I am going to ask a question that will (I feel) be silly to some of you. But I would *really* appreciate a nice round of shared perceptions from guys and girls on this. Girls, your input is more valuable in some ways than the guys' input, but I am asking for both/everyone. At whatever point in the dating process it appears that sex is imminent, is it ever okay to just ask the girl/woman, "How are you with big dick?" I assume that many of us (maybe all, dunno) have had the following experience: you wine and dine her over a few dates and a few weeks. Conversation topics throughout this period have been through the comfortable end of the spectrum (family, friends, job, etc) to things way out on the esoteric fringe, and you have a lot of fun together. You get in the sack (at last!! and find out that she was actually hoping you had a 'little' dick. You find out, disappointingly of course, that she much prefers 'little' men. If you're new to this, maybe you actually hang in there (agonizingly), only to find after several months that she has either turned into a dead lay or that she just finds you 'uncomfortable' inside her. You find yourself feeling that asking for sex is implicitly entering into a bargaining activity. Of course, soon after that, it ends. Part of this is a physiological/anatomical equation. The two sides of the equation are physical more than anything and simply do not balance out, as it were. It was never really a good match to begin with. The as-yet unrecognized backdrop to this is that maybe the handwriting was on the wall from the very beginning, there were little signs, you just ignored them. What are the signs to look for (are there any objective indicators that she is going to be a woman whose personal 'ceiling' is 7 inches?). How can you just come out and ask, "I have a thick 8 inch cock, we obviously find one another interesting and attractive, but do you LIKE BIG DICK? And not, are you OKAY with BIG (cause we're not just looking for basic tolerance, that distills to lame sex in the end, that's the whole point), but DO YOU LIKE BIG?" At this point in my life, I think I'd rather only focus my energy on women who are knowledgeable about the question (rather than confused looks, like they've never seen a cucumber, they don't know what you're talking about, etc). Meaning, they recognize your meaning and they can answer experientially, rather than theoretically. I guess the difficulty with asking right out is that it is kind of like asking, "are you going to lay me?" Even if the question seems a little lude, or something, it is still not exactly 'cool' given social parameters. ??