I've been lurking in these forums for several years, but now I decided I could use some advice. I've started going out with my boyfriend about a year ago. We love each other and get along quite well, despite our differences. There is one big problem, though: our sex life is awful.
I guess this part requires a bit of background: I've never been a very sexually-outgoing person and my sexual experience is a bit limited compared to some other gay guys my age (25). I am a total bottom, but I almost never enjoyed it in the past. In fact, I can only recall two guys with whom I really enjoyed getting fucked, and my BF is not one of them. He is versatile with a tendency towards bottoming, and that's something I just cannot give him. He also doesn't enjoy fucking me very much, saying I'm not tight enough (that's a comment I've already heard in the past).
As you can imagine, both of us are NOT satisfied with our sex life. We've talked about sleeping with other people, both together and separately, but I'm not sure whether it would help our relationship or draw us further apart. On the other hand, I think both of us feel that something has to be done. I feel that I deserve a satisfying sex life, not just endless fantasies and lusting. He deserves more, too, especially since he's a bit more sexual than I am.
I'd love to get some advice, hear how other people dealt with such a situation in the past, etc. I honestly have no idea how to overcome this obstacle.
I guess this part requires a bit of background: I've never been a very sexually-outgoing person and my sexual experience is a bit limited compared to some other gay guys my age (25). I am a total bottom, but I almost never enjoyed it in the past. In fact, I can only recall two guys with whom I really enjoyed getting fucked, and my BF is not one of them. He is versatile with a tendency towards bottoming, and that's something I just cannot give him. He also doesn't enjoy fucking me very much, saying I'm not tight enough (that's a comment I've already heard in the past).
As you can imagine, both of us are NOT satisfied with our sex life. We've talked about sleeping with other people, both together and separately, but I'm not sure whether it would help our relationship or draw us further apart. On the other hand, I think both of us feel that something has to be done. I feel that I deserve a satisfying sex life, not just endless fantasies and lusting. He deserves more, too, especially since he's a bit more sexual than I am.
I'd love to get some advice, hear how other people dealt with such a situation in the past, etc. I honestly have no idea how to overcome this obstacle.