Asking your date if she likes it large (seriously)

[averagepeck]

The flip side to this is asking her if she doesn't mind if it's not large.When you're in the 4 inch range,these thoughts come to mind also....

 

[Alley Blue]

I've been a lurker for a very long time.
I've found that having an erection is rarely as awkward as some guys think. Most girls take it as a compliment. They'll tend to want to get a feel for themself. And if you read their reaction as impressed/intimidated/outright-scared, well then there is your icebreaker for that conversation.

-Rob.

--Apologies again for the long-time-lurker-status.
I hope you find it to be an insightful post

How big are you Rob_r_lpsg? Some times erections appear smaller then they really are

By the way great advice!!

 

[james24]

Why ask anyone?! Think your looking into this whole 'having a big dick' thing way too much! If she likes it then cool, if not then move on! Simple really.

It's like your looking for problems before anythings even started!

It's like if I was on a date and a woman just came out and said 'By the way, before we start anything physical, I'm shaved down there, do you mind?' I'd think why the hell is she asking me that! Just get on with it and find out when the time comes!

 

[Charlie14]

I think it just all depends on how open the girl is.. Obviously if she is really shy and conservative and unwilling to talk about anything spicy then you know not to be blunt. Or if she has a good sense of humor you can go that route. For example.. one time I went grocery shopping with a girl because we were going to make dinner together and she had such a great sense of humor when we were picking out cucumbers for the salad I just jokingly asked her which of these cucumbers she found most appealing... but of course I said it with a little raise of the eyebrow... and she jokingly picked up a rather large cumcumber.. though not as large as my own personal flesh colored cucumber.. then I just kind of pretended to be intimidated by the size of the cumcumber she chose.. then she said oh no no.. just kidding... this one would scare me.. then I said"oh no" again.. laughing.. we might have a problem then... then she got a big smile and said "reeeeaaalllyyyy!!!" smiling... "I could learn to live with somehting like that.. if I haaaadddd too".. but you could clearly tell she was over-joyed to see what I had going on.

So anyway.. the idea is you have to be creative how you go about these things.. and you have to learn to read a girl to see how to talk to her about things..

 

[SurferGirlCA]

I have to say I agree with James24 on this, basically. If a guy I was dating posed that question to me, I would basically view it as a not-so-subtle way of coming on to me sexually. Unless you're specifically interested in finding women who only want to be with you because you're hung, I think it's prolly best to let her find out in due time... at which point I am sure she'll let you know how she feels about it.

 

[rope9839]

With 8 inches, I don't think it is worth bringing up. If she likes you, she'll probably like your dick and you are certainly no freak show. Really, discussing the size of your dick - even if you are really flirty - is kind of crass and not that big a turn on for most women I know. It never ceases to amaze me how many guys try this and the most common reaction is "Eew."

I have known guys, however, that are far outside the norm - really small (<4'') or really big (>9"). Some of them have felt that it was worth bringing up - kind of a warning or a way to limit an unpleasant reaction. Even in these instances I don't think I would make it sound like an apology.

 

[dlcs]

I have to say I agree with James24 on this, basically. If a guy I was dating posed that question to me, I would basically view it as a not-so-subtle way of coming on to me sexually. Unless you're specifically interested in finding women who only want to be with you because you're hung, I think it's prolly best to let her find out in due time... at which point I am sure she'll let you know how she feels about it.

Second that. "Do you like big dick?" flat out like that does seem like a whap on the head. Let it evolve. If she's intimidated, there are lots of ways to soothe her into the experience.

 

[mebeme]

well i managed it very discretley

we started sending very horny texts and saying what we liked in bed (this was before we were together) and then she said about taking the whole cock in her mouth, so i said you think you can handle me? and shes like depends how big you are, and i was like quite big, and then she said that she cant deepthroat more than 7" and i told her my size, and now she knows.

 

[oz_buff_guy]

From my experience, during the courtship/dating stage of a new relationship, there are many opportunities to address the size issue without looking like a sad bastard and asking her if she will be happy with a big dick (most women will relish the challenge anyway).

DO you dance with your dates? If you do, then go in for a bit of close dancing and let her 'feel' what you've got as you are spinning her around the dancefloor. This can be enough to either get her interetsed enough to ask you what are you packing downstairs or curious enough to initiate some more intimate petting in which case she will discover herself!

Another way to address the issue is to go for a date in the pool or with some other physical activity - wear the right trunks/sweatpants and underwear, and she'll know what she has to look forward to or avoid as the case maybe.

Key things are to be relaxed yourself about what you got (we've probably all been there with neurocis fromteenage years about our outsized appendages) and realise that if you spend plenty of time on foreplay, then most women can take what you got. Some good lube also goes a long way to help out.

Hope this helps.

