... He is very fun to hang out with and he's funny and he's easy to talk to. He doesn't burn bridges with people he's been involved with so there's very little bad blood between himself and other people. I suspect that the most important factor is how social he is and how much he parties, which brings him into proximity with more women who are attracted to him. He has more friends than almost anyone I know and he attends a lot of parties where there is a lot of alcohol, which probably makes it a lot easier.
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Anyway, I doubt anyone will read this entire post because of it's length and the meandering nature, but it's been fun remembering things I had forgotten.
I read your entire post, not because of it's length - that would hardly be an indicator of its inherent quality :wink:, but because it was intelligent and impressive in its coherency and expressive ability - an eloquently loquacious mirroring, if you will, of the more useful selection criteria when one is selecting a long term partner.
And I think the stuff about "he's funny, easy to talk to, not burning bridges etc.." above hits the nail on the head as to why he's so great with women.
Everybody loves to be around someone like this as you feel valued by them, they're respectful in their behaviour. So that's gonna work well towards relationships.
And how many women have you heard say "I want him to make me laugh?" (Aside - personally, I find this a bit of a funny one, it starts minor alarm bells ringing! Girl, you gotta be in your joy already, rather than relying on some man to bring it to you! But of course, the ability to make another laugh is a great quality - I just prefer when both have it). A sense of humour and lightheartedness is, I think, essential in order to be in a long term relationship, along with a balanced perspective on life and relationships, being open to change. Ok I'm rambling now!
And to
ilyanassa :
You want to find out how difficult your search will be for
a man who is decently attractive, fit, super smart, and has a biggish cock , along with other decent personality qualities of course, but
"Most of the men I've met who are decently attractive and fit strike me as womanizing douchebags."
Maybe your assessment of them is incorrect? They may strike you as douchebags, but it would take some time to get to know them more to see if they actually ARE douchebags.. and you could do this without being sexual with them at first, if you wanted. Explore whether your impression is correct and holds up to greater scrutiny against reality.
And I've found that what unfolds in an intimate relationship with someone can be surprisingly different from how they appear at first in a socialising environment of any kind, so it can be difficult to draw conclusions about one's ability to be intimate and in relationship from socialised interactions. I'm continually surprised by that myself.
Remember, you are really looking for one man at any one time, so knowing the supposed statistical likelihood of the success of your quest doesn't really help much. Although it may appear to be a statistical chance - like, 30% of them will turn out to be decent in a general population spread, say (makey-uppy numbers here of course, to illustrate only), that does not mean 3 in every 10 guys you meet who fit your criteria will be genuine. Who you meet is also influenced by many things - where you live, your social circles, interests, free time available, etc, and also where you are at personally in your life.. possibly the type of guys you want to meet are not currently coming into your orbit because of a belief that you may be holding onto subconsciously.. only you will know.
And I reiterate my belief that correlating a guy's cock size with his personality is about as useful as correlating the number of freckles one has with average yearly income one earns: you could do the research for both for the entire USA, and of course you'd get a number, but it would represent nothing of any significance!
How can I work this into my research on fly evolutionary development so that I can get this study funded?
Good luck with that one! (Fascinating piece of information, by the way!)