Ask a Black Girl Anything . . .

[prepstudinsc]

Fried chicken is a southern thing and it crosses the racial boundary. I would bet that more chicken is consumed per capita on a Sunday afternoon about 1:30 than any other time.

 

[Principessa]

NJQT, I have met a few black girls who say that they refuse to date or have sex with black men. I wonder why? They did not give explanations, and I've heard such things before, although I can't remember where.

Hmm, I used to be one of those girls but it was only after having been with my fair share of black men that I came to that conclusion. For me it's a matter of not being comfortable with someone on a lower socioeconomic level than myself. Gangsta, thug, hip-hop, rap brothers are not my thing. I literally do not speak their language. Even when college educated and from good familys many black men still feel the need to 'keep it real' e.g. ghetto. I don't do ghetto. :12: I've tried to fit into that subculture of blackness but it doesn't work and it's not me. At some point my ABBA, Beach Boys, Led Zeppelin loving self shines through and I am not just dumped but shunned by anyone in their circle. :frown1: Either way, thats fine with me. I went to the club last night, and I realized that there are a ridiculous amount of fuckin gorgeous black girls where I live at! OMG!! Good thing I can pass as white, maybe I'll find a nice one to take home one day lol. I'm half dominican (black people that speak spanish lol) But i pretty much look white.

Hmm, good luck with that I know some black women that love black, white and European men; but want nothing to do with men from the Caribbean or Africa.

Sorry as a canadian in land of the northwest wilderness most of the black people I encounter are 1st/2nd generation immigrants who have fled one of many troubled areas. So they seem to either have no connection to western african american culture or only emulate the stereotypes as they see this is how they should be acting. So my question is, whats with the fried chicken?

It's cheap, easy to prepare, and readily available. It's not really black folks food so much as it Southeast American food.

As for the first part of your post. :rofl: ROTFLMAO :lmao: You expect any black person born in North America in the last 150 years to have some cultural tie to Africa? What, like a recipe or lullaby handed down through generations? Sorry Lorne, but any trace of African culture or behavior was literally beaten out of the slaves once they arrived in the US. For a long time in the US if someone said you looked or acted like an African to a black person it was considered a gross insult. They were literally fighting words.

I don't think it was until the late 1950's or early 1960's that black people became interested in their ancestry. However tracing a blck persons lineage back to Africa and a specific tribe is difficult to say the least, because of slavery and families being sold apart numerous times.

I'm guessing the sterotypical culture you see is what I would call ghetto culture. They aren't emulating what they see on tv it's how they and the people around them lived in the US. They aren't putting on airs for you. :tongue:

 

[D_Fiona_Farvel]

Fried chicken is amazing!
It is a culturally significant food for many Black Americans - my grandmother from Louisiana used to tell me they would have cooking competitions centered around who could make the best fried chicken, etouffee, and cakes - each woman with her own recipe, that surely died with her.

My childhood would not have been the same without each weekend watching my mom, grandma, or aunt crack open a paper bag, pour in flour and secret spices (everyone has their own secret recipe), a block of crisco melting in a cast iron skillet, haha. Even as a kid, you knew something special was happening in the kitchen, the resulting crispy, chicken deliciousness was just a bonus.. and something you knew that one day you would be able to duplicate on your own.... actually, improve on, cause you know this recipe is missing cayenne pepper and a pinch of nutmeg. :wink:

 

[naughty]

Fried chicken is amazing!
It is a culturally significant food for many Black Americans - my grandmother from Louisiana used to tell me they would have cooking competitions centered around who could make the best fried chicken, etouffee, and cakes - each woman with her own recipe, that surely died with her.

My childhood would not have been the same without each weekend watching my mom, grandma, or aunt crack open a paper bag, pour in flour and secret spices (everyone has their own secret recipe), a block of crisco melting in a cast iron skillet, haha. Even as a kid, you knew something special was happening in the kitchen, the resulting crispy, chicken deliciousness was just a bonus.. and something you knew that one day you would be able to duplicate on your own.... actually, improve on, cause you know this recipe is missing cayenne pepper and a pinch of nutmeg. :wink:

Have you noticed that the elders usually leave that one essential ingredient out of their recipe to keep you coming back to the source? Well I had to break that up! LOL ! I actually told my great aunt that she was almost 100 and if she didnt give me that sweet potato pie recipe she was going to leave behind a whole army of angry negroes who might not take care of her grave the way she wanted it to be done. I know its cold but a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do. I now have a book of my fav. recipes from my dearly departed passel of aunts and greats. They may be gone but the flavah lingers on....

