I have be in the situation where me and a partner were almost ready to fuck. Then, he looks at my asshole, and decides it not safe. He says I am way to tight and even after warming up I will get hurt. This has happened more than once to me. Is there anything I could do to loosen up alittle? Without getting like to loose? I don't understand why if I say I'll take it like a man, they still don't listen and think it's to safe.