Asking Family members For Money....

[Ethyl]

MercurialBliss thx for that thoughtfull post. I'm stuck in a bad economy trying to start my own company based on what I do.It just sucks that everything sucks right now. It's a hard win to get clients and at least the wall is there for me to bang my head on it.

I'm right there with you. I was forced to find a 9-5 job after six months of virtual unemployment when my list of clients dwindled due to the economy. I'm grateful for my job but am slooooooooowly rebuilding that clientele list. People are afraid to spend any extra money they have now which is understandable but businesses are feeling the tightening of those belts.

Just think...one day you'll look back and say "wow, I can't believe I survived that" and know you did.

 

[HellsKitchenmanNYC]

I'm right there with you. I was forced to find a 9-5 job after six months of virtual unemployment when my list of clients dwindled due to the economy. I'm grateful for my job but am slooooooooowly rebuilding that clientele list. People are afraid to spend any extra money they have now which is understandable but businesses are feeling the tightening of those belts.

Just think...one day you'll look back and say "wow, I can't believe I survived that" and know you did.

Thx for those words and I HOPE you are right! Again thx for your posts!

 

[D_Percival Puddleford Pukehorn]

awww you're not a loser.

 

[HellsKitchenmanNYC]

awww you're not a loser.

I know I'm not I'm having a weird life flap that makes me feel that way. It's a weird thing...feeling. I goes thru all yr bones.

 

[jason_els]

You will land on your feet. It may not be right now and it may mean having to give-up the apartment and retrenching for a bit. Setbacks happen. You will get over it though and come back when things improve. You're not someone to take defeat as permanent.

 

[Mem]

I know someone who has just gone through this and it was very hard for him to ask his family member for monetary help.

 

[HellsKitchenmanNYC]

You will land on your feet. It may not be right now and it may mean having to give-up the apartment and retrenching for a bit. Setbacks happen. You will get over it though and come back when things improve. You're not someone to take defeat as permanent.

Thx and that's true. I would just do hate to leave my place! I have been thru many tragedies. Right now tho I wish the usual angel that sat on my shoulder was there. I think he opted for his 2 week vacation privelige. My only fear is feeling alone. And I'm glad for posts. I'm just afraid what else can I say, I'm just afraid.
I just can't believe that what stands between me and being able to sleep well is like 2000 dollars. It's a weird feeling that never stops in your nerves.

 

[jason_els]

Thx and that's true. I would just do hate to leave my place! I have been thru many tragedies. Right now tho I wish the usual angel that sat on my shoulder was there. I think he opted for his 2 week vacation privelige. My only fear is feeling alone. And I'm glad for posts. I'm just afraid what else can I say, I'm just afraid.
I just can't believe that what stands between me and being able to sleep well is like 2000 dollars. It's a weird feeling that never stops in your nerves.

Yeah, I have that feeling. Staying centered, staying aware of your options, and thinking rationally of what you need to do if various things happen is a good way to sleep well. You're not going to end-up on the street.

Sometimes life takes us strange places and it's frightening. Keeping your wits together and not letting anxiety keep you from functioning is important.

 

[Ethyl]

I just can't believe that what stands between me and being able to sleep well is like 2000 dollars. It's a weird feeling that never stops in your nerves.

It is a weird feeling and i'm not one to obsess about things so when I was forced to wonder 24/7 about where next month's rent was coming from and scramble for it, I was drained emotionally. I had to keep reminding myself to be kind to my mind and body when possible. Make sure you take good care of yourself during all these catastrophic changes. :smile:

 

[HellsKitchenmanNYC]

Yeah, I have that feeling. Staying centered, staying aware of your options, and thinking rationally of what you need to do if various things happen is a good way to sleep well. You're not going to end-up on the street.

Sometimes life takes us strange places and it's frightening. Keeping your wits together and not letting anxiety keep you from functioning is important.

Yes. I said to one of my brothers that they should stay in touch w/me because they usually dont. I could be homeless and they would never know. I could be dead for 28 yrs and they would never know. If I don't call them I don't hear from them. It sucks yes.

 

[HellsKitchenmanNYC]

It is a weird feeling and i'm not one to obsess about things so when I was forced to wonder 24/7 about where next month's rent was coming from and scramble for it, I was drained emotionally. I had to keep reminding myself to be kind to my mind and body when possible. Make sure you take good care of yourself during all these catastrophic changes. :smile:

Great post and trust me I try to do that! I wish there was an 19th (heee) chakra that took care of it all!

