no that is not true. Not based on porn, which IMO is never an accurate vision of reality; but on the fact all of the black men I have been with have been circumcised.
A shaved head on a woman? :wtf2: Then I suggest you date Sinead O'Connor or some African woman right off the boat. Perhaps you should hang outside your local oncologists office or chemo ward.
No, we do not. I have to say this is one of the dumbest questions you have asked.
You sure have changed your tune, for someone who not two weeks ago was sending me e-mails about how much he loved black women of all shapes, sizes, and colors. To your recent posts which have definite belligerent undertones.
I never noticed. when I am angry I hate to be told I'm beautiful which men tend to do. They think it will diffuse my anger when in fact it just fuels it because I kno wthey aren't listening to me.
Never! I can't wear clip-ons, my ear lobes are too small and they slide right off. My ears are pierced.
Why don't you take a chill pill and stop drunk posting. At least I hope that's the problem with your attitude and not your true colors shining thru.
Thank you, I'm trying. We got side tracked a bit but we are pretty much right on track.
njqt what type of earrings do you wear? hoops? french wires with pearls? amethyst? ruby? emerald? garnet? zebra jasper? glass ladybugs with big eyes on top?
Yes I smelled her hair it stunk! I also smelled my last ex's hair (excuse me weave) and it stunk (I eventually found out she too washed like every 30 days or so) and she thought it was totally normal, wtf?. Funny how your quick to pull the gun out the holster on me but you, yourself don't wear a weave... HOW IRONIC!
Actually she said she had one, once.
And and one time a monkey flew out my ass ( good news though I kept the little bugger)
Actually she said she had one, once.
And and one time a monkey flew out my ass ( good news though I kept the little bugger)
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I am hoping njqt answers my question about earrings. It would be interesting to know her style.
I gave a friend a beautiful pair of zebra jasper earrings. They were shades of green.
I gave a friend a beautiful pair of zebra jasper earrings. They were shades of green.
I don't do costume jewelry and rarely wear silver jewelry. My everyday earrings are small 14K gold hoops (bigger than a dime but smaller than a nickel). For dress-up or to match outfits I have pearl earrings in various shapes, sizes and hues. I do have a few tear drop pearl earrings on french wires. Though my birthstone id the diamond, I am also partial to emeralds, garnets, blue sapphires and blue topaz.
I knew about the pulling off of the earrings prior to a fight; but the bandanna and vaseline application are new to me
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