well I'm sincerely hoping that most gay guys aren't like the ones here, no offense. The people here, ALL the people here, strike me as very very strange. Of course this is an internet board where people discuss (supposedly) large dicks, for chrissakes, so I suppose the demographics are skewed toward the weird. But the level of kink I've found here, guys talking about eating their own sperm or freezing it and then sucking on it, or having a "cum jar" or just absolutely (IMHO) disgusting crap like that just nauseates me. And I've found the gay guys here are weirder about that stuff.
I've had a number of gay friends and they're cool and don't strike me as the type where gay = kink.. they seem pretty normal. So I'm hoping most gay guys are like them. It's not the gayness I have a problem with here it's all the other fetishes, the cuckoldry, the graphic descriptions of body fluid exchange, the small penis humiliation, the clearly bogus penile enlargement, all that. I was kind of hoping to discuss psychology and sociology and dating and mating and how dick size plays into all that and maybe an occasional funny story about guys with big or small shlongs.. but.. well.. I've been disappointed.
To be honest I've been on lots of queer/bisexual/gay/mostly all male boards and this place is pretty tame and I like this site even though it's tame on kink.
Granted I do get tired of some of the "how do I have sex with straight men" or "I'm straight and I had sex with a guy!" threads, but those are common sex fantasies and you will find them on mostly ALL queer male oriented fantasy sites. The fake penis enlargement TEKs/scams/shams are all happily contained in one section here that I can avoid.
At least there are sections here for porn and body worship and whatnot. I like and enjoy some of that but not all the time and it gets tiresome reading about it all the time on fourms where there are not sections for that and it's everywhere. I'm not that into politics either so I'm glad there is a section for that as I've been on forums where people will hijack threads and make them about politics when they have nothing to do with that at all, or they will just beat a dead horse about a political/news subject that's been discussed at great length in another thread and they should just have written about it in that thread instead.
I'm bisexual (technically bi-gay but not in practice) but I get really bored of size queens, guys who are just man crazy or who just talk about sex all the time to the point where it makes them rather vapid/1 dimensional or really boring, and of course I get bored when my straight male friends talk about nothing but pussy and what they do when they have sex with women, but while I don't care if they talk about this stuff I get annoyed at how then if I say that a certain guy is hot or say what I do sexually with a boyfriend they get angry.
As a queer man I think that this site is rather tame about kink but I have not noticed a lot of threads about CBT, bondage/SM, piss W/S watersports, Sadism/masochism, consensual roles that people take on during sex or even life, fisting, urethral sounds, and other such things. If you think that this site is tame I do not think you would like all male fetish/kink sites. I know that you are not into this stuff at all and are not going to visit those sites but trust me this place is tame, nobody is writing about wanting to be someone's human toilet here or writing about the hunger they have where they need to be a consensual Sir/Master's 24/7 consensual slave.
Heterosexuals have kinks too! Keep that in mind that just because someone seems normal or conservative it does not mean that they are not highly into kink.
Some of the kinkiest men I know are teachers, businessmen/guys who work in sales, engineers, construction workers, DJs, florists, cops, college professors, writers and editors, computer programmers/office workers, architects, bankers, and people who you'd never suspect of being into kink.
They do happen to be bisexual or gay men but that's besides the point, you'd never know that these people are kinky or queer just by looking at them or being around them, and it's all just a small aspect of who they are.
Also just because someone is bisexual or gay it does not mean that they are automatically into kink. I Have bisexual and gay male friends who are just into vanilla sex (sex that does not have any kink in it) and I know a gym teacher who is big into paddling, masks, adult consenting submissive women wearing rubber/latex in cages, and he's totally heterosexual and apparently just kinky at times.
If you want to write about sociology, relationships, philosophy, jokes, or other things that you like or enjoy go right ahead. I like kink a lot, and I do sometimes practice it so that's why I write about it.