 

[jason_els]

I think it's time you took out an ad for escort services in NeXT. You could be into fulfilling rockabilly fantasies.

Btw, your new haircut looks great. Very becoming.

 

[jason_els]

Listen to MB. She's got her head on straight. No matter what happens, it's all temporary.

 

[HellsKitchenmanNYC]

I think it's time you took out an ad for escort services in NeXT. You could be into fulfilling rockabilly fantasies.

Btw, your new haircut looks great. Very becoming.

You are too kind and I see you are trying to get me to relax. That's not going to happen but I appreciate it. But yes I'd love to to help folks w/rockabilly fantasies for sure!

 

[Mem]

Yes. I said to one of my brothers that they should stay in touch w/me because they usually dont. I could be homeless and they would never know. I could be dead for 28 yrs and they would never know. If I don't call them I don't hear from them. It sucks yes.

Being apartment-less and being homelss re two different things. Don't you think that a family member would let you stay with them if it came to that?

A family member of mine would never allow me to not have a place to sleep and I would welcome my sister's family in my one bedroom apartment if need be.

 

[HellsKitchenmanNYC]

When the whole economy busted every news show was saying that everyone that didn't save at least 6 months rent was basically 'cooked'...'fucked', I have had clients that r presidents of companies that are in the smae sitch as I am. But they don't have to worry about 2000 dollars changing their lives. They really do have waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more.

 

[D_Tintagel_Demondong]

I can't lend you money, but I have lots of Xanax that I don't need.

It is a weird feeling and i'm not one to obsess about things so when I was forced to wonder 24/7 about where next month's rent was coming from and scramble for it, I was drained emotionally. I had to keep reminding myself to be kind to my mind and body when possible. Make sure you take good care of yourself during all these catastrophic changes. :smile:

I remember your positivity. I couldn't understand why you weren't freaked out by the situation--your entire future up in the air. We both had our crisis at about the same time, and you definitely handled your's much better than I handled mine!

I can relate to Hells here because I tend to obsess when a crisis like this arises. There are so many "what if's" to ask. I don't think that it's necessarily a bad thing, though; it forces you to take action. I've been close to living on the streets more than once, and it's scary. It never happened, however, and fate always seemed to be in my favor. I'm sure that everything will work out for you, Hells.

Some great advice has been given in this thread. I love this site.

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When the whole economy busted every news show was saying that everyone that didn't save at least 6 months rent was basically 'cooked'...'fucked', I have had clients that r presidents of companies that are in the smae sitch as I am. But they don't have to worry about 2000 dollars changing their lives. They really do have waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more.

There was a time when I lost $20 and ended up being a few dollars short in the bank for my rent cheque. The cheque bounced, so then I had to pay $80 in NSF fees. I forget how I managed to get the money, but I probably borrowed it. I was close to living on the street. In less than a year, I had a killer job as a programmer in R&D at a rapidly-growing firm and was raking in money. I eventually lost that job (due to depression). At the risk of patronizing, my point is that you can worry about the negatives, or you can focus on the positives. It's your choice.

 

[HellsKitchenmanNYC]

Being apartment-less and being homelss re two different things. Don't you thin with themink that a family member would let you stay with them if it came to that?

A family member of mine would never allow me to not have a place to sleep and I would welcome my sister's family in my one bedroom apartment if need be.

Yes they've already told me that I could move in w/them. But I can't move back to a small town where I woooould have to drive. A own that basically closes own at 9 pm.

 

[Mem]

Yes they've already told me that I could move in w/them. But I can't move back to a small town where I woooould have to drive. A own that basically closes own at 9 pm.

Some people would rather be homeless in NYC than live elsewhere. I would rather live in Alaska (and I hate the cold) than be homeless.

Worry about getting yourself on your feet. Then once on your feet save all you can for a rainy day, or month, or year.

 

[Mem]

I had a pal that was almost homeless. If need be, at last resort he could have stayed with me. I wanted him to work his own shit out. I didn't want him to live with me, but if it were me or the streets, he was welcome. He never asked if he could stay with me and he was able to work things out at least for the time being.