Average Guy with Wife who had Large BF

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  1. Revanchist

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    Hi everyone.

    I'm a straight, married 28 year old of what I -think- are average proportions (about 5.5 length and 5 around). I found the site when someone linked to it on a news forum I read as related to an article on a documentary, heh.

    So, what am I doing here since I obviously don't fall into the category of the first two letters of the forum?

    Well I've always been a little hung up on and fascinated by the idea due to my wife. Back when we first started dating in college and just after we first had sex (I was a virgin and we had dated for about two months before hand) we ended up breaking up for about a month. During that time she dated a guy friend who was turned out to be very well endowed (about 8 length and a bit of 6 around apparently) and she started sleeping with him almost immediately and right up until the time we were officially back together, with a bit of overlap before she completely broke it off with him.

    After we were back together for a while, she admitted all this to me, and then later told me all the details of the stuff they did together (he happened to be very good in bed in addition to the size thing), so I was almost shocked and admittedly kind of turned on picturing my girlfriend who I had always thought of as fairly innocent having engaged in some wild sex with a pornstar sized guy (one she is still friends with to this day almost 8 years later). Just the fact that she could take something that size alone amazed me, but she proved it when we ended up getting her a realistic toy that size and she took it like a pro, heh.

    For the record, I have no problem pleasing my wife (she is multi orgasmic), but I have always kinda felt like second best compared to the other guy, especially when we hang around him in her group of friends.

    So based on that, I'm sorta here to explore the topic a little further. :)
     
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    you americans seem to have so any sexual partners before you marry then worry about who preceded you, for fuck sake. if the weoman you married had previous experiences i bet you did too. when you marry you have to accept the past and move on together or otherwise just fuck off and let everyone get on with their lives. one thing fore sure is that you are here for a good time not a long time
     
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    Revanchist, I'm in the same boat as you - I'm average and my wife's previous BF was enormous. But I never let that bother me. My wife chose me and we had great sex. I never feel inferior or appologize about my size. I've got what I've got and that's it.

    After we went seperate ways I had many gf's. If a girl is a size queen she must find someone else, I'm not for her. But that's her problem, not mine.
     
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    Haha, just tell her you screwed a chick with way better tits than her while you guys were broken up; women are way more insecure about their bodies than guys are and you'll have the upper hand...
     
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    She didn't tell me about the ex to hurt my feelings, so why would I do it to her? I wanted to hear the details.

    She's the only girl I've slept with, so that won't work (though I did have a chance to fuck a really hot girl when we were broken up, but didn't cause I thought we'd be back together soon and didn't know she was seeing anyone else).

    She happens to be gorgeous and isn't very insecure about her body. :)
     
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    haha, fair enough man. though for the record the most attractive people are usually the most hung up about their looks. i know i am ;)
     
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    I guess your right. She isn't day to day insecure but if someone made a comment bout something, she might get hung up on it, but I love my wife and wouldn't want to do that to her just cause she had a bf bigger than me, lol.

    In a way I'm sorta happy for her that she got to have that experience and enjoyed it.
     
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    This thread could turn into something interesting, well, my opinion is same as Tiggerpoo but, as you state, size alone is not what makes the difference, "maybe" was also the "(he happened to be very good in bed in addition to the size thing)" to make some difference. A girl I've been with had something like 15 previous experiences before me, she told me about a "big one" she was sleeping with but she admitted that only two guys made her climax, me and another one who was smaller than me...
    Important for a woman is to get attenction from the partner, than, if like Tiggerpoo says, she is a size queen then she better looks elsewhere.
     
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    Ahh, but what to do when you're already married to the girl, very much in love with her, and she still gets turned on by the idea of a larger guy or talking about the well endowed ex? :)
     
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    She sounds like a huge slut. I bet she's given you herpes
     
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    trolls. blah blah blah.

    as for the op, i think what you're trying to get at here is that you have no real issues in your marriage, sexually, and that this concept (and reality) of her former bf having a big one is something that, as it were, turns you on. hey, no worries, the one thing i've found on this site as well as others is that the fantasy of a man getting turned on by his wife/girlfriend enjoying other men is REALLY common, shared by many of us, myself included. i also think, a lot of the time, for those of us who have this as one of our many sexual fantasies, we're in great relationships and i wonder if its a healthy, natural outgrowth of a successful partnership, partly that because you love this person so much you REALLY love seeing them happy and enjoying themselves and that can easily extend to the bedroom where its anything goes to get them off. including thinking of or experiencing other lovers with other traits and qualities

    but that's just me. your wife sounds fantastic, i'd like to meet her :tongue:
     
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    if you open your mouth really wide to eat a big cake, it doesn't mean you can't suck from a straw too later...vaginas are like that too....and i think in your original post you said it was you who was getting turned on by asking your wife to talk about her previous lover...sounds like a very stupid thing to do...accept the fact that she chose YOU

    ...most people when they fall in love actually consider more that body part dimensions when making their choice...and we should all know that 90% of our sexual pleasure happens in our heads not our dicks and pussies....for those of you who don't understand this, it might be worth experimenting a little....be happy you love her and she agreed to be your wife....isn't that how love and life and happiness are supposed to pan out?
     
