Asking for a BJ

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And I think there are some women who genuinely, simply, just don't like it. Maybe its the taste, maybe its her background/childhood, maybe she simply can't stand the thought of what someone pees out of going in her mouth- who knows?
But as has already been said, if its important to you, you should discuss it with her and find out. I sure wouldn't want a guy going down on me JUST because I like it, especially if he didn't like it, too, or if he found it 'distasteful'- that takes away from my pleasure. I wouldn't give a guy head just as 'a gift'- I would gladly do so just because he wants it, but thats because I like it, too, and thats important. Some women, (and men) like many on this board, genuinely enjoy oral sex, and I enjoy giving way, way more than receiving it. I am fairly certain that of the few men I have shared this experience with, will have (hopefully) had only a better blow job because they knew I was loving it- they could relax and enjoy the sensations.
Anyway, I digress, as usual. Talk to her, mate. Don't leave it cos you'll resent it eventually, and chances are, she is already having some guilty or insecure emotions about it. Good luck!:tongue:
 
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Sam, can I have a BJ?
Are you sure you can handle that much happiness?:biggrin1: Better check that out with Lex. (see below)
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If Sam doesn't, I will. Plus, Sam doesn't swallow. I do!:wink:
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I discovered the good news that spunk swallowers have less risk of getting breast cancer!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Make it taste nice by eating pineapple, kiwi fruit, beer, bananas and avoiding salty, spicy and dairy foods.
I didn't mention all the vitamins and goodness that she can get by giving you an amzing BJ to conclusion!!!!!:biggrin1:
 

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My boyfriend loves oral sex. He thinks it is the best.

In prior relationships, I never really enjoyed it since the guys I was with were very unclean. Anything you put next to your mouth, you will smell it. It's definitely a turn off if it is dirty.

As for now, I wouldn't say I like it, but I do it to please him. Plus, he keeps it clean. I just like to have control when doing it. Love teasing his penis with my tongue and try to put it all in my mouth.
 

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Some women seem hesitant to giving blowjobs. I'm not sure what it's about. Maybe they don't enjoy giving them? Or they don't think that they are very good?

In any case, I find that - if you are willing to go down on them - they usually are very open to returning the favor.

Good luck.
 

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Some women seem hesitant to giving blowjobs. I'm not sure what it's about. Maybe they don't enjoy giving them? Or they don't think that they are very good?
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Of all the women I've talked to who don't like to suck cock, it's most often a combination of two things: they have thought, from early on, that it's "dirty,", and that "nice girls don't do that." Of course, they are also usually the same ones who worry about what people will think, feel that they have to say "no" at least twice (the guy has to ask several times for a date, for the first kiss, for the first titty-grope, the first fuck, etc etc) even if she wants it at the time. Appearance is more important than substance...

But of course, it always comes back to the communication thing.
 

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Yeah, men and women should be candid with one another before,during and after sex.
How will you ever find out what truly makes them climb the walls?
If you can't talk about who you are sexually and what your needs are, it's time to hunt for someone that you can be honest with.
If you enjoy her sucking you, you should be able to tell her sexy she is and how sexy you feel when she is doing it.
I amnot saying ram the cock down her throat, let her do it at her pace and from time to time coach her a little.
She can do the same thing. There should be no secrets.You shouldn't have to find a woman that will suck your cock and maybe swallow because she won't.
Your cock is not detachable, its part of who she should say she loves. and your cum helps makes babies's it's not dirty.
Give her a little present or some flowers and pick that time to talk?Maybe she feel sucking is not romantic, make it romantic, lots of kissing et cetera and then you get to the cock with whip cream on it.
 

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When all of the great advice you've received here fails just don't accept the "I'm shy but I'll get better once we're married" line. It may not be the case. Whoops did I say too much?
 

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.Solve it now,my parents divorced after 30 years over this vary subject.My mother said"He want's me to do what with his THING!"Dad refered to mom's genitals in the same fashion very negative.They both wanted oral sex but had negative views about the others genitals.Talk with her before you get more invovled.And yes before anybody says it I know way to much about my parents sex life!


OMG that is TOO FUNNY! I remember when Bill Clinton's blowjob from Monica hit the news my conservative Baptist mother said "Oh my gosh that is so GROSS!" Then she added "I had no idea that people did stuff like that."

It was all I could do to contain my laughter. I quickly left the room and laughed my ass off. I also instantly realized why my dad was always in such a bad mood when I was growing up.

I can only imagine what my mother would think if she knew that I am gay.
 

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There has been good advice here. One thing not mentioned in detail is that most of us were brought up to think of a penis and urine as something dirty that we would never put near our mouths. However, you can find scientific information which might convince your partner that a penis and what comes out of it is not dirty. It is only after urine or ejaculate has come out and been exposed that it gets contaminated with the omnipresent bacteria. If your partner worries about this aspect, you need to show the truth. Of course you have to be disease-free. And this argument does not carry over to feces, which can transmit disease. Lickers beware.
 

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perform the "Move" on her:

Pull it out, look at her in the eyes, and say "Now what are we goin do about this?"







If you can't manage that, I was in a similar situation with a girl who liked to fuck but was kind of scared to suck dick. Over time, being a few weeks to a month or so, I politely mentioned how much I think of blowjobs and what they mean to me, how personal they are, how passionate they can be, how hard they make my cock so I can fuck better...things like that. Don't just make it into a can suck you my dick kind of thing because it feels good. I real blowjob means much much more...an appreciation of manhood and a display of female sexuality...

*now she thrives on sucking dick and can't imagine life without it...she says she does not feel complete unless my hard cock is down her throat...there is a chance my friend. Just take your time with it and don't rush her, make a lot of noises etc to show how good it makes you feel she may get exited to do it more then...

The second part is so accurate.
This is exactly how my wife and I feel.
Thanks, Skull. You put into words, what I could only feel.
 

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Did you ask her why she doesn't like sucking?

fair question.
had a hot gf in college assumed she was experience and sex was good but she was like petrified of bj's so yes i asked.
turns out her first experience with oral was forced at a high school lake party where everyone was drinking.
that explained it and i was not pushy at all after knowing that (not that i was pushy before but was curious why she did everything else).
she eased into it and by the time we broke up was giving some pretty good BJ's and swallowing