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So in another thread, I told the story of when I had a summer fling with my aunt's (then) bi-curious husband before I went to college. She never knew and I've (mostly) successfully avoided seeing them for over a decade now, talking to my aunt as much as anyone talks to their elderly aunt, but never having spoken to her husband again. He found me on social media this morning and sent me the following message:
"Hey Brian!
I know this message may come as a shock to you, but in case you need a memory refresher, this is _______, _______'s ex-husband. Yes, I'm saying ex-husband. Your aunt and I separated about 2 years ago and the divorce became final in December of 2019.
Listen, I know how you must feel getting a message from me after several years and PLEASE don't feel the need to respond if there's ill feelings towards me, but I would be remiss if I didn't reach out to you.
I apologize for bring this up if this is offensive or triggering to you, but I wanted to thank you for making me realize who and what I really am. I spent my life hiding my true sexuality in the closet and the connection we had when you stayed with us has resounded with me even to this day.
I couldn't live a repressed life anymore. It made me unhappy and that toxicity poured over onto your aunt, which led to our parting. In the time we've been separated and ultimately divorced, I have been exploring and trying to really understand and accept my sexual and emotional freedom. It has its ups and downs, but ultimately I am happier than I have been and your aunt and I have stayed in contact and she is happier as well.
I now live in Los Angeles and I heard you live in Las Vegas now, which I frequent with friends for an escape from work. If this is totally out of line, I UNDERSTAND, but I would love to meet up for a drink or dinner (my treat) to catch up.
I really hope to hear back from you and I hope the years have been as good to you as they have to me."
So, idk what to do here. I haven't responded yet. I don't regret the ACT itself, but I regret that he was my aunt's husband. I think about him too and tbqh, if we meet up, we're probably going to have sex. Is this STILL as fucked up as it was when they were married and I was a dumb (legal) teenager?
"Hey Brian!
I know this message may come as a shock to you, but in case you need a memory refresher, this is _______, _______'s ex-husband. Yes, I'm saying ex-husband. Your aunt and I separated about 2 years ago and the divorce became final in December of 2019.
Listen, I know how you must feel getting a message from me after several years and PLEASE don't feel the need to respond if there's ill feelings towards me, but I would be remiss if I didn't reach out to you.
I apologize for bring this up if this is offensive or triggering to you, but I wanted to thank you for making me realize who and what I really am. I spent my life hiding my true sexuality in the closet and the connection we had when you stayed with us has resounded with me even to this day.
I couldn't live a repressed life anymore. It made me unhappy and that toxicity poured over onto your aunt, which led to our parting. In the time we've been separated and ultimately divorced, I have been exploring and trying to really understand and accept my sexual and emotional freedom. It has its ups and downs, but ultimately I am happier than I have been and your aunt and I have stayed in contact and she is happier as well.
I now live in Los Angeles and I heard you live in Las Vegas now, which I frequent with friends for an escape from work. If this is totally out of line, I UNDERSTAND, but I would love to meet up for a drink or dinner (my treat) to catch up.
I really hope to hear back from you and I hope the years have been as good to you as they have to me."
So, idk what to do here. I haven't responded yet. I don't regret the ACT itself, but I regret that he was my aunt's husband. I think about him too and tbqh, if we meet up, we're probably going to have sex. Is this STILL as fucked up as it was when they were married and I was a dumb (legal) teenager?