attending a gay sauna for the first time

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  1. calvinkleinguy

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    Hi folks,
    I have never attended a gay sauna before, there was none near me. one opened recently and i will go soon. is gay saunas just a place for guys to have sex? or does people really go for the steam rooms. going on what this sauna offers im assuming its focusing on a place for sex rather than just gay men to hang out together and be free. heres what this sauna offers:
    Sauna
    Steam Room
    Cinema
    Sling Room
    Dark Room
    Private Cubicles
    Smoking Terrace
    Cafe

    when you attend gay saunas, is it for sex? and is all gay saunas the same?
     
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    People go for both. Sometimes its just nice to be with some fellow cocksuckers and just hang out and be free of judgement.
     
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    thats what i thought, cause in changing room at gyms and all, the tuff guys get a bit insecure when getting undressed which makes the gay guys paranoid incase they get accused of looking (which we all dont do) so having places just for gay men makes them more confortable at they arent being judged on sexuality. but why does it have to involve sex. i understand its open to have men walking about nude as some enjoy that. i not the type to walk around nude infront of others but if i built up the courage to do so in a gay sauna, i dont want guys to get the wrong idea thinking im up sex.
    yeah private cubicals and all but im sure the sauna would be used for sex too with guys that dont mind a bit of an audience.
     
  4. earllogjam

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    Most guys who go to gay saunas go for sex.
     
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    No matter what it's for, always wear flip flop slippers to protect your feet from planter warts and other ick things that you can step in.
     
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    Well, I haven't been to a specifically gay sauna, but I go to Korean spas a bit, and they're "generally" a place to be nude, and have spa treatments. That's not to say that I haven't seen others going at it, or had someone get pretty forward with me (in one case actually had to fight someone off of me, which was a little scary).

    However, if I saw "gay spa", and then saw the list that you posted, right or wrong, here's what would pop into my mind:
    Sauna - a place for the un-shy to see and be seen
    Steam Room - for the shy, also more discrete groping, etc.
    Cinema - groping
    Sling Room - serious sex room (c'mon, there's a SLING)
    Dark Room - grope/sex room
    Private Cubicles - private sex room
    Smoking Terrace - after sex area, casual meeting area
    Cafe - "After that crazy sex, I'm hungry" room
     
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    go and walk around. Don't do anything your first visit, other than watch and see what others are doing. On your return, you can act out of informed thought and not out of impulse in being in such a sexual situation.
     
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    There is a real freedom in sauna's. In my experience, you can do what you want (with consent of course) Some guys have sex in the open. Some have sex in private rooms, some are in private rooms but leave the door open. Unlike locker rooms, you can stare all you want in the showers and lots of guys coming into the showers still have semis if they have just finished. You don't have to do anything if you don't want too. You can just hang out and watch others.....maybe a grope or two in a dark corner.....Play safe but have fun.
     
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    I'm confused. Why wouldn't you want your gay spa experience to involve sex? That's like visiting a steak house and ordering water.

    I guess that happens, but for the life of me I'll never understand why.
     
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    You can participate anyway you want. Sometimes, sex does not include sex. Be a vouyer, be an exobitionist.

    Does it need to be a gay saina ( not there is anything wrong with that). Many large metropolotian citys have turkish russian steam saunas. Men hanging out butt naked with their buds. Cool.

    Chicago.
    Sweatlodge
    Kings Sauna

    Sports tvs, massage, body scrubs, chat, newspaper reading, ocassion semi popping up, good clean fun.

    Or go to a gay sauna and get sucked off! Do what feels right!
     
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    I visited one about four years ago. I booked a massage, from a straight guy ironically, and had to pass through two floors to make my way down to the massage area. Did not see actual sex, but lots of cruising, nudity, there is a code of looks and signals that take place between men that I did not understand.

    Honeslty, found the atmosphere a bit creepy. Next time I will go with a buddy.
     
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    I've been to sauna's at gay resorts and 90% of the time I just wanted to watch and hang out. I did let this guy suck me off once..but he was really cute and it was just us in there. :) Do whatever you want... when/if it feels comfortable for you to participate...then go for it. :) *just be safe*
     
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    I love to be watched having sex. I go to have sex with hot guys with more hot guys watching. It is a fantasy and one of the few places that can legally be done without having to have a bunch of random guys over to your house.

    For me, it is never just hanging out naked with other guys, it is always about the sex. There is something for every one.

    Things to watch for: Make sure the place is CLEAN! Make sure it SMELLS CLEAN! Make sure you see staff constantly cleaning the place! Make sure there are areas that are closed for cleaning! Make sure that THEY offer condoms, but since you are on this site you might want to bring your own that fit your cock. Another caution, there are guys who tend to show up late nights on weekends that are not there for sex but there for drugs. There tends to be a lot of drug/sex trade and drug abuse on the weekends. I fucked the heck out of this one guy once (safely) and wished I hadn't because he had told me that he wasn't used to being fucked with a condom and I was the first who had done that all weekend. It was Sunday afternoon, he had checked in Friday and was so drugged up he didn't know he had been there that long and didn't even need to eat because of the drugs.

    All that being said, go have fun!
     
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    Perhaps you are gay, and want to hang with your own type? Perhaps you are in a relationship and don't want to cheat? Perhaps you are there to get some steam and sauna?



     
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    I go for sex, and to hang out naked with other guys. I'm into girls more than guys, so this is an easy way for me to meet guys for discreet sex. If I have sex it's in a cubicle, although one time I had sex in the steam room. With oral, I'm happy to have that anywhere.
     
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    i like to use the phrase "its like going to a hooker just for a hug" or "going to mc donalds for a salad" :)
    dont get me wrong, i love sex, i love watching porn. so a live porn show while having sex is perfect. i havent had sex infront of other before, dont think i ever will.
    but why can't a few gay guys be in the same room together without having sex.
    my thoughts on gay saunas was that gay men can be together, comfortable with not being judged for being gay. be comfortable in the showers/changing rooms without the tough straight guys think we are checking them out........
     
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    Yeah plus gawd theyre so hot
     
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    That's what bars are for.

    That's what porn is for.

    That's what the gym is for.

    I'm just busting your balls. :tongue: I've actually been to bathhouses without fucking anybody, a few times. Usually it was because I was there at an off-time when the place was mostly dead and the few other patrons there were all fugly.

    If you feel like checking out a sauna just to hang, that's a valid option and entirely your prerogative. It beats a poke in the eye with a sharp stick, after all.

    I actually used to do this all the time, until the bastards discontinued the McSalad Shakers. Those things kicked ass! As opposed to Mickie D's burgers, which most decidedly do not, in fact, kick ass. :wink:
     
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    i travel between asia and europe alot for work, and been to some saunas that allow men and couples m/f which i enjoy.

    have been in a few hairy situations as im a little guy so usually attract the bigger guys or maybe those im attracted to. more often only into oral and kiss/cuddle - i have been semi forced few times from memory into things i wasnt comfortable doing, the last time was with a hung muscular guy that pinned me & forced penetration without a rubber despite me saying no i then kicked him off me and told him to f*ck off and not touch me ever again - what was a fun night left me little distraught that i allowed myself to be in that situation.

    the reason i bring this up is realising, ppl often take signals and mix them. so like many of the members suggested check out the place firstly, get comfortable and try to set the boundaries before going into any cubicle or be alone with someone, I always ask for safe sex/play. ppl do go to relax, escape and sometimes not have sex. each to their own.

    i hope you enjoy the experience as it can be a eye opening one, explore your sexual limits and maybe push few new ones.

    Cupo
     
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