Thanks for the reply to start MG,
No I have no sister, my mom always says things like "I don't know how you should talk to women" I have some physical problems (phenotypically speaking an oxygen tank and thick glasses from severe legal blindness, contacts no longer work surgery is a gamble for sight at this point.) I have no acne. One of the dental hygieneists at my dentist office always refers to me as Handsome when i get ready for appointments. I am 6''6 slender with a dark complexion(tend to think the height with the other problems gives off a creepy vibe). I wouldn't consider myself to smell or have bad hygiene. I brush, floss etc.. I have a deep manly base in my voice, yet i think being so slender it sounds kind of misleading. Finally only in high school I thought of myself as unattractive. Most people my Mother runs into say how handsome i've gotten(note this is the case of every mothers friends that know you) I am good at reading womens body language when they want me to approach themEspecially if its strong but then again in my head I know i've been wrong before. So i just am like blah! forget it. Lastly i just should add its about the size of my manhood. (nothing xrated i want to add).... I was recovery from a lung procedure and was in inpatient for a few days, I was showering in the patient shower and one of the CNA's got a full frontontal,(i know this for a fact because i caught her) the next thing I know I am back in my hospital room and she is doing vitals, then she is walking by pushing her ass into my cock doing it purposely three times. When she left for a few minutes 3 nurse techs came in and were like "how was your shower? Let us know if you need anything" They had grins pn their faces and I caught two biting their bottom lip. So I dont know.
Sorry to here about your medical issues. Are you able to work? Do you have the oxygen tank with you at all times?
If yes than I'm going to be frank with you. Most people, never mind women, can be a bit standoffish when it comes to that. I'm sure you've probably noticed this. It's not that they are repulsed or purposely trying to be cruel it's just that a lot of people don't know how to behave around those who have disabilities, even limited ones like your own. Having worked with mentally disabled individuals who also have severe medical issues I can tell you it takes a little getting use to. Not that you're anywhere near that I'm just trying to give you a sense that people with little to no experience are going to form their opinion of you through stereotypes and ignorance.
Now you just want to be friends with women. Well, all friendships are cultivated over time and people need to get to know you, the real you. If you're projecting an anxiety that translate to them something forced and artificial then most people are going to take a step back. Women have a radar for guys who are trying too hard, want something more. We know when some guy just wants to be friendly and when others just want to get in our pants. All it takes is one slip, one sentence, a word, that on the surface may seem harmless to you but to us it speaks volumes.
First, relax. We are not all that. We're people too. The reason I asked you if you had a sister is that you should talk to women you've just met as if you were talking to your her. You don't say to a woman you just met that she looks attractive, that's big red flag for us. Unless you're at a club and the girl is dressed for a compliment it's going to be seen as a come on. At a club it's expected but when we're out and about, shopping, working, etc., it can make for an uncomfortable first meeting.
You mentioned bringing flowers to the door of a girl in high school and her unfavorable reaction to it. Was this girl a friend or was she someone you pined over from afar? If it was the latter and you never took the time to get to know her, instead stared at her all time, she gonna be a little creeped out. Why? Because you're the strange guy who eyed her all the time, never talked to her, now on her doorstep, uninvited, holding flowers. That would creep most women out big time. You see it as sweet, she sees you as a threat. Now if you took the time to get to know her, talked to her several time, and it became obvious you sort of had a crush on her, you still don't want to be showing up on her doorstep uninvited unless she's made it clear to you that she's interested. You want to meet her on common ground. She may not feel the same way but I don't know of too many women who'd take offense to that. Even if she wasn't interested and had to let you down, most are going to take it as a compliment and think you were sweet for doing it. If some girl did take offense to that, well, she's a major bitch and you're better off without her.
You want to make friends with a woman? You talk to her like you would a female in your own family. You respect her as a person without any type of sexual pressure or innuendo. Allow women to come to you. This means don't project yourself in such a way that it appears you're trying to win someone over in the first few minutes of meeting them. It makes you look weak and needy. Just be yourself and if the conversion people may be having around you leads to a topic of some interest offer a few word, an opinion, a thought. Don't be aggressive and take over the conversation. A good way to display confidence it lay back and allow people to direct question/the conversation to you and not inject yourself into and over everybody else. Remember sometimes a woman doesn't have to ask you into a conversation directly. A woman could be talking with friends and look at you as if she's looking for affirmation or opinion about a topic. Eye contact is big when you first meet a women. A woman isn't going to repeatedly look at you if she isn't affording you the opportunity to speak up.
Now not being the over talking when first meeting a woman doesn't mean be "the quiet guy" it means pace yourself and allow people who don't know you get used to your presence. If you're out with friends and you guys have just met a group of women don't feel as if you have to beat out the competition by forcing yourself and your words over them. The women are already mentally weeding through the group with every word and through body language. The most interesting guy can be the one who displays his confidence by hanging back and allowing those women talk, and this is important, IS LISTENING TO THEM. You can display a level of interest just by paying attention to what they have to say. A good way to show interest is only offering queries into what she's talking about and allowing her to answer. Don't be cutting her off mid sentence with something you think will impress her. Let her finish her thought and then offer your own.
If a woman is physically attracted, or you've peaked her interest through the limited convo you've brought to the table, she'll make a point of talking to you, trust me. A lot of times the other guys have all shot themselves in the foot in the first few minutes and now she interested in knowing the guy who seems nice, reserved, and wasn't all in her face with his heavy handed bravado. All this talk about a women knowing in the first few minutes whether she's interest in a guy or not is bullshit. Most great relationships are developed over time. They start out as friendships. The "I know if I want to be with a guy in the first few minutes" is more about sex, and those girls looking for sex. People know right off if they find someone physically attractive but knowing whether they want to have a relationship/friendship takes time. At least the ones that last do.
Finally, if you've had no luck at clubs maybe you should start looking somewhere else. There's a lot of superficial nonsense going on in those type of environments. You want to meet a nice girl who may be more sensitive to your medical issues, volunteer. A lot of really nice people are giving of themselves helping others. Lot of great interesting women in a place that you won't have to scream over the music or be competing with an army of men to get to know them. And what better place to showcase that you're not the awkward guy who has trouble talking to women but the kind guy who gives of himself because he cares about others. The type of women who volunteer are looking for more in a man than the guy with a phony line that can dance. They are looking for men who believe what they believe. They are women of substance and integrity. Intelligent women who if you take the time to get to know them will see beyond this mask you feel helpless/trapped in and see the real you. Good luck.