 

[Catchoftheday]

OK an easy question :biggrin1:

What do you think it is that makes you a "black girl" ?

 

[naughty]

OK an easy question :biggrin1:

What do you think it is that makes you a "black girl" ?

I think that goes back to those who decided on these arbitrary designations. To be a black girl means as many different things as there are those characterized as black. In the US, it generally starts with having at least some trace of African blood in your ancestry pool. To define it culturally is a bit more subjective. Since one is often judged on one's physical characteristics in determining if one is 'black", when someone who displays visible African features and sounds, and displays interest in things traditionally associated with those of the majority ethnicity it can often draw comments such as "trying to be white" Or "why dont you be for real". Ironically, they usually are being for real. Their preferences and mannerisms may only be reflecting their socio economic condition, or regional variations. BLack people as any other group are not monolithic . In spite of portrayals in the media or entertainment fields.
Likewise, when someone who has been raised as culturally black looks for all intents and purposes like a white woman that too can and has caused a bit of head scratching. It is all a part of the crazy game we call race here in America.

 

[Mr. Snakey]

My accent is a traditional, central New Jersey accent. Which is to say I have no accent at all. I have been told way too many times that I sound like a generic white girl. When I am tired, my suburban upbringing shows and I sound like a Brooklyn Jewish girl.

If you had never seen me and heard my voice on the phone you would assume I was a college educated white woman. :redface:

I sing great in the shower. :biggrin1: In high school I was in the chamber choir and in college in the concert choir. I have also sung in various church choirs. I am NOT a soloist, but I am a great back up singer.

You have a very charming Central Jersey voice indeed.:smile:

 

[B_stanmarsh14]

NJ, going back to what you said about Rush on one of my blogs here..... which out of the Rush members would you most like to take out on a date and why? I know my mum of 52 years of age has a big crush on Neil :wink:

 

[Principessa]

I think that goes back to those who decided on these arbitrary designations. To be a black girl means as many different things as there are those characterized as black. In the US, it generally starts with having at least some trace of African blood in your ancestry pool. To define it culturally is a bit more subjective. Since one is often judged on one's physical characteristics in determining if one is 'black", when someone who displays visible African features and sounds, and displays interest in things traditionally associated with those of the majority ethnicity it can often draw comments such as "trying to be white" Or "why dont you be for real". Ironically, they usually are being for real. Their preferences and mannerisms may only be reflecting their socio economic condition, or regional variations. BLack people as any other group are not monolithic . In spite of portrayals in the media or entertainment fields.
Likewise, when someone who has been raised as culturally black looks for all intents and purposes like a white woman that too can and has caused a bit of head scratching. It is all a part of the crazy game we call race here in America.

Whew! I am so glad you answered that one! I don't think I could have answered it near as well.

 

[Catchoftheday]

I think that goes back to those who decided on these arbitrary designations. To be a black girl means as many different things as there are those characterized as black. In the US, it generally starts with having at least some trace of African blood in your ancestry pool. To define it culturally is a bit more subjective. Since one is often judged on one's physical characteristics in determining if one is 'black", when someone who displays visible African features and sounds, and displays interest in things traditionally associated with those of the majority ethnicity it can often draw comments such as "trying to be white" Or "why dont you be for real". Ironically, they usually are being for real. Their preferences and mannerisms may only be reflecting their socio economic condition, or regional variations. BLack people as any other group are not monolithic . In spite of portrayals in the media or entertainment fields.
Likewise, when someone who has been raised as culturally black looks for all intents and purposes like a white woman that too can and has caused a bit of head scratching. It is all a part of the crazy game we call race here in America.

Thank you naughty, a good answer, I was looking for a more personal perspective of what you feel defines your blackness , but'..

I thought that you were a black lady anyway, why do you think NJ has put 'girl' when clearly she is a lady too?

