Attn: Bisexuals... Do 3 people (1 Female 2 Males) relationships exist?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by matt121matt121, Jul 28, 2011.

  1. matt121matt121

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    I was recently watching a bi sexual porn and it got me wondering..

    Do 3 people (1 Female 2 Males) relationships exist?

    And I don't mean in a way where they both just have sex with the women..

    In the porn I watched one of the guys was total top who fucked both the guy and the girl.. and the other guy fucked the girl and got fucked by the other guy.. Eventhough personally I'm gay.: this was incredibly hot to watch and I think if a relationship like this was possible that I might be willing to give it a try..

    I think in reality if someone could get one to work it would be heaven as you have the girl to have the kids.. But then as guys are naturally more sexual then there wouldn't be the "time of the month" or "not in the mood" issues that affect most heterosexual couples..

    In the example I saw one of the guys was strictly top, and the other the bottom as far as the MM sex..

    Do you think one guy would always ave to be total top or would it work to have two versatile guys and a girl... I think that would be the most fun..
     
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    Alright, I'm gonna put this out on the table...I have a sort of long distance guy in my life, we live in different countries...we were talking by phone one night and I said, in a humourous mind, well..."what we need is a matriarch to bear our children and her role will be to care for the home and children while we go work and have our own love". She would not have to worry about finances or home, she would always be taken care of...I know the girls would just cuss me for saying this. haha .
     
  3. matt121matt121

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    JUST TO CLARIFY:

    When I said she could have the kids I didn't mean that that was her only purpose... She'd also be an integral part of the relationship both physically, sexually, and emotionally.. but thered also just be another guy around to keep things interesting and it would also give the guy someone to do guy things with
     
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    I recommend you read a book called Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. I know what you are discussing isn't exactly an open relationship, but the book discusses many types of consentual non-monogamous relationships. Yes, there are triads, quads, and other configurations of polyandry being practiced out in the world. Do what works for you.
     
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    Thanks for the info.. Though I was more interested to find out people's personal real life experiences with them..
     
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    Yes. I was in one for a few years and it was great.
     
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    I think that would be the ultimate, especially if you're the woman and you get to have 2 husbands. That would be freakin' awesome!!
     
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    seems like it would be highly complicated yet highly rewarding
     
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    I would say from experience that any threesome relationship, even a casual sexual one, pretty much demands that the people be really mature. Otherwise there are always issues about inequality. The inequality can be emotional or sexual. Making sure someone doesn't feel "left out" is the key.
     
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    What is the difference between personal experience of strangers on an internet forum, and the accounts of strangers as written down by researches who eventually sat down and wrote books? Don't be lazy. If you really want to know, don't be afraid to do some research.
     
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    This really hits home as my wife and I have a younger 24yo bi guy that lives with us. Of course we tell everyone we are simply helping out a friend, but it's been almost 3 years now he has and is a second husband to my wife. If he wasn't Bi, I'm not sure it would have worked out, so that helped a lot. When I am out of town travelling, I also don't have to worry as much about my wife as I know she's not alone while I am gone.

    And yes, the sex is great - we both love playing with him and the wife loves the attention of both of us getting her off until she's exhausted.

    edit - not having to worry about STDs is another huge plus =)

    If interested - it's called Polyamory
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory
     
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    i'm sure they do. i just read an adive column where a neighbour and the couple next door have sex toogether everyday.
     
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    I know a couple like this in Fort Lauderdale. Both of the guys are versatile as far as I know and it is not an open relationship. I think it works because all three of them are particularly open minded, trustworthy and non-jealous. I'm almost jealous of them sometimes because it just seems to work so perfectly for them and after almost 15 years, they still seem really happy with the situation.

    I think a huge reason it works for them is that it is more than sexual. It is about the special connection they have to each other and as a whole. If it was just sex, I'm sure it wouldn't have lasted this long.
     
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    It was great. He was just as much bi as I am, she was 100% straight and loved the idea of having 2 guys all to herself. And she guarded it fiercely. Plus, she wanted us men to play together when she wasn't around.

    We trusted one another implicitly, and I guess it really showed when we went out together. I had got her turned on to lingerie (because I really loved it :biggrin1:) so we went to Frederick's of Hollywood one fine day. We were scoping all the hot items together. Unknown to us, one of the sales ladies had been watching us, figured out our situation, then spoke up to us about it. She thought it was really cool, and she was very envious of our girl!
     
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    Thanks for that Eagle - nice to know there are others like the three of us out there living happily together and in love.
     
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    I was in a 3 person primary relationship - myself, my longtime female partner, and another woman (so, MFF). Worked for almost two years and then we broke up.

    Right now, I have a male friend who I am very close to, but we aren't sexually involved. That might change, but he matters to me regardless of all that. I'm still with my long-time female partner, and she's cool with all of it.
     
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    It is freaking awesome and I love it. I can't put it into words. Its just fucking amazing.
     
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    I would LOVE to find something like that! I've had zero luck so far... Where are you located?:wink:
     
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    A few years back I was involved in a relationship with a married couple. All possible combinations occurred. It was great until jealousy kicked in. I got tired of all the drama that occurred when one of them thought the other was enjoying me too much. The entire relationship lasted about 6 months. I would wonder if such a relationship could ever be a long term relationship thing.
     
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    Nice Fire - you sound like my wife - she loves it too =)

    At least when she wakes up horny at 3am, can't sleep and is bored, I can now keep sleeping a bit as our lover will play with her. This inevitably wakes me up as the bed starts rocking and I open my eyes to them going at it beside me.
     
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