Ass Hygiene

[EternalCaverns]

How important is this when engaging in sex or looking for a partner? This applies to straight/bi/gay men and women.

Also, how do you feel about bidets? Do you have one installed and would you ever get one? If you don't have one, do you make it a habit to take a shower immediately after defecating or is wiping enough?

This might sound like a joke thread, but seriously, it's not. I am really curious. No one really talks about this because it's a subject most people want to remain secretive about or find unpleasant.

How can one argue that tissue alone is enough to be really clean back there? Toilet paper, even if one wipes well, can't clean everything completely. Water or water and soap along with wiping works the best. I know the average person doesn't have access to a shower anytime they are out and have to do more than piss, but I personally know some people who DO try to wait until they can get home so that they can take a shower immediately after as a substitute for not having a bidet.

So I am curious, what are your habits and what do you demand from a partner?

Even interested in hearing from those that are in the minority and might be more lax about or desirous of less rigid ass hygiene. I don't share that view, but I realize not everyone has the same habits or is disgusted by the same things.

 

[OCMuscleJock]

OMG..YES it matters!!! Baby wipes...soap and water...enema's CLEAN IT!!! (IF you plan on having anyone go back there ...inside or out*) Then again...I have a phobia of smells...I never wanna be the stinky person. Also, IF I strike oil, so to speak, the moment is over...mood gone...erection gone...I'm gone. If a person thinks they aren't clean back there...other things can be done until the person CAN be clean back there. It's a respect thing.

 

[eyescream]

It's a definite plus for me. But washing it when he showers is good enough for me.

 

[OCMuscleJock]

well as for the inside part...i was referring to anal intercourse... not external play.

 

[82008]

My body is set to a morning dump, then into the shower with a full wash, and this is mostly for my own self respect.
I cant stand to see or smell skid marks, like mom always said "what if you get hit by a bus"
lol.
You never know when the opportunity will strike good or bad.
I also cant stand the public toilets and not being able to wash after, so I did some personal training and it's great.

 

[naughty]

IF you are out and about it might be a good thing to take a small packet of premoistened wipes with you to take care of things like that....

 

[missphatbooty]

i am phobic of smells and do the best i can to make sure nothing is in the chamber to greet an anticipated visitor. that being said, i never have unplanned anal, which could take away from the joy of it, but meh. i have a vagina and a mouth, so there are always two other options. i use enemas mostly and in the shower i do "check" to make sure the road is clear. i am also a fan of most towlettes that you can carry in your purse. those are standard practice

 

[conchis]

I'm italian and my mom taught me that you must ALWAYS wash your ass after shit.
Here everybody got a bidet.

 

[midlifebear]

A bidet is a wonderful thing. Too bad they are not so common in North America.

Yup, keeping one's butt clean is just another indication you're yet another ring higher on the evolutionary ladder . . . especially if you're male.

 

[Stephenmass]

Not to be gross, but ever have a movement that it seems like no matter how many times you wipe, it still isn't clean? (I put that as politely as I could) I am a big fan of Huggies (or other brands if you prefer) to keep myself clean if a shower is not a viable alternative at the time (like just before you are already showered and heading for work). They are also good at night if you have the need to go at night. It is rare that toilet paper alone does the trick.

 

[OCMuscleJock]

Not to be gross, but ever have a movement that it seems like no matter how many times you wipe, it still isn't clean? (I put that as politely as I could) I am a big fan of Huggies (or other brands if you prefer) to keep myself clean if a shower is not a viable alternative at the time (like just before you are already showered and heading for work). They are also good at night if you have the need to go at night. It is rare that toilet paper alone does the trick.

those movements require a deep cleaning. IF you can do it after... otherwise...babywipes and two fingers are life saver.

 

[avg_joe]

How important is this when engaging in sex or looking for a partner? This applies to straight/bi/gay men and women.

Also, how do you feel about bidets? Do you have one installed and would you ever get one? If you don't have one, do you make it a habit to take a shower immediately after defecating or is wiping enough?

This might sound like a joke thread, but seriously, it's not. I am really curious. No one really talks about this because it's a subject most people want to remain secretive about or find unpleasant.

How can one argue that tissue alone is enough to be really clean back there? Toilet paper, even if one wipes well, can't clean everything completely. Water or water and soap along with wiping works the best. I know the average person doesn't have access to a shower anytime they are out and have to do more than piss, but I personally know some people who DO try to wait until they can get home so that they can take a shower immediately after as a substitute for not having a bidet.

So I am curious, what are your habits and what do you demand from a partner?

Even interested in hearing from those that are in the minority and might be more lax about or desirous of less rigid ass hygiene. I don't share that view, but I realize not everyone has the same habits or is disgusted by the same things.

Everytime I finish defecating, I clean and rinse my ass with lots of water, and I don't shit in the public restroom.

 

[L_Lynn]

Those flushable moist towelettes are so nice to have around. I have packets of them everywhere since they are handy for plenty of other purposes as well.

