ATTN: gay men, does this describe you?

[Bbucko]

hilaire
was quite eloqent about this issue. I for one can appreciate the need to be, nondiscript. The flamboyant types that I call the FLAMERS. SORRY GUY'S! No insult intended. Are just a little to over the top for me. And the truck/motorcycle driving nazi hat wearing types, again please dont be insulted if your one of them. Just dont work for me. Why cant we happy being the quiet stay at home with our favorite guy type. Really do we have to march in a parade or wear leather to prove our sexual preferanrance? I for one don't think so. I like the idea that I can have a great relationship with a guy and not have to be butch or flamboyant. I dont dance to disco or techno' Slow dancing hip to hip and gazing into each others eyes. Now that makes me hot. I have found that I wont take anyone to bed I cant look straight in the eyes. Guy's the lights will come on sooner or later. And it usualy happens when your with a bunch of friends and thats when he walks up and say's Hi. Getting laid isnt worth the embarrasement of meeting again at an inopportune time. In closing.... ha ha It isnt the size of the meat that keeps a carnivore like me cumming back. it's truly weather or not we are compatible in the logic and communication department.

People don't wear leather to show they're gay, they do it to flag* a fetish and/or a preference for BDSM/rough sex. If that's not your thing, then fine. But don't disparage others for not being utterly vanilla

That having been said, an older and wiser man told me a long time ago that "leather's just another form of drag" and the longer I'm in "the community" the more I know it to be true.

*FWIW, I flag red left

 

[hotguys78248]

kinda weak/stereotyping here in my humble opinion

 

[davidjh7]

EXCELLENT STATEMENTS. I TOTALLY AGREE!!

(..and "hilaire", you got a nice dick, man!! :wink

Here here!! To all of the above :wink: Just be who you are, be genuine, don't play a role. That way, if someone likes you, they like you for yourself, and not a persona. If you play some role, put out deceit, to get someone, you won't keep them because the real you always comes out. By the same token, try and accept people as they are. People who you may otherwise reject knowing may surprise you by what they can bring to your life. This is NOT to say you aren't allowed a personal preference as far as your sexual attraction to someone. Just try and keep an open mind about the person.

 

[B_Tonnie]

No. This doesn't describe me at all.

Neither does the self-loathing/misogynistic/homophobic trinity of hating on guys with feminine qualities.

I AGREE WITH YOU BRO........:smile:

 

[curioustitan]

as for me being the submissive male that i am. i try and only put myself in situations where i'll be mounted and bred. hopefully i won't be wearing pearls when this happens.

Maybe not pearls.... but perhaps a 'pearl necklace' if you're lucky.

"i love sam_solo26" and want to give a pearl necklace of my own

 

[TomCat84]

Why is a 100% straight guy asking gay guys about this? Why the fuck would he care? What a worthless original post.

 

[Blagoblog]

Why is a 100% straight guy asking gay guys about this? Why the fuck would he care? What a worthless original post.

I was curious about how pervasive the disdain for effeminacy is; to put it one way, although I am straight, I'm not exactly "straight-acting" and "straight-appearing" and used to get literally gay-bashed at school.

 

[davidjh7]

I was curious about how pervasive the disdain for effeminacy is; to put it one way, although I am straight, I'm not exactly "straight-acting" and "straight-appearing" and used to get literally gay-bashed at school.

From my observations, there is a fair amount of "fem bashing" within the gay community. It basically boils down to this statement--"If I wanted a girl, I;d date a girl--I'm gay, I want MEN". But then, there is "fem" bashing regardless of the sexuality of who is doing it or receiving it. Some of the most effeminate men I have ever known have been 100% straight. Regardless of the stupidity of anybody's hatred, regardless of sexuality, you have to live with yourself, and the only way you can be happy with yourself,is to be honest and real about who you are.