At the gym today what do you make of this?

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  1. hrychstII

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    Today when I was at the gym there was a guy there who I have seen before. His locker is down just a few from mine. I have seen him nude but he seemed shy and would quickly put a towel on. He is very well endowed and hangs nice and low. We both finished at the same time today and he went to the sauna and I hit the shower before I went in the sauna. When I walked in he was just sitting on his towel, and not covered. It looked like he had a semi when I walked in. As we talked and he would glance over, and he looked quite a few times at my dick. At one point he was even a little harder than when I walked in. We both went to the shower at the same time and then back to our lockers. He looked at me several times and even introduced himself to me. While we were at the lockers he took some time getting dress and I got a nice look at him. My question is was he hitting on me or trying to get together. What do you guys think?
     
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    I suggest you just keep talking to him. Keep it casual the next time you speak to him, see if there is a pattern. If so, you could always ask him if he wants to go out for a bite to eat/drink after the gym... you could say, ' I know this great little place"... and then get to know him.
     
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    "Just talking" seems to be okay, if that's all it is?

    If you think he may be trying to hit on you, tell him you are not into that kind of thing and that it's not cool.

    But if the guy is just trying to talk and be polite, or maybe be a friend, that would seem okay, if it's not about trying to do something inappropriate.

    I hear that women more easily talk and share beds, without there being anything "sexual" to it, while guys sometimes don't like to talk while urinating or being naked in some proper public nudity place. But I think it's okay to talk while sitting on the toilet, but if it's not somebody you know already, you have to wonder, for what reason are they trying to make conversation during your "private" moments? It's almost like an invasion of one's virtual privacy, but not necessarily.

    But some old outhouses had more than one hole, and no privacy wall. Surely, people made conversation in such places? Not overly ashamed of their natural bodily functions.

    BTW, I think it's normal for young guys to sometimes get a semi that grows a little harder, if it is like their 1st or 2nd time in some lockerroom like that. Thinking about not getting hard, often doesn't work, and makes it get even a bit stiffer. So it might actually be "innocent?" Acceptable places of public nudity might be a temporary "turn on" to young guys with those "raging hormones" of puberty, due to the embarassment factor of "exposure" to others, but doesn't that soon diminish somewhat over time? And then some young guys, might just tend to be semi-hard all the time? But if a person is lingering or staying naked longer than would be normal, that probably isn't good.
     
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    This board confuses me. There are hundreeds of e mails talking about how men think it is crazy to do the towel dance and be afraid of thier nudity. Now we have a guy that is friendly, not worried about be naked infront of obviously a guy he feels familliar with. Because if you noticed hiim before a few lockers away, he surely noticed you.

    Now, here is someone worried immediately that he is being hit on. Get over your fine self. Your steriotyping "naked guy must be sex pervert".

    What do you want a towel dancer or a relaxed nude guy. Make up you mind.
     
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    i would think that if he was trying to get together or hit on you, he would have pressed you harder with conversation or body language. it could be just friendly conversation even if it was in the nude. there might have been some attraction or comparing as most guys do when at the gym...the only way to find out is by talking more to him and see what vibe you get...
     
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    Reading your post, I'm get the impression that you might be willing at least
    give the relationship/ friendship a try. Seems to me he might be interested
    in you but wants to let you make the first move...Basically he's saying with his body language(IMHO) that he's here, you're here...lets enjoy each others
    company and see where it goes...
    He's not exactly jumping your bones so to speak, in fact seems respectful
    of you and expects to be treated well also.
    I would suggest you go with the flow and enjoy each others company, it would appear you already admire each others bodies and assets...
    You both may be feeling some physical attraction, or not, but hey if you
    don't give it a chance...You'll never know where it might have gone.
    It might just be a Great friendship or a Whole lot more.
    Long as you both agree you're on the same track so to speak...
    But that usually takes some time to become apparent.
    Mind you it never hurts to ask...or just observe his behavior around others,
    male and female...
    Good Luck.
     
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    With some people, sometimes you have to answer them, in a distant or hands-offish manner. Merely politely answering their query, but not welcoming them in too fast to be "like friends" and all that.

    Sometimes, I will ask a person a "litmus test" question, to see where they fall on the political spectrum or something, and feel out whether their response. I might say that I am trying to figure out, or am upset about the recent election. If they come back like they know why I am upset, then maybe they also believe Obama is a socialist and if he gets to do what he says he is for, it will be very bad for the country.

    Likeminded people are easier to consider to be "like friends." But if they are as clueless as the usual American moron, then I might want to give them "the time of day" and that's it. Don't follow me around, don't bother me.
     
