Asserting Masculinity

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by sxy_vince, Jun 2, 2006.

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Would the suggestions below turn you on?

  1. Oh Yes! - I would get really turned on

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  2. Yes - I would like it

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  3. Maybe - But I wouldn't be really into it

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  4. No! - Not my thing

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  1. sxy_vince

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    I am looking for suggestions on how to emphasise my masculinity when I am with a woman ...

    I am quite tall (over 6 ft) and reasonably muscular and pretty "big" in other ways, especially girth. I want to use these attributes when I am seducing and shagging i.e. I want to make a woman feel feminine.

    I have some ideas and would appreciate your thoughts and comments:
    - Standing tall to emphasise my height
    - Speaking quietly into her ear in a low voice
    - When standing close to her, pull her in close to emphasise my greater size
    - Carrying her to bed!
    - Telling her I need to be inside her

    Based on comments made elsewhere in the forum:
    - Thrusting out my pelvis and letting her look at my cock - it seems that some women enjoy the women on this forum enjoy the visual aspect of cock
    - Having doggy sex and lifting her by her pelvis so she is suspended in mid-air as I thrust

    Any comments from the women, or suggestions from the guys about stuff they've done that women seem to like?
     
  2. Lordpendragon

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    Sorry Vince - but you either are or you are not and that will change with each woman's perspective - if you have to affect masculinity, you are not. Being yourself is the sexiest thing you can be to someone who cares about you.
     
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    Vinny if your not an asertive guy to begin with dont try and force it because it will come across as 'trying' to hard.

    You dont need to be assertive or aggressive to be masculine
     
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    I voted No!
     
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    If you want to assert manliness, and masculinity... I recommend you hunt some sort of animal... maybe a lion or wild boar.

    After you kill it, present it to your woman... smear the blood on your face, and pound your chest, making crude grunting nosies... Gets them everytime!
     
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    Masculinity, it's like math talents, or stick skills: You either have it, or you don't. And if you don't, asserting it will never be as good as the real thing. In this case, it may even cause the opposite: It will make you look like a pathetic wannabe, especially if you consider the options you named above.

    Take this advice from me: Just be yourself. Nothing better than affecting or asserting something you don't have.
     
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    ? u want to use ur "attributes" in a way to get/please women?

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    find a girl u want to bone...pull ur pants down...and do the helicopter. :crazy::wiggle:


    *but seriously, a woman can pick a man she wants to scru out of a crowd of men...if ur having trubl getting women, lower ur standards...if ur still having trubl, lower ur standards again.
     
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    Although, don't drop them too low. Animal researchers do note that there are many individuals that never breed because they are so low that they've dropped off the perception scale as far as attractiveness goes (think of a peacock with not cool feathers).

    Works with people too.

    I think a better strategy is indeed to be yourself, but decide if you want to be the "morph" of your personality AT THAT MOMENT. We're not a heterogenous state when it comes to our moods, sometimes you might not be in the "mood for love" or whatever, you more likely need confidence to enable you to pull, rather than any sort of "acting skills".

    OK and if you're in a black hole of introversion like me, erm...then being disgustingly perverted at least gets you friends among men!
     
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    If that doesn't work...............................

    Give my ex a call.

    Only joking.
     
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    I think you are confusing vocabulary words and concepts. You are (sort of) talking about romancing the woman, but then you break away to sex. Not the same thing!

    Also, please note:

    Assertion means: Something declared or stated positively, often with no support or attempt at proof.

    Insertion means: the mode or place of attachment of an organ or part. Also, not the same thing.

    I cannot stand a man (like my brother-in-law) who has to keep reminding us all that "he is the man!" I just want to clock him. Thankfully, my husband lacks this dick-swinging trait. He knows he's a man.


    CC9
     
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    Well my wife tells me hse likes froce. and "Having doggy sex and lifting her by her pelvis so she is suspended in mid-air as I thrust" her last lover was a marine, quite the lover, and all around superior human being with the sole fault of slapping her much to hard on the arse during sex.

    It seem that Women sometimes admire rude behavoir in one guy but the another. read short term vs long term relatonshipp . IMHO
     
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    I agree wht ever you do don't fake it. Unless faking get her hot
     
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    Truth be told, that stuff wonk make you seem more masculine, It will make you seem self absorbed. Taking sex into your own hands, and throwing a girl around on your dick? Ask yourself, what makes that any more masculine than you are right now. Just the fact that you are asking these question makes you seem less masculine. If you stick to yourself and take pride in the actions that you do, than you will be masculine, and to some you'll seem overly masculine and to other just normal. Even to some you'd be feminine (usually to overly masculine guys anyway). Just know if you act maculine you'd have to act all the time, and when a person acts all the time they eventually get tired of acting and pretending and go back to the way they used to be. The only problem is that you stop pretending to be superman and go back to clark kent than You might be dissapointing someone. Just be yourself.:cool:
     
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    It wouldn't turn ME on, no.

    I will just point out though that I, standing only 5'9" tall don't do half the things you said you will do. Yet I still have sex and girls seem to find me attractive...Anyway, we gets to talkin, then we gets to humpin. All I do is have a normal conversation, nothing over the top as you suggested. I do however say 'do you want me/it inside you' quite close to their ear and I don't know if they enjoy it but I do hehe...when they say yes of course :p

    All you have to do is be yourself. I don't know why you would want to assert your masculinity...because if you have a girl in bed with you or are even having a meaningful conversation with one...isn't it given that she LIKES you, whether you are 'masculine' or not?

    I don't think I'm a very masculine guy. Which is why I have a stubbly beard. It works :D

    I don't get into fights (intentionally) or like football, or drink frequently and excessively. I enjoy quiet and being around few rather than many people. Girls I've known have enjoyed me, as a whole person and an entire package, penis included. It's not about masculinity. If it was, I'd still be a virgin :p
     
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    You are a man, with masculine traits.
    You will assert yourself, and your masculinity, by presenting your psycological and physical aspects in due form. That is to say, be genuine, be yourself, and, like yourself. By liking yourself ( accepting who you are) you will develop confidence. Confidence will make all your natural characteristics glow.

    What you appear to be trying to do is to find out a plan to show yourself as something you are not.
    Like it has been said here in this thread, that will look empty, apocriphal, not genuine. That is the biggest turn off.
    No matter what you do, if it is fake, it will glow.

    Do you want to glow as genuine and masculine through your own assets??? by being yourself, with confidence???
    Or do you want to glow as faked , through ludicrous acting???

    You need confidence, forget about that shopping list, looks like you want to shop around for a new brain.
     
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