If I am planning to be amorous, I especially make a point to clean up everything ahead of time with more than just t.p. I will use wipes, I will use water, I will blot with a towel. I hate the way little bits of toilet paper get into nooks and crannies, even when you are carefully just blotting, hence the towel.

Other than that, daily showers and wipes seem sufficient.

 

[jdoe86]

The only time I have seen a bidet was when I was in Europe. I wish bidets were more common place here in the United States. I myself always make sure my anus is very clean (baby wipes a minimum) after I use the bathroom. If I am planning for anal play, I clean out in the shower. I have had anal sex with both guys and girls and I have found no matter how well you plan and clean, there is always some "mess" involved. Part of anal play I suppose. Even porn stars have been known to have accidents during anal. Does a bit of mess turn me off? I think it depends on what kind of mess we are talking about. After a long ass fuck, I have been known to stir up what ever is inside and a few times due to suction brought some stuff out. One time was with a girl I was dating and we had anal all of the time. We would prep, but one time after a long ass fuck (30 to 40 minutes) I pulled out and sure enough, something followed. That is why we had baby wipes and a few towels on the bed. She was quite embarrassed, but I made the joke that I "fucked the shit out of her" and we both laughed. One time I was getting ass fucked really hard by a guy (kind of unplanned) and felt something was wrong. I stopped him and had to rush to the bathroom. The lube he was using had irritated my anus and I spent a real long time in the bathroom till the feeling of loosing control of my bowels passed.

(I know, TMI, but you asked, I tell)

 

[Randyvoorburg]

a shower hose with a detachable nozzle is a must, or a toilet hose, i fill my ass with some water and flush it out several times until the water comes out clean. then i let my bf fuck me like there's no tomorrow.

 

[BIGBULL29]

They may have a lot of bidets in Europe, but many folks aren't using them.:biggrin1:

The Scandinavians are very clean, and so are a lot of Brits (UK doesn't have bidets as often). The rest of Europe -- where all the bidets are -- I'm wary of... (not mentioning any countries in particular).:biggrin1: That doesn't mean that I think all Europeans have bad hygiene, but some countries could really improve things.

 

[B_Hickboy]

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[midlifebear]

jdoe86:

Nope, everything you posted makes perfect sense. Can't remember the times I've had to stop mid fuck, drag my "date" into the shower and then turn him on to the idea of cleaning his ass as foreplay. And only perfect anal fucking occurs in porn films.

In addition to having an embarrassment of bidet riches, (one in every bathroom), I've made certain all the tubs and showers have detachable nozzles in all of my rental properties as well as at home. I hate to say it ('cause my fellow 'Mericuhns just aint gonna believe it), but toilet paper is not enough. If you've ever been to a basketball game or the theatre in the USA, when everyone stands up to applaud there is a distinct butt odor that . . .well, it just doesn't waft up like that at the Liceu or other public venues in Spain. :redface:

I'm also a great proponent of lemon scented Wet Ones. However, I haven't been able to find them in the USA the last couple of visits. Instead, the new scent is "baby butt." Nope, please . . . no baby butt. I want lemon scented please.

 

[midlifebear]

They may have a lot of bidets in Europe, but many folks aren't using them.:biggrin1:

The Scandinavians are very clean, and so are a lot of Brits (UK doesn't have bidets as often). The rest of Europe -- where all the bidets are -- I'm wary of... (not mentioning any countries in particular).:biggrin1: That doesn't mean that I think all Europeans have bad hygiene, but some countries could really improve things.

When I was working on convincing The Squeeze to make the big "life event changing move" from Buenos Aires to Barcelona, his main consistent complaint was that Spaniards were dirty and didn't keep themselves clean like porteños in Buenos Aires. He now understands he was wrong and whenever he hears a Spaniard complain that Argentines "are dirty" he's quick to jump all over their shit -- so to speak. Still, we make cruel jokes about the French, specifically Parisians. But I've yet to run into any funky-smelling French. I'm sure they exist, just as bad butt smell is somewhat prevalent in the USA. But it pretty much depends upon one's access to good plumbing or public baths.

The best smelling people I've ever met have been the Lacondons that live in the Mexican State of Chiapas. They don't have soap. And they don't have body odor. They just have this light smokey scent about them. Of course, they tend to jump around and play in ponds and streams as if they were Chesapeake Bay Retrievers. That may have something to do with it. :smile:

 

[helgaleena]

Enema can be done with ball syringe or squeeze bottle if you are planning anal. Bathtub soak gets all the crevices if you are planning oral. The older I get the more crevices there seem to be-- mere showering, even with the phone-style head, cannot get them all. Not to my standards pre-sex.

Bidet is fine for staying smell free but it is not sufficient for interior cleansing. And they are torture if there is no hot water!

The best clean is steam clean-- Sauna and plunge. But that is not only with sex in mind.