Chris

 

[Alley Blue]

If she's intimidated, there are lots of ways to soothe her into the experience.

Yeah, I totally agree. Maybe a little wine......a little mood music.......maybe a little more wine.....does wonders

 

[LittleKitten]

I agree with James on this, why ask? Its much sexier for a guy to know he has it and for a girl to find out the hard way!

 

[FieldRatt9]

I once dated a girl that on our first date started getting hot and heavy. Well it didn't take long for me to get get hot and heavy too. She took off her top and "SWING"..I has MAXXED IN MY PANTS. As she took off my shirt she asked me if I was hung. I said I was about 9 inches. She stopped. She looked disappointed. I finished taking off my shirt. She said really? Let me see. So I unzipped and pulled out my erection. She grabbed it and stroked me a few times and sat back in the couch while still slowly stroking me. I wish you would said something earlier she said. I don't like big cocks. So she said jerk me off but that was about it. When I finally climaxed she also told me that I took too long to cum and that I had made a big mess. She got dressed and left. Last time I saw her...by choice!

 

[twistedwrister]

thank god i don't have to worry about this problem......wait a minute.

 

[absinthium]

As a vagina-bearing mammal, I will say that I appreciate it if a potential suitor asks about my penis size preferences. Truth is, I never met a dick I didn't like, but I still think it's respectful and cool for a guy to ask about my taste... I tend to have rather unconventional dating habits, and don't drag out the dating process for weeks and weeks, however. I don't know if a lot of women are really open minded to discussing (not to mention having) sex early on.

The only singular truth I can present concerning women is that every woman is different (duh) and will have her own standards. Feel a girl out... If she's sexual and talks about sex very openly, then ask her her thoughts on dick size. If you think that kind of talk would offend her, well maybe she's not worth fucking. No, I kid... If you don't want to scare a girl off that's more prudish, then bring it up when you think sex is more of a sure thing. Like, maybe before you disrobe and jump in the sack... If you mention that you have a big dick and she blanches and looks like she's about to vomit, then maybe she's not the girl for you.

 

[Atia]

I think I would mentioned it just before sex. However, if the girl is anything like me, I do not wait until we are about to have sex before taking a peek at the merchandise. Foreplay is so much fun, and it gives one the opportunity to look, touch, kiss, lick and suck..if she wants.

Good Luck!

 

[Mr.Grande]

If you show a bulge in your pants, she might know your hung already. Like others have said, feel it out (no pun intended). You should not try too hard, and just let her find out. Besides, nothing beats seeing her first reaction to touching or seeing your cock. If it's positive of course.

 

[Jenny Flex]

Sorry, it's not like I don't have an interest in what a guy is packing, but this is SO not something to mention to a girl.

Let us find out in our own time, the surprise is nice and the response will probably be all the more appreciative!

 

[Atia]

I once dated a girl that on our first date started getting hot and heavy. Well it didn't take long for me to get get hot and heavy too. She took off her top and "SWING"..I has MAXXED IN MY PANTS. As she took off my shirt she asked me if I was hung. I said I was about 9 inches. She stopped. She looked disappointed. I finished taking off my shirt. She said really? Let me see. So I unzipped and pulled out my erection. She grabbed it and stroked me a few times and sat back in the couch while still slowly stroking me. I wish you would said something earlier she said. I don't like big cocks. So she said jerk me off but that was about it. When I finally climaxed she also told me that I took too long to cum and that I had made a big mess. She got dressed and left. Last time I saw her...by choice!

WOW..everyone is entitled to their own preferences, but I would more likely walk away from a tiny one before a large one. Some girls have all the luck and don't realize it.

 

[B_GorgeousJane]

My bf had a bad experience with his previous partner, who for various physical and psychological reasons found it difficult to have sex with him and a penis of his size. He was quite hurt when they split up and began to doubt himself and the likely success of future relationships.

When he met me, I had no idea of his size - he'd made a point of concealing any bulge even more than usual for fear of putting me off - but when it became clear that our relationship would become sexual, he sat me down and told me the full story, so I appreciated not just what he was telling me but also why he was telling me.

Fortunately I wasn't put off - anything but lol - and it only made me like him even more. So if the original question hasn't yet been fully answered, I'd say to raise it as an issue, before you first have sex, if it has been a problem in the past. But even if it hasn't, obviously take it easy - even girls who appreciate bigger guys don't necessarily like being impaled on something that big without warning!!

 

[Hung Low in Thiva]

In a serious relationship, the size factor works itself out. Why demean the relationship by asking something along the lines of "can you handle my size? no seriously, can you?" Things progress, if she can handle it great. If she needs time to adjust, work with her. And if it is just that big an obstacle, it wasnt going to work whether you asked or not. Fact is, warning someone about your size smacks of a booty call and will very often get you smacked.