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Just to kinda piggy back on gekos question...would you consider him more attractive/appealing if he were in a relationship...answer both as a single woman and as one who is taken.

No, as I said before - I might be more open with him because I consider him 'safe'. He's taken, so whether I'm taken or not I feel I don't have to worry about sexual tension. I'm certainly not flirting - just being more myself and open. The concern arises if this is misinterpreted.
 

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I'd like a woman's opinion on meeting a girl i've met on the internet.

Known her a few years now, always had long chats, she's very pretty, quirky and down to earth, we have a laugh and have a lot in common, we watch the same stuff on tv, same tastes in food, activities and so on.. the trouble is she's a muslim originally from Pakistan but now living in Birmingham.
The amount of times i've tried to tell myself this aint gonna work, something inside still calls out for her, i dont have a problem with her being muslim, but i know my parents would and most likely her parents aren't going to be keen with her dating or having a relationship with a white (non religious) guy like me.
We've always spoke about meeting up but i've never been able to afford up until now, i know she's concerned about her parents cos she always mentions that we can do pretty much all the normal things, like going out to the cinema, going to the park for ice cream, walking around the shops, whatever we chose as long as we don't go back to hers. Makes me uncomfortable that we're always going to have to avoid her house and it shows that what we're doing isn't exactly what her parents want or approve of but we have a certain connection - regardless of religion or what society says.

Another thing that concerns me is that she says she 'likes women' and has a female friend she chats to regularly. It could be a bit of fun or more than that i don't know? It comes across that she's more into (me) than this girl and she says this girl is more after her not the other way round. I don't know what its like for a woman to like both sexes and i don't know which side she would lean to??

Advice?
 

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Just to kinda piggy back on gekos question...would you consider him more attractive/appealing if he were in a relationship...answer both as a single woman and as one who is taken.

My answer is a little different to the women who have answered this so far . . .

My attraction to people has nothing whatsoever to do with whether or not one of us is in a relationship. If he would have attracted me when he was single, I still find him attractive in a relationship. If I wouldn't have been attracted to him when he was single, I still won't be if he's in a relationship. It just isn't a factor in my attraction.

And I still find other people attractive when I am in a monogamous relationship myself. I just don't act on it if I have promised monogamy.
 

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Just to kinda piggy back on gekos question...would you consider him more attractive/appealing if he were in a relationship...answer both as a single woman and as one who is taken.

This is a different question, I think. Before we were talking about why we would be less guarded / worried about mixed signals with a guy who knew that were in a relationship / knew the bf.

Whether or not someone is in a relationship does not influence how attractive I find them. For me, attraction is not that pre-meditated - either I am or I'm not. Their/my relationship status does, however, effect whether or not I will act on that attraction.

I know that there are peeps out there who are more attracted to guys/girls in relationships because they get a thrill from 'stealing' them away from their partner. I assume it's a low self-esteem thing. I don't do it and I'm not friends with anyone who does, so that's all the insight I have on that one I'm afraid.
 

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I'd like a woman's opinion on meeting a girl i've met on the internet.

Known her a few years now, always had long chats, she's very pretty, quirky and down to earth, we have a laugh and have a lot in common, we watch the same stuff on tv, same tastes in food, activities and so on.. the trouble is she's a muslim originally from Pakistan but now living in Birmingham.
The amount of times i've tried to tell myself this aint gonna work, something inside still calls out for her, i dont have a problem with her being muslim, but i know my parents would and most likely her parents aren't going to be keen with her dating or having a relationship with a white (non religious) guy like me.
We've always spoke about meeting up but i've never been able to afford up until now, i know she's concerned about her parents cos she always mentions that we can do pretty much all the normal things, like going out to the cinema, going to the park for ice cream, walking around the shops, whatever we chose as long as we don't go back to hers. Makes me uncomfortable that we're always going to have to avoid her house and it shows that what we're doing isn't exactly what her parents want or approve of but we have a certain connection - regardless of religion or what society says.

Another thing that concerns me is that she says she 'likes women' and has a female friend she chats to regularly. It could be a bit of fun or more than that i don't know? It comes across that she's more into (me) than this girl and she says this girl is more after her not the other way round. I don't know what its like for a woman to like both sexes and i don't know which side she would lean to??

Advice?

I don't know what to tell ya hun. I'm not originally from Pakistan and I'm not muslim. I do have a mixed heritage and still have family in the Middle East which has given me a teeny tiny insight into just how incredibly conservative other cultures can be. I think on the grand scheme of things, the other girl is likely to be the least of your worries.

You already know that her parents would disapprove from what she has told you, but you need to be prepared for the fact that disapproval from her parents could be of an entirely different magnitude to disapproval from yours... with entirely different consequences. From the passing mention above, I think you might be underestimating them a bit.
 

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Thanks for the responses...pretty interesting...as a guy I'm sure it would be pretty easy to misinterpret a women letting her guard down around you vs flirting with...
 

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Prior to your response, please mention who you are:

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Question: Given two men who're equally good in bed and equally attractive (physically and personality-wise), whom would you choose?
A) A man who is a workaholic, makes a low seven figure income, and holds a powerful position in a highly respected field. He, however, only sexually satisfies you once a week.
B) A man who is highly respected by the community, makes a low six figure income, and works only half the week, leaving the rest of the week to spend with you.

Why? (Please elaborate.)

Thanks,

j
 
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Question: Given two men who're equally good in bed and equally attractive (physically and personality-wise), whom would you choose?
A) A man who is a workaholic, makes a low seven figure income, and holds a powerful position in a highly respected field. He, however, only sexually satisfies you once a week.
B) A man who is highly respected by the community, makes a low six figure income, and works only half the week, leaving the rest of the week to spend with you.