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    And like somebody said, don't we have to be a bit friendly towards people, and not seek to embarass them too much, if we don't want to see them doing that silly towel-dance? Or not to scare them away to never return?

    A little stiff eh? It happens to healthy guys sometimes.
     
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    So, if he had not seemed quite so shy before, would that have made a difference before? Sounds at least like some interest in bonding a little bit. No harm at all in checking it out. I think it's like trying to figure out whether you want to say hello to somebody in a bar or not. Don't think about it. Just say hello. If you don't like what happens next, move on. Keep it simple, trust your instincts.
     
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    Thanks for all the replies. I was thinking that he wanted to get to know me better and will have to say the feelings are mutual. I guess I am just cautious and wanted to see if others thought that he might be interested as well. I guess that number of times that he looked at my dick made me wonder. When we were toweling off he asked me about my nipple ring and if it hurt. He said that he always wanted to get one but wasn't sure about the pain. When we were talking about it he reached up and pinched his nipple a few times and kept his hand there. I just didn't know if I should see that as a few hints or not. I'm rather shy and so want to make sure I'm reading things before I make a mistake and have been reading him wrong.
     
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    You don't [or hadn't when I posted] say what you want, and half the guys here seem to assume they know, and suggest answers based on their assumptions.

    At this stage, there's no way of knowing what he wants. Just let the situation develop until that's clear, then let him know what you want or don't want.

    It's no crime to want sex with you, so don't "tell him ... that it's not cool." Just "Thanks, but no thanks" should do the trick (if that's what you want). Only if he persists does it count as "hitting on you" and justify stronger measures.
     
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    Give it a rest pro, the OP's previous posts indicates he swings that way. You know that gay men flirt with each other in public (GADZOOKS!) just as straight people do. Sometimes it's unwanted, but it's not inappropriate until politely rejected.
     
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    Besides, some guys, gay or straight, married or not, simply enjoy the moment, the tension of the "what if". They don't want to go all the way. It's only a game.

    It happened countless times to me...a glance, a semi, a spontaneous woody, and then you never see the guy again. Other times, the guy introduces himself, but then shies away because this is only a tease, because he is married (to a guy or a girl), etc.

    If you don't want the attention, there are countless polite ways to let him know, including through body language only.

    Likewise if you do want the attention.
     
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    I'd just continue to chat, be friendly. Maybe u should ask him when he works out if he wants to workout WITH you?
     
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    it's time to take the conversation to a slightly higher level. you need to say something or ask a question in reply so he can get the hint you are interested or not.

    "Naw, it only hurt a bit and it was worth it. when my girlfriend/wife saw it she got so excited she nearly raped me..." screams I'm straight!

    "Naw, it only hurt a bit and all the guys at the bar wanted to see it..." hints I'm gay.

    Get the picture? The first answer screams I'm straight; leave me alone. The second answer gives him a chance to come back with something encouraging like... "Oh, really. Was that at {name of a gay bar}? or negative like "By the way, did you see the game on TV last night?

    By this time you should be catching on. If either of you changed the subject, it would mean you weren't interested in anything gay-related.

    If you wanted only to see if he was friendly, you wouldn't bring up the piercing or the bar, etc. and would probably go straight (no pun intended) to talking about baseball.

    Give it a try some time...
     
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    From what you have described it seems to me he might be interested. By leaving himself uncovered back at your lockers he was giving you a subtle hint and a chance to check him out. He was also probably waiting to see your reaction. Next time you see him in the change room start a conversation and give him a chance to check you out but be subtle. He'll know what you are doing.
     
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    I agree with Canuck. If you are not shy, take your time getting dressed the next time. See if he does the same.
     
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    Yes, he's interested in you and giving you opportunity to show some interest too. He sounds like a nice guy, not hitting on you too heavily or doing anything crude like wanking at you or grabbing hold of you. Flirt back!
     
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    I wouldn't say the guy was interested because of the state of his penis. He may just have easy erections and just being naked make him feel sexy and his erections may not be because is is interested in touching you.

    His facial expression and general conversation would be far more telling point on his interest than his penis.

    And yeah, do you really expect a male to never look at a peer's equipment ?

    If he makes overt signs or discussion to invite you for more than just a sauna, then respond to it. But if it is just there in the sauna without any overt signs he is interested in sexual activity, just dismiss his "not fully flaccid" state as a guy who doesn't have good erection control.
     
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    he's probably interested...but there's only one way to find out for sure...
     
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