Asking My Girl

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Any advice on asking my girlfriend for a potential 3some! It’s been on my sex bucket list! I would prefer two girls, but I do think that might raise some jealousy and insecurity, so I would even be down for mmf threesome to be honest
 

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It’s really difficult to advise you on approaching sexual issues with your girlfriend. None of us know her; none of us are sleeping with her.

Regardless, you need to communicate your wants and needs. And accept her decisions. Absolutely no one can talk me into doing anything I don’t want to do.

And as an aside. Threesomes aren’t all they’re cracked up to be. Someone always ends up left out at some point.
 

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Good advice from @LaFemme right there, all I would add is if your lady is willing and enthusiastic to try such extra curricula sexual activities with you I'd advise against starting with a threesome. My husband and myself have years of experience in the lifestyle (you're welcome to message me), threesomes unless spontaneously happens at a party or something are not the best way to start experimenting, as pointed out already someone can feel left out. Also bringing someone else into your private life can be troublesome, threesomes can cause all sorts of issues, people can catch feelings etc, become jealous or hurt easily. My advice is to find yourselves an experienced swing couple, the risk is minimal and they'll already know the ropes and know how to ensure everyone has fun and enjoys themselves. If you and your lady enjoy the experience they'll also be able to help hook you up with other like minded people, absolutely do not find some random partner online or a friend and go jumping into bed with them, you have more chances of winning the lottery than it ending well X
 
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Any advice on asking my girlfriend for a potential 3some! It’s been on my sex bucket list! I would prefer two girls, but I do think that might raise some jealousy and insecurity, so I would even be down for mmf threesome to be honest
As others have said, we don't know her. But the one piece of advice I do have is don't make a request, or ask her for a 3some. That's presenting her with an agenda that might put her in an uncomfortable position. If you want, ask her if she's ever thought about it. Be curious how she feels about it. Don't push, and don't ask her to do it. If she's into it you'll figure it out. If she asks if you've thought about it, be honest but be clear that you would only want to do it if she was into it. Make the discussion about learning about her thoughts, not about getting her to do anything. Place your relationship with her higher in priority than whether or not you end up having a 3some.
 

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My advice: Step 1: Open your mouth and talk to her. Step 2: Open your ears and hear what she has to say.

I'm being absolutely honest here. Only she can give you an answer. We can only give you opinions that should not matter in the least.

But know that the second step is the most important, and always always always accept the first answer. If it's yes then make the arrangements. If it's no, then full stop. No more questions. The interview is over.
 

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Any advice on asking my girlfriend for a potential 3some! It’s been on my sex bucket list! I would prefer two girls, but I do think that might raise some jealousy and insecurity, so I would even be down for mmf threesome to be honest
You could ask. I think it is a wonderful thing to talk about fantasies soon in a relationship.