Why? (Please elaborate.)

Thanks,

j


Fuck off.
 

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Prior to your response, please mention who you are:

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Question: Given two men who're equally good in bed and equally attractive (physically and personality-wise), whom would you choose?
A) A man who is a workaholic, makes a low seven figure income, and holds a powerful position in a highly respected field. He, however, only sexually satisfies you once a week.
B) A man who is highly respected by the community, makes a low six figure income, and works only half the week, leaving the rest of the week to spend with you.

Why? (Please elaborate.)

Thanks,

j
Before answering, please state your name, address, date of birth, social security number, drivers license number and mothers maiden name.:smile:
 

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LOL..I was thinking the same thing.
Ok so ladies...short guys under 5'7"
Is it a turn off/turn on, complete non factor...if it's a turn-off is it something that can be overcome by other traits, personality etc..just like to hear a bunch of different opinions
 

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LOL..I was thinking the same thing.
Ok so ladies...short guys under 5'7"
Is it a turn off/turn on, complete non factor...if it's a turn-off is it something that can be overcome by other traits, personality etc..just like to hear a bunch of different opinions

omg, who was that guy and was he for real?? LOL. Now on to your really cool question. Height. I've met men who are very hung up on their height! (almost like dick size!) I don't get it. I like the whole package of who someone is. If they are 5'7, so what? I'm not 5'7 and I'm not even 5'5...so? I met this really intense, hot guy and he was really sweet too, but come to find out he was so hung up on his height he went through women like a porn star because of his insecurities over his height (I was told this by a good friend of his!). I mean, really?

So, in answer to your very cool question, canesnquakes, height is not a turn off at all. I like someone for a lot more than - gasp1-- the size of their tools and how tall they are over me. Besides, tall guys are harder to kiss -- you have to like tug them down to your level! :biggrin1:

But that being my opinion, I do know some of my friends only date guys that are over 5'10...or they say. I always wonder what they'd say to Tom Cruise....lol
 

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omg, who was that guy and was he for real?? LOL. Now on to your really cool question. Height. I've met men who are very hung up on their height! (almost like dick size!) I don't get it. I like the whole package of who someone is. If they are 5'7, so what? I'm not 5'7 and I'm not even 5'5...so? I met this really intense, hot guy and he was really sweet too, but come to find out he was so hung up on his height he went through women like a porn star because of his insecurities over his height (I was told this by a good friend of his!). I mean, really?

So, in answer to your very cool question, canesnquakes, height is not a turn off at all. I like someone for a lot more than - gasp1-- the size of their tools and how tall they are over me. Besides, tall guys are harder to kiss -- you have to like tug them down to your level! :biggrin1:

But that being my opinion, I do know some of my friends only date guys that are over 5'10...or they say. I always wonder what they'd say to Tom Cruise....lol

What they say to Tom Cruise is "Don't jump on my couch you demented hobbit!"
 

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LOL..I was thinking the same thing.
Ok so ladies...short guys under 5'7"
Is it a turn off/turn on, complete non factor...if it's a turn-off is it something that can be overcome by other traits, personality etc..just like to hear a bunch of different opinions

I'm going to be honest. I prefer to date guys taller than I am. That being said, I'm 5'5" and they don't have to be much taller - so 5'6" and up is fine. And again, this depends on the person. Personality is going to win over pretty much any physical factor with me - so if I met a guy shorter than I and he was pretty terrific, who cares how tall he is?
 

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LOL..I was thinking the same thing.
Ok so ladies...short guys under 5'7"
Is it a turn off/turn on, complete non factor...if it's a turn-off is it something that can be overcome by other traits, personality etc..just like to hear a bunch of different opinions

Not for me. I'm taller than 5'7" so that would not work for me at all.
 

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I've met men who are very hung up on their height! (almost like dick size!) I don't get it.

Just to give some insight, from my experience anyway, shorter guys have had to deal with a ton of rejection...not just by women...also coaches telling them there too short for basketball, football, baseball etc...plus there's the constant short jokes from your buddies, which sounds like your ex's friend LOL. Btw great responses...thanks
 

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if a 5'6" dude doesn't have a problem hanging out with an amazon, this amazon doesn't have a problem hanging out with a 5'6" dude.
:shrug:

there are a few smexy little dudes i assumed wouldn't be interested in someone heaps taller than they are.
 

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This is a serious question Ii hope women can give feedback to, however anyone is welcome with serious answers.



New to dating at 30 and want a meaning full relationship with a woman.

I have been trying to date since high school but have never had any luck. I brought a girl flowers to her house and she didn't come to school the next day saying I was being a "stalker". I have never had a girl even as a buddy or normal friend. WHAT THE HELL IF WRONG WITH ME!? I feel unworthy for sex, and I hate when I think about it. I feel even less of a person when wanting to hold their hand. Maybe I just don't know how to talk to a woman. I get real nervous when I approach even though I have a HUGE dick(thats not the point just stating the fact) however like I said It would be nice to have sex but I feel unworthy for that so how can I ever be a loving affectionate boyfriend? The fact that I've never had a girl who's been a friend scares me. Any advice rom either party?
 

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Question: Given two men who're equally good in bed and equally attractive (physically and personality-wise), whom would you choose?
A) A man who is a workaholic, makes a low seven figure income, and holds a powerful position in a highly respected field. He, however, only sexually satisfies you once a week.
B) A man who is highly respected by the community, makes a low six figure income, and works only half the week, leaving the rest of the week to spend with you.

Why? (Please elaborate.)

Thanks,

j

B. going by the questions you ask.. for reasons you wouldn't understand. :smile:
 
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