 

[naughty]

Thank you naughty, a good answer, I was looking for a more personal perspective of what you feel defines your blackness , but'..

I thought that you were a black lady anyway, why do you think NJ has put 'girl' when clearly she is a lady too?

Just a personal choice. It feels a bit less formal. We all know that we are seriously adult (in age) here, but girls sounds a bit less forbidding than lady or woman. It is sort of like calling someone Kat or Kathy instead of the more formal Katherine.

As for a more personal definition, you may find nore of what you want on the Ask a black guy thread. We were having an ethnic Affirmation session over there . If you dont understand the vernacular feel free to ask.

 

[Principessa]

NJ, going back to what you said about Rush on one of my blogs here..... which out of the Rush members would you most like to take out on a date and why? I know my mum of 52 years of age has a big crush on Neil :wink:

Rush? Love their music; but I can't say I have ever had a romantic feeling about any of them. Your mom is exactly 10 years older than me. Perhaps she needs new spectacles? :biggrin1:

 

[Northland]

Rush? I have had a romantic feeling about him

How would this statement make you feel if I made clear it was about Rush Limbaugh? Is it more frowned upon to like him in Jersey or in Georgia?




(well, you said to ask anything)

 

[Xcuze]

Rush? Eeeeeww (nice thoughts nice thoughts..)

Anyways, back to my question. This Q is inspired by another post Ive just made.

Black girls have been responsible for defining moments in my life;

When I was 9 I had a black best friend called Sophie Thomson. One day she beat the crap out of me & gave me a black eye. In front of my stepdad! From then on he teased me with "poof", "pansy", "Nancyboy" etc etc. Hence I became GAY. Therefore, it was a black girls fault I became gay!

When I was 13(still gay) my evil, piss-drip of a stepdad ran off with a 20yr old black girl from down the road called Betty, or Betty Blowjob has she was known in the area. She was very religious(when she remembered) & stunk of vinegar & rotting fish. Naaaasty. They deserved & diseased each other. My Mother was just devastated - until she met a much hotter guy just 2 weeks later! :wink: We're not slow in our family; use it or lose it. This experience shattered my ideas about marriage. Again, a black girls fault!

When I was 18 & at college there was a petite black girl with sexy specs called Leslie. She had a huge crush on me but at the time I didnt pick up on the signals. Well, I was definitely gay by this point. Women were virtually invisible to me unless they were handing me food or money. Leslie also slapped my face once on the number 78 bus - for no reason! Why do black girls keep hitting me? Is this a mating ritual? One night we went to the college club night. I always just hit the dance floor in clubs. :banana:I virtually ignored her the whole night. We werent there together as a date but she got very upset & cried. I then realised her feelings & felt really really bad. :redface: Ive always kept a distance from girls since then to spare any confusion. Again, a black girls fault!

When I was 19 I had sex with my first black guy. His Mother was a black girl. OK, Im stretching now....:dunno:

Back to the question. If there is one single thing that I have learned about Black girls, through all of this drama, it is this; You hate getting your fucking hair wet!

Why do black girls have such big nipples? Thats my question.

Phew.

(above names may have been changed to protect the innocent. Actually they havent been changed, there are no innocent. Even Leslie slapped me. Paybacks a bitch)

 

[bigboy9239]

Xcuse, don't be too hard on them...or on yourself...sounds like my life...especially about the girl liking you and you not noticing. Of course, I was married and it was a Puerto Rican chick that liked me.... made my life a living hell at work... and the way she was acting toward me, I would NEVER even known she was interested.

BTW, They hate getting their hair wet because thier hair frizzes up...contracts , and they have to get it straightened all over again..very simple. Its a lot of work to do black hair.

>Why do black girls have such big nipples? Thats my question. <

Hey xcuse...I was going to ask the same question about japanese girls I think I've seen more Japanese girls with huge nip than any other ethnic group......PS my wife is black...(and yes she does have big nipples, too.)

 

[B_stanmarsh14]

Rush? Love their music; but I can't say I have ever had a romantic feeling about any of them. Your mom is exactly 10 years older than me. Perhaps she needs new spectacles? :biggrin1:

Well, she is closer to their age's :biggrin1:

(She's gonna fucking kill me for saying all of this)

 

[lorne]

Hmm, good luck with that I know some black women that love black, white and European men; but want nothing to do with men from the Caribbean or Africa.



