Asking one to wear condom?

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I want to derail a minute and just say for those of you who do not know Bbucko, this is the man who all people should listen to on the matter of AIDS. He is not speaking from sound bites or blatherings in magazines, he is speaking from his heart, his very well educated and informed mind, and his life experience. All of these are invaluable and he has even given me much to consider and a new outlook on this killer in our midst.

Bbucko, I know our conversations happened in private, but I want the world to know I thank you for spending that afternoon educatng me. I am better of for the encounter and I know Jason and Lee are better for my having talked to you. Jason and Lee are two neighbors, a long term committed gay couple in my area that are both in advanced stages of AIDS. I personally took on the task of helping them when they need it. I don't think I could have come that far without your education.
Back to the topic.

Asking your partner to use a condom? Yes you should and no you should not feel awkward about it. It shows respect for you and your partner that you would go that route.

Life is too short. It doesn't need to be made even shorter by foolish sexual judgement.

As usual Osiris was right on target.
 

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I don't feel awkward at all doing this. I regretfully admit I've had a couple of slip-ups recently, but after the fear that is causing me, NO MORE!!!
 

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I don't ask. I just put one on. I don't even give them the option of suggesting otherwise. If they don't like it, well, the door is 10 feet away and they can put their clothes on and go home. This has happened to me once already, and I sent the guy on his way. Other guys have thanked me for just putting one on without them prompting me, so I figure my way is the correct way.

It should be a no-brainer in this day and age. If we're not together, we use a condom, and if we are together, we use a condom until I know I can trust you.
But even with trust I insist on testing for my mates.
I also hate condoms. I have to come other ways and I can use my vibrator to get off while he's fucking me with the condom.
I like testing and condoms or testing and bareback but that doesn't happen often.
 

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No guilt or shame at all...and I don't feel bad at all when someone requests that I use a condom. I thought it was a given!

My sentiments exactly. I don't even find the question difficult... if one of my partners does, then the 'deed' aint' happening! At least not up my or his ass.

But there are lots of things to do with a dick, clothed or otherwise...:biggrin1: