Attracted to Effeminate Guys

[luvinlife83]

I am bisexual and I am attracted to masculine men. I have a lot of effeminate guy friends and they are cool people, but I like my men to be men, and my women to be women. I am not attracted to masculine type women and feminine type men.

 

[58kweer]

I'm bi and I much prefer femme men - smooth, submissive and sometimes in lingerie; I like TVs but prefer feminine men. I suppose it's because I like to use men like women; although I'm not generally rough with females I like it when a man wants me to be rough (but not sadistical or cruel) with him. If I was not mainly drawn to women I suppose I'd prefer more 'masculine' sex-partners. I don't enjoy sex with the more masculine type of guy as much. Don't know if this makes sense, it's hard to explain completely!

me too,I love effeminate gay men,it makes me horny just thinking about them.

 

[notN2pussy]

More into the hot hairy men with a bit of meat on them myself.

 

[jjsjr]

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Any new opinions recently?

 

[AdamHenry]

I'm attracted to Fem guys. Have never slept with a man before, but the fems always intrigued me. The fem the better. Not into masculine at all. It's probably like this for me because I'm attracted to women 95% of the time. I never acted on it but had many opportunities (Live in Los Angeles). I've been in relationship with women only and recently broke up.

I'm in my 40s now and don't think I would probably try it but who knows. Funny thing happened two months ago, I was exercising walking around this park when I noticed this Asian guy running on the same course. I was walking west and he was running east so we would be facing each other when one lapped the other. He was feminine in looks, very smooth skin, soft features etc. I thought he could be gay but didn't want to assume. The first few laps I didn't notice him but he later caught my eye. He was wearing shades so I couldn't see what his eyes were doing. Every other lap I would glance at him when he ran by me. To make a long story longer, I guess he noticed. On one of his last laps he threw me a smirk and a wave. Kinda scared the shit out of me because I wasn't expecting it. But the feeling was electrifying. I never got that kind of feeling from a guy before. Well anyway, He got in his car and left I saw the equal sticker on the bumper and instantly knew. Was a cool thrill for this old guy, like being flashed by a hot chick or something. Very cool.

 

[jjsjr]

Oh cute....
Ya never know.
Everyone is their own individual.

 

[canadianwhiskey]

I'm attracted to Fem guys. Have never slept with a man before, but the fems always intrigued me. The fem the better. Not into masculine at all. It's probably like this for me because I'm attracted to women 95% of the time. I never acted on it but had many opportunities (Live in Los Angeles). I've been in relationship with women only and recently broke up.

I'm in my 40s now and don't think I would probably try it but who knows. Funny thing happened two months ago, I was exercising walking around this park when I noticed this Asian guy running on the same course. I was walking west and he was running east so we would be facing each other when one lapped the other. He was feminine in looks, very smooth skin, soft features etc. I thought he could be gay but didn't want to assume. The first few laps I didn't notice him but he later caught my eye. He was wearing shades so I couldn't see what his eyes were doing. Every other lap I would glance at him when he ran by me. To make a long story longer, I guess he noticed. On one of his last laps he threw me a smirk and a wave. Kinda scared the shit out of me because I wasn't expecting it. But the feeling was electrifying. I never got that kind of feeling from a guy before. Well anyway, He got in his car and left I saw the equal sticker on the bumper and instantly knew. Was a cool thrill for this old guy, like being flashed by a hot chick or something. Very cool.

nice!

 

[Vertigo1814]

I'm vers and have two sexual ideal types...

1. If I'm topping - effeminate, young, petite, girly, very slim, smooth, twinky bottoms. No interest at all in how hung they are.

2. If I'm bottoming then it's the opposite to above. Masc, tall, muscle alpha tops. Big dicks.

Dating wise, I'm a lot more open minded because other things come into play and I accept that I am a mix of the above so should expect it in others also. But seeing a very femme boy with a masculine alpha is the HOTTEST thing in the world to me. If I see it in the street or a bar I just get really turned on.

In the big UK cities I'm noticing guys be more open about actively seeking fem. It's often bi men or men that are looking for trans but say in their profile "or femme". I sort of get why if you're into trans you'd also like femme boys.

Since the beginning of time gay men have idolised femininity in men. Look at the Greeks. I think it's always been there, it's just might not have been socially acceptable. I feel like a lot of the gay rights movement focused on pushing a concept of "normal" gay men because that was the least offensive to straight people. Hopefully that is changing.

 

[LeftCoast]

Gay men are men. They come in all shapes, sizes, and types. Men are attracted to people of all shapes, sizes, and types. There's probably a bell curve, but everybody is attractive to somebody. So yes, some men are attracted to feminine men.

 

[bunnyboy]

Pretty much the only guys I'm attracted to are "femboys." never been attracted to muscles or too much body hair and they have little to none of those two things.

 

[summoner]

I'm vers and have two sexual ideal types...

1. If I'm topping - effeminate, young, petite, girly, very slim, smooth, twinky bottoms. No interest at all in how hung they are.

2. If I'm bottoming then it's the opposite to above. Masc, tall, muscle alpha tops. Big dicks.

Dating wise, I'm a lot more open minded because other things come into play and I accept that I am a mix of the above so should expect it in others also. But seeing a very femme boy with a masculine alpha is the HOTTEST thing in the world to me. If I see it in the street or a bar I just get really turned on.

In the big UK cities I'm noticing guys be more open about actively seeking fem. It's often bi men or men that are looking for trans but say in their profile "or femme". I sort of get why if you're into trans you'd also like femme boys.

Since the beginning of time gay men have idolised femininity in men. Look at the Greeks. I think it's always been there, it's just might not have been socially acceptable. I feel like a lot of the gay rights movement focused on pushing a concept of "normal" gay men because that was the least offensive to straight people. Hopefully that is changing.

I'm actually the opposite LOL
I like it when the "perceived roles" are reversed. It's such a turn on for me if someone who is more fem than me tops me or I top a more masc dude! Somehow the other version is a bit predictable in my head

 

[Gaius89]

For some reason i cant get myself to find manly men attractive in comparison to highly feminine people, I think i'm more attracted to femininity in general without caring about genitals at all.

 

[Vertigo1814]

A close gay friend told me (drunk) last night he was only attracted to femme and had also seeking out TS. It was sad how much shame he felt about it.

 

[hypolimnas]

I like variety. Guys are attractive to me if they are relaxed in their own skin, genuine, interesting and fun. My friends are are a crazy mixture from butch to sweet and cute (it's my own invented scale lol). All of them are enthusiastic bottoms. I'm not put off by anything as much as poor hygiene, too much talking, or general lack of manners/respect.

 

[keenobserver]

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The thread made me think a bit. As Thoreau said, "The examined life is no picnic." Your observations about gay men in general fit me pretty well when I was young and finding my was sexually in the gay community at that time. I am masculine, fit and active and was attracted to icon masculine guys - big guys, strong guys, guys who were a little to a lot rough. More feminine guys made me cringe. I did not find them attractive, was offended when they hit on me and did not want to be seen with them. I was a total shit on most every level.

Early on I got lucky. I met a guy in a bath house (during the early 70's) who was very fem and made a pass n my direction. When I rejected him he got really angry and stood up for himself, aggressively and laid me out verbally about how people like me were as bad as oppressive straights in causing problems for gay people. The reactions that he was getting from people like me were reflecting internal self hate and bigotry that in our minds justified a lot of the oppression that gay people faced. He went on for a while. It made me think, and I apologized to him. It also made me seem him as powerful in a way I had not imagined - and it was turning me on. We did not hook up that night - but we did hook up later (same bath house, different day lol). We had a great time and were steady fuck buddies for a few years. More importantly it made me more open to others, regardless of their level of butch-ness, and to a degree their level of fitness.

I guess you could say I evolved, and it should not have taken an angry confrontation to make me evolve, but in the community then, and still today coming to terms with gay sexuality is often a do it yourself affair. You sometime blunder along and get locked into bad beliefs and biases. Not every one is a good fit for every one else, but being open to seeing the whole person that foes with the fem façade or the butch flannels (I can't believe I ever wore that) makes for a better, more rounded life. Sometimes we need to be challenged a bit to see the great possibilities in front of us.

 

[Marcum]

effeminate guys are for me a big turn on

 

[Dave NoCal]

I'm kind of low profile and feel conspicuous and vulnerable with flamboyant people. It probably goes back to my childhood growing up on a continent where almost everyone had brown skin and black hair and I was white with blond hair and blue eyes. People would literally cross the street to come over and look at me.
Sexually, I tend to be most attracted to men who are boyish as in not to tall, not to big, not too hairy, cute, and easily passable out in public,

 

[Marcum]

I'm kind of low profile and feel conspicuous and vulnerable with flamboyant people. It probably goes back to my childhood growing up on a continent where almost everyone had brown skin and black hair and I was white with blond hair and blue eyes. People would literally cross the street to come over and look at me.
Sexually, I tend to be most attracted to men who are boyish as in not to tall, not to big, not too hairy, cute, and easily passable out in public,

hi Dave No Cal, I like your description and analysis

 

[Beanie]

I just think that everyone is different if you are mascualine or feminine regardless of gender is is natural to you and you cannot help it. There will always be people who hate you and love you and everywhere in between for what and who you are, easiest thing is to accept that and move on.

I also disagree with the assumption that gay men are exclusively into “masc only” no this no that no the other, for every one of them there is an opposite guy. Have you every thought OP that the guys in these dating sites that are that picky and close minded are so insecure and find it so hard to find a partner that that’s why they are so prevalent on these sites? @jjsjr

 

[erpap]

Met a very hot guy one night, he was effeminate in his speech but let me tell you in bed he was so different! Not very attracted to effeminate men. Like another poster said I like a Manchester to be a man.