when I said warm hug it was intended in a figurative way.. btw "someone who doesn't belong to a social group" is a kinda racist statement to in my opinion...
Oh dear god, I don't know if I can be bothered explaining this... But I will.
Imagine, MysticWolf, that you're at a bar with your friends. You are all enjoying spending time together. Imagine then that a stranger, a person who is not known to you, a person with EXACTLY THE SAME coloured skin, hair and eyes as you, someone who is so similar-looking to you that you could be brothers, came up to you and grabbed your genitals.
Would you laugh and give him a "warm hug"?
Or would you tell him to fuck off and perhaps start a fight?
That's what I meant by stranger.
And please don't tell me what racism is. That's something as a white man you will never understand in the way that I do.