Average Sized Guys In The Swinger Lifestyle

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I was talking recently with friends who told me their neighbors had confided that they were swingers. My friends remarked on how buff the swingers looked. I thought that made sense because of wanting to be attractive. Nothing was said about penis size. However, I began to wonder what other attributes are attractive in swinging. I read somewhere years ago that many couples were into swinging because the wife wanted to experience big dicks. I know some well-hung members here talk about swinging.

For those in the lifestyle, where do average size guys fit in? Are they there because the wife is wanting the big dick? Are they also active participants? Do they satisfy the women who are also into the lifestyle? I am not contemplating doing it, just curious is all and wanting some insight from actual swingers.
 

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My wife and i have been in the lifestyle for about ten years now. Many of the guys at our partys are average size (around six inches). Some wives are there to experience a larger cock but many including my wife and i are there to experience sex with different people and to a lesser extent some friendships. Its much less about cock size and more abour personality and attitude..at least for us. Take last night for an example..theres a woman there that i've played with before..her husband was otherwise occupied at the time so i asked if she would like to play. Shes average looking, 48y.o.a. and about 130#. She has an outstanding attitude about sex and is a downright pleasure to be with. Im a little on the big side of average (7x6) but for most of us its all about attitude. Hope that helps.
 

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I"m a single guy and been involved in the lifestyle for a while. I'm on the small side. As stated, it is more about attitude, openness, relaxing around strangers naked, etc. If a swinging couple is only looking for size, they will say so in their profile. Most are looking for people they can be themselves around.
 
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I"m a single guy and been involved in the lifestyle for a while. I'm on the small side. As stated, it is more about attitude, openness, relaxing around strangers naked, etc. If a swinging couple is only looking for size, they will say so in their profile. Most are looking for people they can be themselves around.

How does a single guy gets involved in swinging. I thought this particular scene is notoriously not favouring single males.
 

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How does a single guy gets involved in swinging. I thought this particular scene is notoriously not favouring single males.

Most have no interest in single men, you are right. There are a few that want to MFM, and some men enjoy watching their woman with another guy (very few, I will admit)-- I used to be on CL and look for a woman wanting erotic massage by two men (me and my buddy)-- and you would be surprised how many men contacted me to massage their wife while they watch. The woman were on board with it also.
 

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At our partys we usually only alow a single man IF he is sponsored by a known couple. Single women its the same deal. I remember a few years ago we went to this couples house party. They had a big two story with a pool and all. We didnt realize at first that it wasn't a couples only party. We were wondering where all these single guys were coming from. Most were getting rude and obnoxius. Come to find out the couple running it liked it that way because they charged more at the door for single guys. We left early and never went back. If you are a single guy wanting to be in the lifestyle you better say so in your profile. There are couples looking for a guy for a threesome from time to time. But usually just going to a house party doesn't happen often.
 
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I have been always intrigued and fascinated by the concept but mostly the group of people opening up and being involved in sensual acts - aspect of it rather than having a threesome. I understand it’s not always the ‘Eyes wide shut’ but I would love to experience one even if not as an active participant.
 

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My wife and i have been in the lifestyle for about ten years now. Many of the guys at our partys are average size (around six inches). Some wives are there to experience a larger cock but many including my wife and i are there to experience sex with different people and to a lesser extent some friendships. Its much less about cock size and more abour personality and attitude..at least for us. Take last night for an example..theres a woman there that i've played with before..her husband was otherwise occupied at the time so i asked if she would like to play. Shes average looking, 48y.o.a. and about 130#. She has an outstanding attitude about sex and is a downright pleasure to be with. Im a little on the big side of average (7x6) but for most of us its all about attitude. Hope that helps.
generally, how do you handle std risk? real question here. thx
 

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generally, how do you handle std risk? real question here. thx

I know you didn't ask me directly...but I want to say that there is always risk in any situation but I personally will only have intercourse with a condom. That is a deal breaker for me. No bareback. Now, I will both give and receive oral because there is less (but still risk) with those activities. Can't hurt to get full blood work from time to time too, so you have a base line. I've never had a problem.
 

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generally, how do you handle std risk? real question here. thx
Well the way we handle it is there is a bowl of condoms available for anyone to use. Our core group all know each other and we all get tested once a year. If its a new person..male or female..most of us will use a condom. However since singles only come in through current members they are usually gtg. If they have proof of a recent screening that was clear then it is left to each individual whether to use protection or not. Personally im notba big fan of condoms nor is my wife or most of the people we play with. But if you have an unknown its like a safety net.
 

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Depends on the type of swing really, my wife and myself have been involved for years me way before I met her. These days especially our meets tend to be solely about couples coming to us to experience my dick, the cuck scene has exploded in recent years and we find ourselves doing more and more of that, my wife has developed into an awesome dominatrix to keep those cucks in like.
 

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There's different kinds of parties, most swing parties are mostly couples maybe with very few single people and are about enjoying new experiences with someone different, most husbands are average, but there are all sizes. This doesn't preclude cuckolding, but it's not as common.

There are also parties geared toward the cuck lifestyle.

There's one group like Mike Hung where 12-15 couples get together and there are 3 or 4 larger then average husbands who will satisfy several wives during the night, some one on one, some 2 wives threesome. Their wives are pretty good at teasing and/or dominating us men watching their husbands satisfy our wives.

There's another group more of a bull party where the husbands dress casually, the wives are in skimpy outfits or lingerie, and after an hour or so of socializing, young fit better hung single men show up and start mingling usually they are soon in underwear or naked. Some will take a couple to a private room and let the husband watch, there's also open areas where several single men and wives are together in the center of the room with the husbands sitting along the edge of the room watching.
 

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people come in all shapes and sizes in the swinging community. it's really all in your own personal tastes. if you are in a good circle then there should be no pressure in offering or asking for what you want, plus there is no shame if you get turned down or not willing to give. i've been in both situations and it's part of the deal. check your emotions and ego at the door on your way in.

swinging isn't for everyone and swinging is for everyone... everyone has their own reasons but they're usually all there to meet up with nice people who can fuck well in bed regardless of dick size. trust me when i say that your dick size is the last thing that will matter when you enter the swingers lifestyle.
 

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A good friend of mine and his long time gf actually met and started dating so they could go to swingers clubs. He's not very big, neither one of them are in fantastic shape or are overly attractive. From what they tell me, it's more about a place of accepting people for who they are, more about positivity.
 
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There's different kinds of parties, most swing parties are mostly couples maybe with very few single people and are about enjoying new experiences with someone different, most husbands are average, but there are all sizes. This doesn't preclude cuckolding, but it's not as common.

There are also parties geared toward the cuck lifestyle.

There's one group like Mike Hung where 12-15 couples get together and there are 3 or 4 larger then average husbands who will satisfy several wives during the night, some one on one, some 2 wives threesome. Their wives are pretty good at teasing and/or dominating us men watching their husbands satisfy our wives.

There's another group more of a bull party where the husbands dress casually, the wives are in skimpy outfits or lingerie, and after an hour or so of socializing, young fit better hung single men show up and start mingling usually they are soon in underwear or naked. Some will take a couple to a private room and let the husband watch, there's also open areas where several single men and wives are together in the center of the room with the husbands sitting along the edge of the room watching.
Wow I’d love to be there