Asking for a BJ
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My suggestion would be to have a discussion with her, about sex, but not during sex. Open honest communication is really the only way to "let someone know".
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perform the "Move" on her:
Pull it out, look at her in the eyes, and say "Now what are we goin do about this?"
If you can't manage that, I was in a similar situation with a girl who liked to fuck but was kind of scared to suck dick. Over time, being a few weeks to a month or so, I politely mentioned how much I think of blowjobs and what they mean to me, how personal they are, how passionate they can be, how hard they make my cock so I can fuck better...things like that. Don't just make it into a can suck you my dick kind of thing because it feels good. I real blowjob means much much more...an appreciation of manhood and a display of female sexuality...
*now she thrives on sucking dick and can't imagine life without it...she says she does not feel complete unless my hard cock is down her throat...there is a chance my friend. Just take your time with it and don't rush her, make a lot of noises etc to show how good it makes you feel she may get exited to do it more then...
Pull it out, look at her in the eyes, and say "Now what are we goin do about this?"
If you can't manage that, I was in a similar situation with a girl who liked to fuck but was kind of scared to suck dick. Over time, being a few weeks to a month or so, I politely mentioned how much I think of blowjobs and what they mean to me, how personal they are, how passionate they can be, how hard they make my cock so I can fuck better...things like that. Don't just make it into a can suck you my dick kind of thing because it feels good. I real blowjob means much much more...an appreciation of manhood and a display of female sexuality...
*now she thrives on sucking dick and can't imagine life without it...she says she does not feel complete unless my hard cock is down her throat...there is a chance my friend. Just take your time with it and don't rush her, make a lot of noises etc to show how good it makes you feel she may get exited to do it more then...
Uhhhh I dont know honestly. I dont see why you would have to ask tell her if you like them more and Im pretty sure if she likes making you get turned on or what not shed want to.
If not dont ask just go with it if you like her I dont see how a BJ is so important I mean if your having sex it shouldnt matter. BJs are just an affectionate type of thing to me I get a different feeling from them than sex but I Still dont see the big deal in telling her which one you like more.
If not dont ask just go with it if you like her I dont see how a BJ is so important I mean if your having sex it shouldnt matter. BJs are just an affectionate type of thing to me I get a different feeling from them than sex but I Still dont see the big deal in telling her which one you like more.
I suggest as you are both fetting in the mood pull it out and start masturbating. then politely ask her to kiss it, dont say suck because if she is intimidated she will be overwhelmed and refused. And as she goes down to kiss it and does so make a big fuss of how good it feels..she will realise how much you enjoy it and will hopefully contniue it further.
If that dosent work you might have to pull out the porn card to show how much it is enjoyed or if that isnt your thing sit daown and talk to her about it
If that dosent work you might have to pull out the porn card to show how much it is enjoyed or if that isnt your thing sit daown and talk to her about it
Men and women should feel confident and comfortable including oral sex as part of their sexual life. I have always enjoyed a woman caressing my penis with her tongue and actively encourage her to help me reach orgasm and swallow my ejaculate. Unfortunately my wife doesnt share my views and finds oral sex distasteful so I have very little opportunity to enjoy this most wondrous of sexual pleasures.
I thought my wife might have been embarrassed to admit she did not know how to perform fellatio, but she is adamant that this isnt the case. She is just not comfortable about having a penis in her mouth and the thought of me ejaculating in her mouth would too emotionally or physically traumatic for her.
I have tried explaining the reasons why women enjoy performing fellatio vary, be it that they like giving their partner pleasure, the sense of power they feel, a sensitive mouth possibly being a sensory sexual organ, and perhaps the scent and pheromones are arousing. I even said I enjoy performing cunnilingus for long periods of time, so perhaps she would enjoy performing fellatio.
I thought my wife might have been embarrassed to admit she did not know how to perform fellatio, but she is adamant that this isnt the case. She is just not comfortable about having a penis in her mouth and the thought of me ejaculating in her mouth would too emotionally or physically traumatic for her.
I have tried explaining the reasons why women enjoy performing fellatio vary, be it that they like giving their partner pleasure, the sense of power they feel, a sensitive mouth possibly being a sensory sexual organ, and perhaps the scent and pheromones are arousing. I even said I enjoy performing cunnilingus for long periods of time, so perhaps she would enjoy performing fellatio.
I've found that if a girl seems shy about it, generally if you go down on her for a long time or with enthusiasm, she usually feels obliged reciprocate, and then you can make a show of how much you enjoy it, etc. That's how it's seemed to me anyway.
Certainly if you're already going down on her a lot, then that's something else to bring up in conversation...
Perhaps.
Certainly if you're already going down on her a lot, then that's something else to bring up in conversation...
Perhaps.
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I agree 100% here.Away from the bedroom talk with her about why she won't do it.Solve it now,my parents divorced after 30 years over this vary subject.My mother said"He want's me to do what with his THING!"Dad refered to mom's genitals in the same fashion very negative.They both wanted oral sex but had negative views about the others genitals.Talk with her before you get more invovled.And yes before anybody says it I know way to much about my parents sex life!
well, I've never asked for head. It should be automatic for the woman, if it's not.......get another woman!
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The first time I have sex with a woman, I do the oral thing once we get into foreplay. That is if she hasn't already started to go down on me. If she doesn't offer to return the favor, then on the second date when I go down to eat at the Y I just roll into a side by side 69 position. If she doesn't this time then when we are not having sex I will ask her how she feels about performing oral on a male. If she says no way then there will not be a third date. Sounding like a shithead you say ? Well, since my divorce I am into noncommittal relationships. I need the space from having to answer to a permanent partner for a while. It's just me. When I have no baggage to take into a relationship then I will think again about a long term relationship. Now if you want to keep this relationship going and she doesn't want to give you a blow job, then you have to ask yourself if this bothers you enough that it will affect your relationship with her. After all many many married men go to women other than their wives for oral sex because their wives won't do it. And some married men go to other men for the same. So if she won't then you will have to accept it or you should find a female that will. And believe me, most will and will love to do it.
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You have to talk to her. Let her know how you feel. Maybe there are some things you arent doing that she wants done. Try telling her how good it feels. That she pleases you so much when she gives you a bj. Tell her she is the best you ever had. Good luck to you..........