It's cheap, easy to prepare, and readily available. It's not really black folks food so much as it Southeast American food.

As for the first part of your post. :rofl: ROTFLMAO :lmao: You expect any black person born in North America in the last 150 years to have some cultural tie to Africa? What, like a recipe or lullaby handed down through generations? Sorry Lorne, but any trace of African culture or behavior was literally beaten out of the slaves once they arrived in the US. For a long time in the US if someone said you looked or acted like an African to a black person it was considered a gross insult. They were literally fighting words.

I don't think it was until the late 1950's or early 1960's that black people became interested in their ancestry. However tracing a blck persons lineage back to Africa and a specific tribe is difficult to say the least, because of slavery and families being sold apart numerous times.

I'm guessing the sterotypical culture you see is what I would call ghetto culture. They aren't emulating what they see on tv it's how they and the people around them lived in the US. They aren't putting on airs for you. :tongue:

I had no misconceptions of american black culture to have much of any resemblance to african, i was trying to say majority the black community in alberta canada seems to be immigrants of the last 20 years and are from places like Somalia, Haiti, and many other wonderful war torn areas and they quite clearly are acting like the people they see in music videos and tv, if a kid can't speak english but knows the phrase "fuck the police" then I suspect its media influencing him more then culture, most of the women and girls act and dress in a clear "Aftrican" style still while the guys are buying old sean john from winners. They may have actually been thugs in their lives but they weren't raised in a "Thug Life" world up here. I just wanted to inquire on North American cultures I rarely have contact with.

 

[Principessa]

I had no misconceptions of american black culture to have much of any resemblance to african, i was trying to say majority the black community in alberta canada seems to be immigrants of the last 20 years and are from places like Somalia, Haiti, and many other wonderful war torn areas and they quite clearly are acting like the people they see in music videos and tv, if a kid can't speak english but knows the phrase "fuck the police" then I suspect its media influencing him more then culture, most of the women and girls act and dress in a clear "Aftrican" style still while the guys are buying old sean john from winners. They may have actually been thugs in their lives but they weren't raised in a "Thug Life" world up here. I just wanted to inquire on North American cultures I rarely have contact with.

Thank you for the clarification, obviously I misunderstood your initial question.:redface:

Sorry as a canadian in land of the northwest wilderness

most of the black people I encounter are 1st/2nd generation immigrants who have fled one of many troubled areas.

This is where I bungled things. :redface: I assumed by troubled areas you meant places such as Detroit, MI, Chicago, IL, Newark, NJ, Compton, CA, or Atlanta, GA.

So they seem to either have no connection to western african american culture or only emulate the stereotypes as they see this is how they should be acting. [/QUOTE

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Perhaps the horror of the war and poverty torn countries they have fled has left them so emotionally scarred they have no desire to remember anything from their past. Or maybe like other immigrants they think they are assimilating into the local culture by emulating those they see in the media. It is unfortunate that the black people in the media are so often blinged out rappers, thugs, and gangstas. :frown1:

 

[B_Nick4444]

if kids are using media images as role models, it must be because the real flesh and blood people in their lives are not performing their duties as role models, and have surrendered their duties to these two-dimensional images

I had no misconceptions of american black culture to have much of any resemblance to african, i was trying to say majority the black community in alberta canada seems to be immigrants of the last 20 years and are from places like Somalia, Haiti, and many other wonderful war torn areas and they quite clearly are acting like the people they see in music videos and tv, if a kid can't speak english but knows the phrase "fuck the police" then I suspect its media influencing him more then culture, most of the women and girls act and dress in a clear "Aftrican" style still while the guys are buying old sean john from winners. They may have actually been thugs in their lives but they weren't raised in a "Thug Life" world up here. I just wanted to inquire on North American cultures I rarely have contact with.

 

[Principessa]

if kids are using media images as role models, it must be because the real flesh and blood people in their lives are not performing their duties as role models, and have surrendered their duties to these two-dimensional images

Interesting theory, but that is not always the case.