  13. 4skinfetish

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    my wife and i are both into big cocks. she has quite a few big dicked boyfriends. she fucks this one dude on her volleyball team who has a huge cock. whenever she's been with him, even five or six hours before, her pussy is so stretched out i can hardly touch the sides! i find it really exciting to stick my dick in after he's been in there. he's straight, and not into sharing, and won't let her take pictures of his cock, but we found a way around that. i always go with her to the games, and i found a toilet stall in their home gym that gives me a perfect view of the showers where i can watch kenny shower off after the game. he has a thick nine inches soft. i love to watch him soap up that big floppy cock , and rinse it off! she thinks it's funny that i go down after the game and jack off while staring at her boyfriends big cock. all women are size queens, no matter what they say. my wife and i have found a way to make it work for us. maybe you and your partner can,too.
     
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    Are you sure? I know I'm new here, but that seems rather unlikely. :)
     
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    bullshit. complete and utter bullshit
     
  16. Revanchist

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    Its not entirely like that. Here is the course of events:

    I found out after we had been back together for a while that they went out and had sex. We didn't talk about the details for a while but I was always curious. Back then the fact that they had sex was fairly hurtful and made me jealous, not a turn on.

    We randomly started talking about our first crushes in high school, then first sexual experiences etc., and we BOTH got really turned on by telling and hearing each others stories. We didn't do it all the time or anything, but now and then we'd start "talking" in bed. I wasn't as experienced as her so it didn't take me long to run out of stories, but she'd get turned on reliving hers and I liked hearing them, and eventually that ex-bf finally came up and the turn on present from hearing the other stories was already ingrained by that point.

    She was rather reluctant at first to get ultra detailed about him, so she didn't just blurt it out that he had a big dick or anything, but she'd hint around about it. Like she said the first time they had sex she was drunk and very horny, they had just gone down on each other and were all wet, plus he had her spread eagle with one leg over his shoulder, then described that he still had to take his time working it into her despite them not use a condom (meanwhile this was within a week of us first having sex and contrasted by me being able to slip right in easily in one thrust).

    So I suspected things but didn't ask. Then our mutual little sister from frat.sorority life ended up meeting him randomly and hooking up with him (she didn't even know my gf had dated him and thought they were just friends) then she was over my place with the two of us talking to my wife about him and started describing the fact that he had a huge cock and was great in bed (she was a bit of a wild nutcase and would routinely just say whatever came out of her mouth). I was a little shocked and my wife got kinda flushed, and that night I asked her about it and she admitted to me, then started giving more of the details, and we both really got into it surprisingly. If she had told me this at first when we got back together, without having gone through the whole course of this and waited a while, it probably would not have turned me on, heh.

    As our relationship went on, eventually we got a sex toy, normal sized, and once comfortable with that we got more kinky and got another one that was more realistic (cyberskin) and that she said was the same size as the ex when we were browsing them (though we didn't go there planning to get one based on him or anything).

    Just since it sort of relates to the mutual fantasy, eventually we heard about this sorority girl she knew that when drunk bragged about taking three guys at the same time. Very surprisingly when we had sex a day or two later she got me all wet then started working me into her anally (though we had done anal before it usually wasn't at her request). Next thing I knew she had pulled the bf-sized toy out from under the pillow and some lube, got it wet and started working that in in the front. Seeing her do it was a -completely- mind blowing experience, probably the hottest thing I've ever seen.

    After some fantastic sex, I asked her what brought that on and she admitted to getting turned on by the story of her sorority sister with the three guys, and that she kinda had a two guy fantasy (and we've done the DP thing repeatedly since then). She has ever asked to fulfill her fantasy to date, but when we do watch porn together, the MFM scenes are always her favorite and she'll talk about how hot it is, how much sexual talent the girl doing it has etc.

    So its not like I set out from the get go on this course or was always this way. I used to be very jealous and one of the things that attracted me to her in the first place was that she seemed or acted kind of innocent, heh.

    No, we're both clean, but thanks for the concern. After she had been with the ex-bf and later told me about things, we did take her to get tested though since some of the sex they had was unprotected, but no problems there, and none in the 8 years since.

    She has been with plenty more than me, hence why she had more stories to tell, and while she has done a lot of kinky stuff with other guys and even had some one night stand type hook ups (in college she oddly had her own apartment alone as she enrolled late and didn't know anyone going there, so she had alot of freedom and didn't have to keep up appearances for any roommates). Still, I wouldn't call her a "slut" though I don't think. If most people were to think of her as one, it would probably be for the two one night stands she had (though she says both times they pretty much did everything BUT sex), and for the two weeks she was sleeping with me and her ex-bf at the same time when we didn't state we were "officially" back together.
     
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    She is amazing, thanks. :)

    And most guys do enjoy meeting her, lol, and tend to be disappointed about the fact she is married and taken (though it definitely doesn't stop all of them from trying to hit on her anyways)
     
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